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Lynx

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Because there are seriously a million details that we REALLY, HONESTLY, TRULY, SERIOUSLY DO NOT CARE ABOUT. We really don't; I don't care WHAT we eat, I just care that we eat! But we know that YOU care, because as soon as we assume you don't care, we end up with THIS conversation:


"I really don't care. Where do YOU want to eat?"
"I don't care either. You pick."
"Okay, Chinese take-out it is."
"Ugh, NOT Chinese take-out, please."


YOU JUST SAID YOU DIDN'T CARE. >_<


Men, on the other hand...when we say we don't care, we really mean it. You know what we DO care about? WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. That's why we ask. That's why we want YOU to pick, when it comes to these things. Because we genuinely do NOT care, and we know that you are lying lying pants-are-frying when you say you don't care either.


(My old roommate said he wanted to open a restaurant called I Don't Care. I told him we should make it a chain with another one across town called Whatever. No more fights about where to eat.)
To quote a well known philosopher... WHY CAN I NOT LIKE THIS MORE THAN ONCE?!
 

JesusLives

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I will ask this question in response: in this experiment... would you say that it's actually easier for a woman do to walk up to seven men and do this? Because, my thinking is you have a better likelihood of seven men actually engaging in a conversation with a random woman. (Oh, she wants to talk. She must be interested.) Whereas, if a man were do to so, seven women could give off seven completely different reactions, most of them of the "who does he think he is?"

I may be wrong, but I'm throwing the question out there.
Well I guess my answer would be as long as you had put on your best friendly face and a true no expectation attitude Would it really matter the response you would get? I mean there is no expectations and the men could very easily have turned me away too. 6 of them just chatted and that was that but that 7th one showed interest and we dated. I did not take anything personally just because 6 of them walked away. This experiment was to help me grow in relationship skills not necessarily that I would have ended up with a date, but lucky for me it did. That is a real confidence booster to an ego that is short of it.
 

Oncefallen

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Men-

Power tools/cars/electronics fascination...?! Why?
I wouldn't say that I have a "fascination" with power tools. I have a handful of them and every one of them was purchased for a specific purpose or project. Sure, I know guys that have a garage full of tools that never get used and I don't understand them. Maybe I'm just a miser but if I don't need it, I don't buy it.

Even with vehicles I'm a bit more logical than some. Although I have my share of "upgrades" that I would love to do to my truck I can't justify them financially.


Why are your hats so sacred?


Hmmmm, I've never had a scared hat. In reality I do have one hat that is special just because it reminds me of the people I was with when I bought it however it is far from sacred.

Some women think it's cute to take something that belongs to their boyfriend...hoodie, t-shirt, etc...but more often than not, I've heard guys say this really annoys them. So, is it annoying, or cute?


Cute

it that allows men to get sooooo focused on games (football games, video games, whatever...)? It's like some of y'all have a switch in your brains that shuts everything else off for the duration of said game.
Think about what men used to do prior to modern occupations. We hunted, we herded cattle, we were designed to pay close attention to a single task whereas women were designed to multi-task.

Men- why won't you see a Dr if you have medical concern or avoid a regular physical?
I can't speak for other guys, but for me it's purely a financial thing. I have a boatload of problem teeth but don't get them fixed, I had cancer as a kid and should have a big time physical due to the potential of health issues related to the treatment but my line of work comes without medical/dental insurance and the cost of either the medical care or the insurance is beyond my means (the Affordable Care Act like most US govt programs helps the destitute but leaves the lower end of the middle class hanging).
 
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I actually prefer guys to be opinionated :rolleyes: Sometimes it just comes across as lazy to think or initiate something.... To me, it says that the guy is probably not interested and can't make decisions. To be honest, it's a red flag for me.
With my ex, Not having an opinion was often the only safe choice. In the three years since she left, I have come to be comfortably vocal about how I feel about things. I honestly believe that this confidence in expressing my opinion, and the confidence I have come to own in Holding To my opinions when healthy (instead of giving them up for the sake of safety) is part of what has made me more attractive as a man.
 
