First date question for women

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vendettark

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What kind of thing(s) to do on a first date would make a guy stand out and make you want to see him again? (being that he's not a jerk/cute/funny all that stuff)

Basically, movies, i have gathered are a big no no on a first date because people cannot talk...it's a dark room where no one talks, I've had a few tell me dinner is a boring first date... I'm trying to realistically think what could be a good first date for both parties...because I'm not spending over $100.00 on a first date to someone i don't really know. Suggestions?
 
MahogonySnail

MahogonySnail

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Not exciting enough for her ? Well you send her on a bungee jump while you sip a latte by the pool. Frankly some of these girls that say dinner is boring are lucky to be asked out at all. Well, dinner is boring if YOU are boring ,maybe that's what they mean..
 
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southgal

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I ALWAYS LIKE IT IF HE TAKES ME TO A MOVIE AND DINNER. MAYBE A NICE SHORT SLOW STROLL AFTER DINNER? THAT WOULD BE A GREAT WAY TO GET TO TALK,AND MAYBE THAT COULD LEAD TO HOLDING HANDS, AND MAYBE EVEN A GOODNIGHT KISS AND A SECOND DATE. I KNOW IT WOULD PROBABLY WORK ON ME.
 
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vendettark

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lol, no one called me boring, just said that dinner is boring and is the same thing every other guy does... maybe I just attract weird ladies?
 
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Wug

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Ha ha, you wanted input from the ladies, and now two dudes have posted.I like volunteer work, because it doesn't seem like a date, and you can get to know them better, and it's alot easier to ask them out to a seccond date. Ask her if she'd like to help you out with a food drive or something, and at the end, you can ask if she'd like to go to lunch with you. It's a cheap date, but I think it's a good one.
 
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MahogonySnail

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Seriously vendettark you should ask them whether it is really the dinner which they find boring or if it's their way of saying that you are boring , because unless they are anorexic pencil thin stick insects - who doesn't like a good meal that they don't have to pay for? :)
 
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sportygirl

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I dont know my first "date" with an ex was lunch together just at the student union, it was nice. Our first day dating we just sat on the beach talking, and our first date I dont really remember im sure it was food or a movie though. Honestly all that is nice, but develop the friendship to, dont worry about what you do, but just the type of person you come off to be.
 
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heart4him

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For me, a male stands out he prepares some sort of rap or sing-a-long about me, and then performs it in some public arena.
 
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jax

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I don't think you have to spend alot of money on a first date and for me I don't see why the girl can't pay for herself, sorry I'm sure I'll get alot of tomatoes thrown at me for that one lol but a movie THEN dinner would be good because then you could talk about the movie over dinner if you have a conversation lull...or dinner, a movie, then coffee or ice cream or something afterwards, or even a walk in the park after it..
 
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lil-rush

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My parents' first date was at pizza hut, and they've been together for 25 years.

The problem isn't where you go on a date. The problem is who you date. Plenty of girls are satisfied with dinner and a movie, or even just one or the other. If a girl wants more than that on a first date it is her own fault for not telling you before-hand.

Of course, you can always ask "Where do you want to go?" And if she says something outrageous, like a 5 star restaurant or something, simply tell her you can't afford that. If it is something simple like bowling or what have you, why not do it?
 
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christiancollegegirl

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My official first date was at a hotel restaurant. He'd just gotten paid and he wanted to impress me. After that we went to regular, less fancy places.

I think minigolf would make a great first date.
 
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Dread_Zeppelin

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I hate ordinary dates. My best first date with my ex-boyfriend was carving pumpkins. I also like taking long walks and talking, it's so much more intimate and less cliche date. Plus its nearly free.
 
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goth4god

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personally for me a concert would be an amazing first date and then maybe getting coffee afterward and bowling after that since id be buzzed on the coffee, lol. and maybe include some glow sticks and maybe a little bit of poetry and you have just won my heart! lol
 
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Wug

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You should definately serenade on the first date....use an accordian.
 
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greatkraw

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train ride then maccas:)
 
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christiancollegegirl

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Maccas???? What's that? Looks like he misspelled 'maracas', but I don't think they're the same thing.
 
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janet_06_jimenez

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My first date with my boyfriend was double dating with his bestfriend and gf, we went to a place called Texas Roadhouse. So it wasn't awkward at all and we just talked.
I chose it and then we went bowling, I actually enjoyed it.
After that we also went as a double to date to the beach and we took a long walk and our way back He asked me out. It was really nice!:)
 
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Vidy

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I'm not sure where I read this (it might be on this site, heck, I didn't check so it could've been this thread XD), but this was an interesting date idea I found....

They said to go to an airport or something, and just sit on a bench and watch people as they leave/return. It's kinda romantic to see the reunions that happen all the time, and, knowing people, there are bound to be TONS of funny people/instances. I'm definitely trying this one day =P

Other than that, I can't think of much... My first date (ever, and with my current gf), was just a double-date with some of her parents' friends (they were also students, just a little older lol, no big deal). We went to ihop, and then afterwards we went and played a game or two of bowling. The game moved kinda slow because I kept sitting down next to my gf after I was done, and vice-versa XD

Now that I think about it, it wasn't a double date since the other two people weren't together... It was just a group date I guess =P


My second (and only other) date was a double date with my parents (it honestly wasn't that bad). We went and watched a movie (Surrogates, parents wouldn't let us sit behind them -.-), and after we went and ate at the Golden Corral (parents paid, *phew*).


We had a good time, though. IMO, you don't need to get to know each other on dates. You have a LOT of time outside of dates to get to know each other. Just hang out with his/her friends every once in a while and see how they interact in social settings. Just focus on having a good time during dates, and being WITH the person.
 
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goth4god

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personally I have never been on a date or have even been asked out, but i think id like to go on a group date first.
 
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