I can't really discern why it is, but I've always seemed to find that's the end result.
My theory is that at some level, some of the behavior must be a facade for a lot of bad boys, and for the ones who it isn't a facade, then they're probably one of those people that it's just impossible to get a read on. If someone spends large portions of their life trying to go against social norms, they're going to pick up some bad habits along the way, like learning how to shut out people who they might ascertain are a threat (which is every one for a bad boy).
And the ones who do it as a facade, well it's a lot more clear cut. If they ever let on that they were overcompensating, then the facade would come crashing down, so they can't afford to tell the truth about anything - and they'll lie about the most inane things (it's actually kind of funny to watch).
My theory is that at some level, some of the behavior must be a facade for a lot of bad boys, and for the ones who it isn't a facade, then they're probably one of those people that it's just impossible to get a read on. If someone spends large portions of their life trying to go against social norms, they're going to pick up some bad habits along the way, like learning how to shut out people who they might ascertain are a threat (which is every one for a bad boy).
And the ones who do it as a facade, well it's a lot more clear cut. If they ever let on that they were overcompensating, then the facade would come crashing down, so they can't afford to tell the truth about anything - and they'll lie about the most inane things (it's actually kind of funny to watch).
The hard part is recognizing the signs and warnings of a bad boy. I want to say that the main sign would be typical disdain for authority, but I know that it's not an across-the-board proven diagnosis. Sometimes people rebel against authority with good reason, and sometimes bad boys don't appear to have this trait, so it's a toss-up. However, I'd venture to guess that if someone always has a problem with anyone in leadership over them, they probably have this problem. If their bosses are all constantly wrong, they have no respect for their pastor or other spiritual leaders, and had problems submitting to their parents or rules as a child/teen... it's definitely something to consider.
So we're looking at a self-esteem issue? The question is: Is this something that can be worked on, and how? Can others help? Can a bad boy with low self-esteem be helped by receiving the encouragement, praise, respect and deference that he yearns for? Or is this something he himself will have to conquer inwardly by changing how he views himself?