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[RachelP03]

Standing at crossroads

Im not sure if this is me, the enemy or God, but I within like 24 hours had peace about something and then it changed completly around. I dont even know how I should even pray about my situation. I sometimes wonder if Im crazy, or I cant move forward or what. But I can just picture myself standing a crossroads with 3 paths and one of them is Gods, but Im not sure which one it is. I have been faithfully seeking God everyday in my walk, so to have this form of doubt and confusion is really gotten me upset the past 48 hours. I was hoping it would pass, but it hasnt. Does anyone have any advice or encouragement or maybe understand. Maybe you did something that helped you when you were in this situation.

I know God is not of doubt, but Im honestly thinking its just me, tired of waiting.....

 

[hoss2576]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I think in part you should look at each path and ask yourself which one or ones line up with God's Word. If it doesn't align with the Bible, obviously not one from God. I would also talk and seek council from people you trust and respect who are strong in their faith. Lastly, I would be patient, because God's timing is not our timing.

 

[RachelP03]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I agree, I think thats what Im struggling with, is I dont know which path leads to what. This is about a relationship from 8 months ago that I have felt deep core in my heart and even the people around me who love me and know Christ, to keep praying for and then one moment I got fed up......I have walked as close to God as I have ever in my life the past 8 months....God has led me to a new church and to learn to eat right and help others. I cant imagine being so close to God and felt peace with praying for someone and it be wrong. Everyone around me says.....its not the right time. :/

 

[Lynx]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I'd ask your pastor first. Also, does a path have to be chosen now? In my experience if God doesn't give you an answer, the answer is to wait.

 

[hoss2576]

Re: Standing at crossroads

This is about a relationship from 8 months ago that I have felt deep core in my heart and even the people around me who love me and know Christ, to keep praying for and then one moment I got fed up...... :/

I am assuming you are talking about a romantic relationship, so I am going to ask the black and white question when it comes to christian relationships. Where does he stand spiritually? Does he know Christ? If the answer is no, then God has already given you His answer, no matter how you may try to justify it.

 

[jogoldie]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Hey baby....it seems to me that when I get to this point.....it is just before a revelation.....
I think the devil gets scared when we get close like this......so the first thing he does...
hits that doubt speech in your ear.....you are a smart woman.....you give good advice....
I think your on the verge of something spiritual......try to wait for what God tells you to
do.....I dont think we are supposed to know what is down those roads.....get out your beach chair...
and have a seat and see what Gods has for you.....continue to do His work......these roads I find...are like an onion.....
..........with each layer there is new understanding and it gets stronger the more layers
you peel away....changing shape....getting clearer.......dont jump ahead....just take it as God unpeels
your layers.......all this is building your faith.....and giving you wisdom......remember our Father and all
His promises......so you know what is coming.....blessings...dear sister......blessings....
find your peace......and live in joy knowing what is about to happen.........peace ...jo

 

[RachelP03]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Truth me told, I have NEVER in my life met a man who is the same walk as me. We grew up Baptist, he still is a virgin for he is waiting on GOd as I did with my first marriage. He is saved, teaches sunday school and we grew up the same way with morals and values that I know if we ever have children we wouldnt have to argue or anything with how to raise our Kids. His parents are church goers to the same church and are heavely involved. I never met a man who knows as much as the bible as me and someone I could ever submit too. He was the first one that I knew I could submit too, who I wanted to submit too,

 

[RachelP03]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Thank you so much, I needed to hear this more than you could ever know. I dont have a mother or a father figure and Im an only child and sometimes I just need to be reminded that I need to keep going and not give up hope. I apprecite you so much for writing me.

 

[Dimko]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I want to share some my thoughts about issue, Rachel. A process of finding God may take a lifetime, and, for sure, it`s full of ups and downs. But it worth keeping go.
Who said that if you are in church with right people around you there will be no devil chasing for your soul trying to knock you down? Perhaps, it`s the hardiest thing to cope with such problems on the way to God and don`t allow to pull you down. But Almighty Father who know you struggle won`t be aside and you will be rewarded as great as you cannot imagine.
Be sure, everything will be ok! God bless you! And one awesome song that helps me a lot! Enjoy! ) Matisyahu - Live Like A Warrior (LYRIC VIDEO) - YouTube

 

[dalconn]

Re: Standing at crossroads

[h=4]A Psalm of David.[/h]23 The Lord is my shepherd;
I shall not want.
2 He makes me to lie down in green pastures;
He leads me beside the still waters.
3 He restores my soul;
He leads me in the paths of righteousness
For His name’s sake.

