So, I was browsing through a GuitarGirl's latest post, and it got me thinking about some things. Why are we truly not in relationships? Why are we not married,, or for those who, why are you?
Dig deep and be a little more introspective, then just the traditional Oh it's all the Men's/Women's fault type answers. Really think about why you really don't.
I know for me, I rarely date. And part of that I have always felt that for some reason men tend to see me more as another guy. And yet, I have no clue as to why they would, considering I don't act anything like a man, much less dress like a man.I admit, I do like jeans and boots, and drive a truck. But for where I live, a ton of women do as well.
And for those men who do tend to ask me out, usually they fall in one of two categories: men who come across as players or sleazy, or men who I might not really be interested, but, I would consider going out with them, because of who they are, and because, well, you never what might happen. And even this last group is very rare.
I do know, that at my church, I have yet to meet a man that I was interested in, that was not already in a relationship. The one who isn't, I would not date, simply because he's already divorced two of my friends. And I would feel really weird about dating someone who was once married to friends of mine, (despite the fact I'm alienated from them. Partially due, I feel, to going to the same church as him.) The other reason I wouldn't date him (besides the fact he's never asked) is the fact that another part of me wonders if I did end up married to him, would I be divorced within a year or two. And so, I tend to be distant from him, and in so doing, makes me wonder if I'm giving off vibes to other men who might want to date me, that I'm not interested in anyone.
Dig deep and be a little more introspective, then just the traditional Oh it's all the Men's/Women's fault type answers. Really think about why you really don't.
I know for me, I rarely date. And part of that I have always felt that for some reason men tend to see me more as another guy. And yet, I have no clue as to why they would, considering I don't act anything like a man, much less dress like a man.I admit, I do like jeans and boots, and drive a truck. But for where I live, a ton of women do as well.
And for those men who do tend to ask me out, usually they fall in one of two categories: men who come across as players or sleazy, or men who I might not really be interested, but, I would consider going out with them, because of who they are, and because, well, you never what might happen. And even this last group is very rare.
I do know, that at my church, I have yet to meet a man that I was interested in, that was not already in a relationship. The one who isn't, I would not date, simply because he's already divorced two of my friends. And I would feel really weird about dating someone who was once married to friends of mine, (despite the fact I'm alienated from them. Partially due, I feel, to going to the same church as him.) The other reason I wouldn't date him (besides the fact he's never asked) is the fact that another part of me wonders if I did end up married to him, would I be divorced within a year or two. And so, I tend to be distant from him, and in so doing, makes me wonder if I'm giving off vibes to other men who might want to date me, that I'm not interested in anyone.
