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Don't stress it. “So do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will care for itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." (Matthew 6:34).
I've been through the head games as well, and the worst part about them? They're almost always all in your head.
Let it ride until the New Year. If she then happens upon another reason for postponing things, then at least attempt to remain friends (hopefully without any awkward tension). If she comes around, great! If not, you tried at least, and that is awesome.
I've been through the head games as well, and the worst part about them? They're almost always all in your head.
Let it ride until the New Year. If she then happens upon another reason for postponing things, then at least attempt to remain friends (hopefully without any awkward tension). If she comes around, great! If not, you tried at least, and that is awesome.
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LOL. She is not ready. It's like if your house is a mess and someone says they want to come over, you may ask if they can come tomorrow instead. This is my guess. Maybe she doesn't feel attractive right now and can't imagine being romantic at the moment- like needing to lose weight. If think you just need to be patient. She could have said the feeling is just not mutual, but because she gave you hope for the future I think she likes you too.
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An update- I've liked on a few (very few- I don't want to come off as creepy)of her FB posts. No responses at all... And once sent her a basic greeting on the message part. No responses. And she wasn't at the meeting this time, nor was her friend. She's only two homes away in town lol. Someone said she was too tired(I made sure not to be the one to ask). I have prayed on it...
And one of her FB posts says something about asking God about something personal and he said no. So somehow I'm getting the idea this is a wash. At least I'm giving myself a pat on the back for asking. Although the house guests seemed a bit different this time...Ahh heck with it. lol
And one of her FB posts says something about asking God about something personal and he said no. So somehow I'm getting the idea this is a wash. At least I'm giving myself a pat on the back for asking. Although the house guests seemed a bit different this time...Ahh heck with it. lol
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Not for the lack of me trying to get you to try....Hey cat jump down off your limb and take a chance....find one of your gals at the church you are going to - I'm sure there is a nice one there that knows how to sing that would love to become a duet with you. Ask her out...... and put that flamethrower away!!!
I am going to say this as lovingly as possible - Get With The Program and TRY!!!....lol
I am going to say this as lovingly as possible - Get With The Program and TRY!!!....lol
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Final update- She's been aloof towards me at our meeting, and some guy she went to school with has been making fun of me during the meeting about it all, and I heard that guy's wife talking to her after the meeting and she said she wasn't interested in me to begin with. So why lie about it, and get my expectations up? I've seen it all now. I don't even want to go back anymore.
Pfffftttt... Why are women so bloomin' complicated?
Pfffftttt... Why are women so bloomin' complicated?
I'm sorry to hear it went that way. My response isn't going to sound very original, but, I think things worked out in your favor. I think it is better to learn now about her character than down the line. I have to commend you though. I think your approach in asking her out was very respectful towards her.
In front of you she tried to be "polite"... now you know it better, but that gave you a chance to explore you have your own needs and, if I´m allowed, I will insist on telling you to find out where your friends are to go out with them, the proper lady will come soon, with a blink of an eye (hope you find one without such complications or children, by the way).
If you enjoy the meetings go. If it's a time filled with drama and this immature man making fun of you, then don't go. I wouldn't contact her again. Some people chose to be complicated. Years back a co worker asked me out, he asked me, not the other way around, well I had to work later then him so I met him at a restaurant. I walk in see him at a table with his friends approached him, he said, oh hi, what are you doing here? I said, I was supposed to meet you. He acted all coy and was acting like I was making it up. Needless to stay I left confused, hurt and angry. I saw him at work and didn't say much. So people are weird sometimes.