4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil;
For You are with me;
Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.

5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies;
You anoint my head with oil;
My cup runs over.
6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
All the days of my life;
And I will dwell[a] in the house of the Lord
Forever.

 

[Jullianna]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Rachel, does this man know how you feel? If so, what does he have to say about it?

 

[RachelP03]

Re: Standing at crossroads

It's been 8 months this since we seen each other. We were supposed to be getting married next month. When we separated we both agreed to grow closer to God because I know i wasnt ready and he said he lost himself somewhere and wanted to grow closer to God. He told me that he's not closing this door. A few months ago i reached out and asked if he would like to meet and talk and he never responded back. I know it sounds crazy but after I texted him I had peace. Happiness to keep praying for him and wait on God. I have noticed from a friend telling me that he is actively looking on a dating website. I know the average person would tell me he has moved on and d I should too. I have seeked to other believers and ask for prayer and for guidance. They tell me to keep praying and in God's time it will happen. Sometimes I think it's me and I can't move on or sometimes I think I'm just crazy for waiting g and praying. Sometimes I wonder if it's worth it. I just never in my life felt so strong for someone..... Whwn I say strong... I DID NOT want to be with this man. God tore down walls in my life and showed me this was my future husband. I prayed over a month before saying I would be his gf to make sure this is what God wanted for me. I wrote a list 3 years ago of who I wanted in m y future husband. God tapped on my heart multiple times and reminded me of that list ND when I pulled it out..... He was everything but one thing on that list. I handed him the list one night and walked away. .. He laughed at me and asked where was I going ad I told him to just read the list..... He told me two weeks later that that was the night God told him I was the one.... And I knew looking back that God was telling me too butthis was whwn I didn't want to be with him. .... I was in denial and that's why i walked away. I mean I wanted a guy named Brian Adam and his name is Brian allen..... We were born the same day and year.. ... He grew up at the church that my grandma and grandpa met. There's just so much more I could sit here and explain. He knew reading g my list that it was him. So i get confused why he don't want to see if anything is left. I don't understand why I'm fighting for us while I watch the man I feel God has given me try and seek other women. It hurts and idk if I have the fight anymore. It's the crossroads ...... But I want to do God's will... ..

 

[hoss2576]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Given your history, I actually think you can take the direct approach on this. Go talk to him, and see where he is in all of this now. He may have thought you closed the door, so he is moving on. He may have decided to close the door, so he is moving on. Good direct communication may be your best solution. He can let you know if he sees a future or not. Just be prepared for the answer to be - no. If so, you have to be willing to accept that and keep waiting on God's plan for you.

 

[Jullianna]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I hate to say it....because I know it must be painful for you , but the fact that he did not respond and is looking around does seem like he has moved on. Either that, or he simply is not ready. If someone is not interested or isn't ready, there is nothing we can say or do to change that really....and we probably shouldn't want to, should we?

I think most of us have been where you are a time or two. The best thing you can do is LIVE YOUR LIFE as God leads. Keep growing closer and become the woman God wants you to be. Who knows? Maybe this is what he is waiting to see. Even if it isn't, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Prayerfully...

 

[RachelP03]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Given your history, I actually think you can take the direct approach on this. Go talk to him, and see where he is in all of this now. He may have thought you closed the door, so he is moving on. He may have decided to close the door, so he is moving on. Good direct communication may be your best solution. He can let you know if he sees a future or not. Just be prepared for the answer to be - no. If so, you have to be willing to accept that and keep waiting on God's plan for you.

SO I prayed about it because I was thinking it was a good idea, maybe a step so I could move forward in life. Before I was going to do anything, I was going to pray about it, and allow GOd to lay it on my heart what he wanted me to do. I prayed and cried about it and wanted GOd to just make it clear to me what I should do. I really felt like God laid on my heart to wait and I just felt like GOd told me He is still working. I dont know exactly what hes working on, I know alot of times we kinda think we know what hes talking about, but in reality he could be working on me, he could be working on my patience, he could be working in Brians life, he could be working in who knows......I instantly had this peace come over me afterwards for like 10 minutes and then all chaos hit the ground again. I just really feel like the enemy is after me and wants me to fail and give up hope. I just feel like Im crazy and Im one of those crazy people who cant let go and move or something......but in all honesty, I dont want to be like this. Ive been single before without looking or wanting or needing anyone and was fine and content. I on the other hand have never felt the way I have felt towards anyone, including my ex husband the way I do with him. I dont know because of his behavior its making me resent him or what. Im sorry Im venting. Ive been at work and now im lunch and I just feel like my mind isnt stopping. My christian friends are busy or at work. I just wish GOd would put peace in my heart and contentment. Im kinda a little aggravated now that He dosent want me to reach out to get an answer, but I know God sees the bigger picture :\

