Not single but also not married

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KikoStewart

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I've been dating this guy for 3 years and we recently made the biggest mistake of our lives which was to move into a house together. I knew better than to shack up but I did it aanyway and now its kind of hard to undo it. I do not want to live in sin anymore but idk what to do anymore. I can't kick him out because he doesn't have anywhere else to live and vice versa I don't have any were else to go. What should I do? I just want to live a life that will be pleasing to God and I have no idea how to get out of this mess that I've created.

By the way, this is my first time on this site so hello to everyone.
 
Red_Tory

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What is preventing you from getting married?
 
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Ugly

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Someone is going to have to sacrifice. That simple. If one of you aren't able to make that sacrifice, then you need to question if you should get married since that's what marriage is all about. Sacrifice.
You don't mention him being bothered by this, either. Why not?
 
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Ugly said:
Someone is going to have to sacrifice. That simple. If one of you aren't able to make that sacrifice, then you need to question if you should get married since that's what marriage is all about. Sacrifice.
You don't mention him being bothered by this, either. Why not?
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Adding to Ugly's question - what does your partner feel about this? Is he a believer?

While we can never give you the best advice, we may be able to point you in the right direction if you give us a little more details. Above all, please keep this in prayer.

Welcome to the site! Hope you find it a blessing. :)
 
garet82

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well i think if you both are love each other, why dont you get marry and build new family with God as the foundation of your love?
 
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Ugly

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If they are already making bad choices is encouraging them into marriage really wisest?
And we don't yet know where her boyfriend is spiritually either. So again why encourage marriage?
 
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Hi kiko and welcome! I'm afraid I don't have good news. Sometimes when we make a worldly decision - especially one that's life changing - we put ourselves into situations that don't leave many options. Believe me, I'm all for options. I eat options for breakfast and I truly look for the least damaging way out of my poor choices all the time. In this case, though, it just doesn't sound like either of you are ready for the sanctity of lifelong commitments to each other, though you thought you might be ready for short term worldly relationship. You said that getting out of this arrangement wasn't going to be easy and I perfectly well agree. See - I believe our God is a patient God, but also a God of consequence. He's not going to be the Father that bails me out of jail and though He might understand your plight and through His Love shine His compassion, the hard choice you've got to make and the consequence that follows is still yours to make. I pray you choose wisely Kiko.
 
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KikoStewart said:
I've been dating this guy for 3 years and we recently made the biggest mistake of our lives which was to move into a house together. I knew better than to shack up but I did it aanyway and now its kind of hard to undo it. I do not want to live in sin anymore but idk what to do anymore. I can't kick him out because he doesn't have anywhere else to live and vice versa I don't have any were else to go. What should I do? I just want to live a life that will be pleasing to God and I have no idea how to get out of this mess that I've created.

By the way, this is my first time on this site so hello to everyone.
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There was no mention of love in your post, the ages involved and what led to living together in the first place. If you want a life that is pleasing to God you must place God in the center of our life. If you want to have a happy and successful relationship with this man you must do what is pleasing to God. If there are no children involved and you feel that you made a mistake than you really need to consider breaking off this relationship. He does not have anywhere to go and neither do you but this may be because you both have not thought this out properly. There are always options. Maybe you should elope or maybe you should split up. From what I understand about your situation these are your two choices at this time.

Welcome to CC.
 
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