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I agree...

Another question:

When guys say sorry, do they even know what they are actually apologising for in the first place? It seems like every time I got an apology, I was the one who had to explain why he was sorry cause he had no clue:rolleyes:

And I have got the excuse of: "Oh, I'm a MAN baby, what do you expect" :confused:
I make my kids apologize in the following format:
express regret
state what wrong they have done
how they intend to handle the situation in the future
express empathy and possibly ask what amends they can make or offer amends
express regret

Someday they will thank me for being this kind of dad. Maybe when they're 50.
 

Rachel20

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Dear Men,


How do you view polygamy?

Men in the OT and their multiple women were seemingly acceptable back then. Except in the NT, spiritual leadership has been associated with husband of one wife. Also, the roles of husband and wife have been singular with respect to one another.

Monogamy seems to be God’s plan, however the Bible doesn’t condemn polygamy anywhere. In modern times, most countries have restrictions on this but, just asking as this idea keeps floating around about men being polygamous. So men, are you comfortable with this idea?

If polygamy was legal, would you take multiple wives?
 
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Dear Men,


How do you view polygamy?

Men in the OT and their multiple women were seemingly acceptable back then. Except in the NT, spiritual leadership has been associated with husband of one wife. Also, the roles of husband and wife have been singular with respect to one another.

Monogamy seems to be God’s plan, however the Bible doesn’t condemn polygamy anywhere. In modern times, most countries have restrictions on this but, just asking as this idea keeps floating around about men being polygamous. So men, are you comfortable with this idea?

If polygamy was legal, would you take multiple wives?
As a divorced man, let me be the first to say that I would **Never** have multiple wives. I may have a second wife some day, but one at a time, and if it doesn't work out a second time, I'll buy myself that vehicle salvage yard I've dreamed of owning, a dog with one blue eye, and start wearing a lot of overalls and spitting on the floor. That is to say, the first one wasn't my fault, but if I've not learned enough to make it work a second time, then there is something wrong that I am doing and I should not repeat the process.
 

ChandlerFan

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Dear Men,


How do you view polygamy?

Men in the OT and their multiple women were seemingly acceptable back then. Except in the NT, spiritual leadership has been associated with husband of one wife. Also, the roles of husband and wife have been singular with respect to one another.

Monogamy seems to be God’s plan, however the Bible doesn’t condemn polygamy anywhere. In modern times, most countries have restrictions on this but, just asking as this idea keeps floating around about men being polygamous. So men, are you comfortable with this idea?

If polygamy was legal, would you take multiple wives?
Dear Rachel,
I think it's really significant that God created man in the Garden of Eden and gave him one woman. While the Bible doesn't explicitly condemn polygamy, it's interesting to consider that at times where the OT talks about polygamy being practiced, things don't go so well with that (Abraham & Sarah anyone?). Also, I believe that the Bible calls men to be one-woman men, so with all of those things said, no I would not take multiple wives if it were legal. It's hard enough finding one lol. But in all seriousness, I believe that committed, lifelong, heterosexual monogamy was God's plan for romance in His creation.
 
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Good!

From a man to ladies:

Whenever you´ve said you love your chosen one, please, be sure you have chosen him from YOUR heart and not from your convenience.

At certain age is not easy to change mates as we have changed shoes.


Times is passsing goodbye!
I´m aware of this (Jer. 17:9) but I´m also aware of several brokenhearted people who might be singing "I still love you" (Kiss, MTV unplugged) or "Send her my love" (Journey).

It isn´t bad to intercede for those who knew it like Ezekiel (Ezk 24:16-18) whose love was removed and I want to appeal to those whose love was betrayed.

I don´t know what life is meant for, I lived it in vain, I´ve loved in vain, and keeping it to walk gropingly, at one´s feelings, I find it awful.

Something is wrong! And it´s not only me following foggy hints anywhere. :eek:
 
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Dear Men,


How do you view polygamy?

Men in the OT and their multiple women were seemingly acceptable back then. Except in the NT, spiritual leadership has been associated with husband of one wife. Also, the roles of husband and wife have been singular with respect to one another.

