Is God Testing My Heart?

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agirlandherguitar

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Ever ask yourself that question? I guess if you are then more often than not it's probably true.

There are some very strange things happening in my life right now. Things that I thought I was so certain of before, things that I thought were "from God" in some form or fashion have been flipped upside down. I realize that when we are in the moment of something and we say something is "from God" doesn't mean that things will pan out the way we envision them. Sometimes the complete opposite happens, and yes, it can still be "from God".

I am being cryptic. Essentially what I am experiencing is a dry spell when it comes to good Christian men. When I develop feelings for one and suspect the feelings are mutual suddenly they are dating somebody else. On the other side the Christian men who are interested in me I feel nothing for (romantically anyways, not that I don't care for them since they are friends too). The one man I've grown to care for is not a Christian and he has expressed his romantic feelings for me. It's confusing because I want that Christian guy in my life but there never seems to be mutual interest on both sides.

This is what I mean that I feel that God is testing my heart, like he's preparing me for something and I have no clue what it is. Honestly, I am scared as to what it could be, but more scared of not obeying him.

I have few people who I can comfortably confide in, which is why I am posting this. I need prayer for patience and guidance and for my heart to soften to the idea of falling in love, even if that means I might get hurt. I would rather get hurt than be in limbo forever.
 
cinder

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Yes this is cryptic. And yes it is tough and confusing when you meet a great non-Christian guy (or even one that goes to church and is a lot of fun but doesn't really follow or obey God). It's also frustrating and difficult when there is one sided interest between you and your guy friend.

Yes I think your commitment is being tested. It's called temptation and we all face it. It doesn't mean that God is necessarily actively doing it, nor does it mean that your heart is somehow wrong and needing to be set right or exposed.

One thing that might help is to abandon this idea that love is something you fall into and can't control. Love is a choice, and it is something you build and work at. And while I believe in God's guidance, I'm not so sure that it is as fine tuned as you must marry Bill to be in "God's will" so you can't marry Ryan.

Anyway, I do pray that you learn the patience and peace to trust God completely and wait for an awesome Godly man. I also pray that God opens your heart up to people and relationships in general (might need some of that myself as well).
 
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agirlandherguitar

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Thanks Cinder! Words of encouragement and prayer is what I need, and prayer is so powerful.

I think you hit the nail on the head with your last statement, that I need God to open my heart up to people and relationships in general. Jesus does say that the love of most will grow cold but he who stands firm will be saved (Matt 24:12,13). I don't want my love to grow cold and it saddens me greatly when I see it happening in others as well.

I think we can all do with more open hearts and more relationships!
 
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agirlandherguitar said:
Ever ask yourself that question? I guess if you are then more often than not it's probably true.

There are some very strange things happening in my life right now. Things that I thought I was so certain of before, things that I thought were "from God" in some form or fashion have been flipped upside down. I realize that when we are in the moment of something and we say something is "from God" doesn't mean that things will pan out the way we envision them. Sometimes the complete opposite happens, and yes, it can still be "from God".

I am being cryptic. Essentially what I am experiencing is a dry spell when it comes to good Christian men. When I develop feelings for one and suspect the feelings are mutual suddenly they are dating somebody else. On the other side the Christian men who are interested in me I feel nothing for (romantically anyways, not that I don't care for them since they are friends too). The one man I've grown to care for is not a Christian and he has expressed his romantic feelings for me. It's confusing because I want that Christian guy in my life but there never seems to be mutual interest on both sides.

This is what I mean that I feel that God is testing my heart, like he's preparing me for something and I have no clue what it is. Honestly, I am scared as to what it could be, but more scared of not obeying him.

I have few people who I can comfortably confide in, which is why I am posting this. I need prayer for patience and guidance and for my heart to soften to the idea of falling in love, even if that means I might get hurt. I would rather get hurt than be in limbo forever.
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Perhaps God is testing your heart but perhaps its something else too. This man who has shown you romantic feelings is not a Christian. Perhaps if you as well end up feeling the same for him God is going to use you to save him. See God answers a lot of our prayers but a lot of times not in the way we expect them. You want to be in a relationship with a Godly man, perhaps this is God saying bam you've got it but it will be my way not yours.
 
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Blain said:
Perhaps God is testing your heart but perhaps its something else too. This man who has shown you romantic feelings is not a Christian. Perhaps if you as well end up feeling the same for him God is going to use you to save him. See God answers a lot of our prayers but a lot of times not in the way we expect them. You want to be in a relationship with a Godly man, perhaps this is God saying bam you've got it but it will be my way not yours.
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While I'm all for being a light and caring about people and wanting them to come to know the Lord; I do have to say: NEVER NEVER NEVER start a romantic relationship with someone in order to "save them". Very good way to be stressed, compromised, and get your heart broken. I'd also be a bit suspicious of any conversion tied to romance because it's so hard to know if that person really loves Jesus or is just making the effort to get the girl / guy.
 
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cinder said:
While I'm all for being a light and caring about people and wanting them to come to know the Lord; I do have to say: NEVER NEVER NEVER start a romantic relationship with someone in order to "save them". Very good way to be stressed, compromised, and get your heart broken. I'd also be a bit suspicious of any conversion tied to romance because it's so hard to know if that person really loves Jesus or is just making the effort to get the girl / guy.
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Im not saying to get into the relationship because she wants to save him im just saying that if they get together and actually form a love then perhaps its God's way of giving her what she wants.
 
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Well it is very strange because I also prayed really deeply for a Godly man and husband to come into my life. I went into complete specifics about a 'husband'. This man showed up about 4 months later and he was everything I wanted. I was able to see that I could be with him and he said the same. And then, he said he got scared? :/ Then the man bailed (after three months and even after telling me he was totally in love with me). It's like God was showing me that I could love a man, but that the man can also make a choice. He told me that God told him that I have a deeper call on my life than him. I do not really believe this is true or not, but it was enough that he was telling me that he did not want to further the relationship. I still do not understand this completely, but now God has taken away all desires, and I have moved to another country. I think it is less testing, but knowing that the other person can also make a choice. That's just my take on it, and I will pray that you also get clarity. I was so confused at one point, especially after we both confessed love for each other, but one person can make a choice. That is the difficult reality. I'd love to hear more! Thank you for sharing.
 
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OnThisRock

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Blain said:
Perhaps God is testing your heart but perhaps its something else too. This man who has shown you romantic feelings is not a Christian. Perhaps if you as well end up feeling the same for him God is going to use you to save him. See God answers a lot of our prayers but a lot of times not in the way we expect them. You want to be in a relationship with a Godly man, perhaps this is God saying bam you've got it but it will be my way not yours.
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I wanted to add that I believe God did this with the man I mentioned, above. I have stayed single, and did not go further in the relationship, but I think he was watching my relationship with the Lord, more. He said he never met someone like me. So whatever qualities God gave me was to help him know the Lord more. I think sometimes God does let people develop romantic feelings to have them fall in love with HIM. I have seen this a couple of times in my own walk.
 
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