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It would have to be more specific as to why you feel you can't be released. Sometimes if we're caught in bondage of something or someone, that doesn't mean God intents for you to stay. You could be refusing to listen and instead giving your full attention as to what's keeping you in such place. If it's focusing on anything other than God, chances are it's not from Him.
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A year ago, a man walked into my life and I wasn't looking for anyone at the point. THis man is saved, walks GOds path and bears the fruit. I prayed and prayed before entering a relationship with him to make sure this was from God. I felt peace like no other and within months we were planning a wedding. We both felt, or I guess I should speak for myself only, but I felt this was the man GOd had for me, I had no doubts whatsoever. We were both in the process of finding a church together and we both were waiting till marriage to have sex, I mean you name it, we did it. We prayed together, but my problem was, I was previsoulsy married and brought alof of my issues and trust issues into this relationship. WHen we broke up, I knew my duty and desire was to spend the time alone as a single woman and prepare myself to be the best wife and mother that GOd wants me to be.So for 9 months I have actively everyday growing and working on any past issues and helping others, and I am very happy with my walk with Christ. I ask God everyday what I can do to grow or to be an example to others or to guide where he wants me to go. I have felt like God wants me to still pray for this man, but truth be told, I always felt like he was going to date someone else. Last night I found out that he is pursieing someone and Im not mad. A few weeks ago, I was gtting aggravated, impatient and I asked God, should I reach out to him for some form of closure. I really felt GOd tell me to wait, that He is still working. I mean God could be working still in me, in the situation in the guy, I mean I don't know, only GOd does. So I always thought then when I find out hes moved on, maybe then Ill be released. I really don't think im holding on, I want to have that freedom where Im not sad or missing someone. Never in my life did I ever feel like someone was perfect for me. We have the same beliefs, morals, values, was raised the same way, same birthday and year, lol. I thought that maybe this is something he needs to go thru, I thought maybe this is a lesson for me. I don't know, I know you guys don't know, but sometimes I feel like I over-think and its nice just to hear some advice that gives me hope and encouragement. I don't have a lot of people in my life, but sometimes I also wonder if im doing something wrong. I don't think personally there is anything I can change right now with my walk with Christ, it can always get better, but its pretty close! Im actively trying to listen and obey, but just feel like I have my one hand handcuffed to someone and its so hard.
The first thing that came to mind is Paul's thorn in the flesh. Paul pleaded with the Lord three times to have the affliction removed. This was the Lord's response:
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Cor 12:9 (ESV)
and Paul's response according to 2 Cor 12:9-10
Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
We don't know what "thorn" Paul was referring to. The Bible is wonderfully vague about this. Because of this, we can see our physical ailments, emotional or psychological problems, bad relationships or oppressive situations as our "thorns." Like Paul, we are to honor and glorify God despite our metaphorical thorns. We are to see this as more important than our own convenience, our own goals and ambitions, and our very lives.
edited to add: Just read your second post, which appeared while I was writing mine. Looks like you are doing all the right things. I'll be praying for continued healing.
“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Cor 12:9 (ESV)
and Paul's response according to 2 Cor 12:9-10
Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
We don't know what "thorn" Paul was referring to. The Bible is wonderfully vague about this. Because of this, we can see our physical ailments, emotional or psychological problems, bad relationships or oppressive situations as our "thorns." Like Paul, we are to honor and glorify God despite our metaphorical thorns. We are to see this as more important than our own convenience, our own goals and ambitions, and our very lives.
edited to add: Just read your second post, which appeared while I was writing mine. Looks like you are doing all the right things. I'll be praying for continued healing.
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RachelP03,
If HE broke up with YOU, and he is currently pursuing someone else,
you need to let him go.
Let him go, and move on with your life.
If you were trying to deal with past issues, and baggage, and trust problems,
and that drove him away...
then God will bring you a man who won't leave when you struggle with those things.
Is it possible that this guy will change his mind, and come back?
Anything is possible.
However, he already made a clear choice.
You need to accept it, let God give you healing, and move on.
God will bring you someone who isn't afraid of the things you struggle with.
If HE broke up with YOU, and he is currently pursuing someone else,
you need to let him go.
Let him go, and move on with your life.
If you were trying to deal with past issues, and baggage, and trust problems,
and that drove him away...
then God will bring you a man who won't leave when you struggle with those things.
Is it possible that this guy will change his mind, and come back?
Anything is possible.
However, he already made a clear choice.
You need to accept it, let God give you healing, and move on.
God will bring you someone who isn't afraid of the things you struggle with.
R
That's the thing, that's exactly what im writing about. Its been 9 months, everything I have been told during this time of waiting was to wait and pray for him.. He left me, and he should have. There is no way that I could of been the wife for him. I knew GOd took him away so I could work on myself. I honest to God feel like Im not holding on. I want him to be happy and him and that girl look good together, so I keep praying and asking God why am I not being released from him? Its so difficult and tiring! I don't know what im doing wrong....
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For a thousand years in Your sight Are like yesterday when it passes by, Or as a watch in the night. (Psalm 90:4)
I don't think you are doing anything wrong, per se. There is this old maxim ─ I forget the origin ─ that goes,
"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional."
As tiring as it may be, give it time. I believe it's wise to reflect periodically, but you can also look to things that are conducive while you go through the struggle.
R
Oh of course.... Since the nine months I have lost over 50 pounds and took away trash from my life as in bad eating, movies or shows that wernt good. Reach out to others, am in a life group in church.... Been reading God's words and devotions. Etc...... I really don't want to people to think that Is it here mopping around everyday with my fingers crossed. I have gone on trips and have lived my life....... But I have moments where I wonder if im doing something wrong. I know to the average person it seems crazy and that I'm holding. When my husband left me a few years ago, I fought for almost a year and a half and thrn God released me, he started to prepare me for divorce. I know what it feels like but still wonder why sometimes I still feel this way. I just feel like I'm missing something. I'm just not one of those people that get over easy or give up and walk away. I have to allow God to work in my life and in theirs. That my struggle because going thru it is always harder then when looking back and seeing the picture God saw all along.
We could call it that but then it would be SOP and that already stands for standard operating procedure. We could also call it psuedo-original post, but that would be POP and that stands for point of purchase. I think we should call it aboriginal post and refer to it as AOP (but australians might not like it too much) 
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You know what I love about this website, is that when I as a Christian am really struggling with something, whether I am fine one day or the next day I am having a horrible spiritual warfare or maybe something new happens or I find out more information and I get down in the dumps again, I know I can reach out to yall to make a complete fool of myself. I obvisouly have been struggling with this situation for almost 10 months. I have seeked Gods will in everything that I do. Im not perfect and honestly no one on this website knows my true life. I don't have any parents, am an only child and I take care of my grandfather who is 85 and I work 4 jobs, so I don't have a lot of people, CHRISTIAN people who I feel like I could just get some advice or encouragement of some sort, so that's why I joined this site, but it seems like no matter what I say even if I repeat myself, I will be mocked and made fun of. I do want to thank the people who have been there and took their time to help me in some way and to encourage me and share their opinion. No one knows my walk with Christ or what God has laid on my heart. I struggle because I know In my heart what God has told me and I feel like Sarah in the bible sometimes, because it dosent look like its ever going to happen. Im trying not to ruin what GOd wants me to do and take things into my own hands, so that's another reason why I come here and want some advice. I sometimes think Im crazy, and I doubt what my human logical thinking says verses what my heart says. A human would say hes done move on, but my heart says otherwise, so I struggle. But these comments honestly make me not want to be part of this Christian envoirnment. I struggle and im sorry that I struggle....