which goes to show you that many women, and men, are confused and don't know what they want. i think a lot of women are sold on the idea of seeing a "conversion" than an actual bad boy. because the bad boy fantasy that i'm aware of isn't so much about wanting a bad boy, but a bad boy who straightens out, essentially behaves for them. it's the idea that they are somehow special enough, or worthy of taming, the motivation to make the guy fly straight. what load of compost.
that said, i don't think most grown up women are interested in that fantasy. the rest of men and women who long for a "bad boy" or "bad girl" want all the fun of being bad, but, instead of having to take responsibility for being that person, they can experience this with someone who is more culpable for the "badness". so in a sense, it's the person who likes the concept of fun and rebellion, i.e. misbehaving, but has no real clue what that looks like, or how to be that "bad" person they are seeking. essentially, it's a person with a rebellious heart who wants an accomplice and/or guide.
it's all a silly fallacy, and something i wish would stop being trotted out as a fun thing. i have been called a "good" bad girl several times in my life (whatever that means) and i don't find it terribly flattering, though i am mostly sure it was meant as a compliment. at least not in accordance with what i know or believe it to represent.
grown-up, godly women have no desire to be with a "bad boy".