 

[Reborn]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Cliche response: With God, all things work as they should. But it's true. Usually (and sometimes to our disliking) He has plans for us that may not be what we may want. Recently I went through the same thing, it hurt at first, I didn't get it, but eventually/what I received out of the entire situation was knowledge and eventually peace. All experiences through Christ change us, (and all the people we let into our lives will too.) Someone asked me awhile back why I thought EVERY single thing that happened to me, was something God had planned for me, my response was in MY life I believe this to be true - for a nonbeliever I'm sure everything/everyone that comes into their lives does just 'happen'. You will get the answer you seek if you trust that He can provide one. Smile, Be Well and God Bless.

 

[johnbragg]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I meet a Lady 6 years ago. We where both saved and began to date. Our love was genuine not only for each other but also for our King. About 2 years into our relationship we started talking about getting married. We prayed and both had a peace about it. I had a delivery to make and was out at sea for a couple of months. When I got home she told me that she need time to be closer to God. It was over and it ripped my guts and heart. I was pissed at God ..... How could He do this to me? I was praying one night just broken with pain when His still quiet voice came and said " 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. 13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." It was Jeremiah 29:11-13.
I started repeating those versus every single time my mind would think about her. After a period of time I became at peace with the whole situation. Our King is so faithful to always show us the narrow path. Some times that path is painful if we try to walk it alone but if we fall at the feet of our King and repeat His words, "Your will be done", His yoke is easy and His burden is light.
4 years later I'm in love with my King and looking back on it .... I'm glad Gods will was done and not mine and Sky's. I know to trust The King and live in His love and I am blessed every day.
Sister Gods Will will be done ...... Just trust His plan.

 

[BananaPie]

Re: Standing at crossroads

It's been 8 months this since we seen each other.

Rachel,

In all respect to your persona and in the kindest of thoughts towards you, please receive these words in good spirit.

Rachel, you've been stuck in this conversation since early Spring 2014 when you mentioned something about the guy's sister had to deliver her stillborn baby, and he broke-off with you that night to "be closer to God" and how you both decided to "be closer to God" during those times of stress.

You need to let him go from your mind, Rachel, for he has become an illusion.

Each time you bring this conversation to forums, you receive godly advice from various godly CC members, yet you don't hold to their advice. Instead, you are despondent; your behavior is that of Hamlet, " to be or not to be... whether 'tis Nobler in the mind to suffer". ...and 10 months later in this toil, you're coming across feign.

When godly advice is not effective in you, that's never God's fault. Reconsider a renewal of your mind, and only God Almighty provides that to whosoever wants a change for God's glory.

Be well, Rachel.

BPie

 

[johnbragg]

Re: Standing at crossroads

Rachel,

In all respect to your persona and in the kindest of thoughts towards you, please receive these words in good spirit.

Rachel, you've been stuck in this conversation since early Spring 2014 when you mentioned something about the guy's sister had to deliver her stillborn baby, and he broke-off with you that night to "be closer to God" and how you both decided to "be closer to God" during those times of stress.

You need to let him go from your mind, Rachel, for he has become an illusion.

Each time you bring this conversation to forums, you receive godly advice from various godly CC members, yet you don't hold to their advice. Instead, you are despondent; your behavior is that of Hamlet, " to be or not to be... whether 'tis Nobler in the mind to suffer". ...and 10 months later in this toil, you're coming across feign.

When godly advice is not effective in you, that's never God's fault. Reconsider a renewal of your mind, and only God Almighty provides that to whosoever wants a change for God's glory.

Be well, Rachel.

BPie

I may be new to CC but how did that help? This sister if trying to work out a major issue in her life and because you are tired of listening you pull out James Dobson's tough love garbage from the 80's? Where is that in the Bible? In life some times we are hurting and we need to not only here that's it's going to be ok but we need to express what we are feeling to get it out of us. She felt this was a safe place to do that and she is asking for Godly advice.

where in your response is the Love and empathy of The Healer King Jesus? If your tired of listening just stop listening and pray for her.

 

[BananaPie]

Re: Standing at crossroads

I'm neither tired of reading nor am I tired of listening. You are welcome to give her godly advice as many others have these last 3 years.

If you'd like to start a thread to bypass derailing this one, I'd be glad to further a response.

Welcome to CC, Johnbragg. You may want to introduce yourself in the thread at the top of this forum. The Lord is good.