Monogamy seems to be God’s plan, however the Bible doesn’t condemn polygamy anywhere. In modern times, most countries have restrictions on this but, just asking as this idea keeps floating around about men being polygamous. So men, are you comfortable with this idea?

If polygamy was legal, would you take multiple wives?
Poligamy or having more than one GF is awful too. Besides, emotionally, physically and economically, that life cannot be shared or enjoyed.
 
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Poligamy or having more than one GF is awful too. Besides, emotionally, physically and economically, that life cannot be shared or enjoyed.

I don´t know what Abigail followed David.

I don´t know why Jacob allowed Laban to trick him if he wanted Rachel and not Leah...
 

Lynx

Folksy yet erudite
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Polygamy...

In the old testament it was permitted, but it could be (and was) taken to extremes. The new testament pertains more directly to us though, and 1 Timothy specifies one wife. Titus says the same. Ephesians chapter 5 talks about a husband and wife, not a husband and his wives.

But if it were legal, and if it were permitted biblically... WHY!? From what I can see, men have all they can handle just dealing with one wife.

Andy Andrews was talking about he was reading the Bible and got down to where it talks about how many wives and concubines Solomon had. He said his wife said, "Why?" "Before I thought about what I was saying, I said, 'Well maybe he wanted to be able to come home and find at least ONE of them in a good mood.'"
 
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BugeyeSTi

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Think about what men used to do prior to modern occupations. We hunted, we herded cattle, we were designed to pay close attention to a single task whereas women were designed to multi-task.
Also explains why men are superior drivers.


:p
 
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Test_F_i_2_Luv

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"You know, these male / female threads inevitably always come in pairs..." ;)
I did not want to derail the 'mate' thread to this one, 'From woman to men'.

So...

Whether serious or humorous -- men - give your best advice to women...

~ THE absolute best thing you can do to destroy your relationship with a man is "play games" / "toy" with him.

:)
The red text was the first thing that came to my mind as I started reading.


2. It's ok to express interest to a male. Men can be incredibly dense and have no clue a woman is interested. So, unless she makes is quite clear, he'll never pursue her.

Notice how I wrote that she shows/expresses interest and he pursues. I am traditional in that I believe a man should pursue a woman. Showing interest and pursuing are not the same, though.


3. Save some skin for your husband's eyes. At least for me, I'd kinda like my future mate to let me be the exclusive observer of some parts of her anatomy. Is it really necessary for every other guy to see you're stuff when you go to the mall or some other place?


4. Sexual integrity is SeXy. That she'd wait for me is romantic. Not having to worry about STD's is, well, pretty awesome! That we'll both be naive on our first night...it's a risk I'm certainly willing to work with! :)
 
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4. Sexual integrity is SeXy. That she'd wait for me is romantic. ...
This is true in the re-marriage crowd, too. I choose to be a leader in my dating relationship, and set boundaries that make us very conscious of the fact that we are setting an example for our children (hers, mine...there's no Ours). The fact that I respect her, God, and myself in this way leaves her expressing appreciation that could be nothing but heartfelt.
 
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The red text was the first thing that came to my mind as I started reading.


2. It's ok to express interest to a male. Men can be incredibly dense and have no clue a woman is interested. So, unless she makes is quite clear, he'll never pursue her.

Notice how I wrote that she shows/expresses interest and he pursues. I am traditional in that I believe a man should pursue a woman. Showing interest and pursuing are not the same, though.


3. Save some skin for your husband's eyes. At least for me, I'd kinda like my future mate to let me be the exclusive observer of some parts of her anatomy. Is it really necessary for every other guy to see you're stuff when you go to the mall or some other place?


4. Sexual integrity is SeXy. That she'd wait for me is romantic. Not having to worry about STD's is, well, pretty awesome! That we'll both be naive on our first night...it's a risk I'm certainly willing to work with! :)
Yes, sexual integrity is great and the way God designed our sexuality but don't rule out the good, godly women who've repented of their sexual pasts and now walk in Christ's freedom, redeemed and restored.