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I've seen a trend - one that bugs the heck out of me. I've seen it online and offline. It seems a lot of women in the church are looking for some strange blend of fiction and reality. It's like they're looking for a Disney prince. Some man who's so secure he'll chase them to the ends of the earth, a man who's going to sweep a woman off her feet like tear gas clears a city street.
In a ironic way, I think a lot of women who are never going to have to worry about having their hearts broken by a man - because they've already done it themselves. There are some pretty lofty ideals being thrown around that just aren't all going to exist in the same person. You've got to pick what's important to you and focus on finding just that. And above all else you've got to stop retreating to a safe distance - that place is called the friend zone, which is where a woman who retreats to safety gets to live.
Apparently men need to be a combination of the following:
- Financially secure, which must be code for he makes more than the average person does. Anyone who is in that income class is going to want to stay there - which means they're going to want to see a woman manage her own finances so they know they're not going to be spent poor by the wrong woman. Getting hen pecked (or worse) by one's wife is also a real concern for a lot of men. Most of us do worry on some level if we're going to end up out in the cold if our career takes a nose dive, and that holds true whether we make a little or a lot.
- Super handsome. I've actually heard women on here say that a woman can't look like a disney princess, but a dude can look like a disney prince. In the real world, 90 percent of us can't. A good number of us are going to lose our hair, and for the most part, we're either skinny or heavy, even if we train like crazy. So get used to it, because I know for a fact some of us on here spend several hours a week working out and still don't look like you'd expect.
- A blend between romeo, casanova, and prince charming. A lot of women want to sit there and wait for a man to come up to them and make the entire relationship process go from start to finish. That's exhausting and just thinking about it is enough to make me want to stay single. If you're not going to be emotionally available, then we're not going to pursue you. No one enjoys chasing a woman except psychos. Simply put, a lot of us don't have time for that nonsense, and we're not interested in being a crutch, we want a partner.
So, there you have it.
Cue the flaming, the moaning, and the topic drift in 5... 4.... 3... 2....
In a ironic way, I think a lot of women who are never going to have to worry about having their hearts broken by a man - because they've already done it themselves. There are some pretty lofty ideals being thrown around that just aren't all going to exist in the same person. You've got to pick what's important to you and focus on finding just that. And above all else you've got to stop retreating to a safe distance - that place is called the friend zone, which is where a woman who retreats to safety gets to live.
Apparently men need to be a combination of the following:
- Financially secure, which must be code for he makes more than the average person does. Anyone who is in that income class is going to want to stay there - which means they're going to want to see a woman manage her own finances so they know they're not going to be spent poor by the wrong woman. Getting hen pecked (or worse) by one's wife is also a real concern for a lot of men. Most of us do worry on some level if we're going to end up out in the cold if our career takes a nose dive, and that holds true whether we make a little or a lot.
- Super handsome. I've actually heard women on here say that a woman can't look like a disney princess, but a dude can look like a disney prince. In the real world, 90 percent of us can't. A good number of us are going to lose our hair, and for the most part, we're either skinny or heavy, even if we train like crazy. So get used to it, because I know for a fact some of us on here spend several hours a week working out and still don't look like you'd expect.
- A blend between romeo, casanova, and prince charming. A lot of women want to sit there and wait for a man to come up to them and make the entire relationship process go from start to finish. That's exhausting and just thinking about it is enough to make me want to stay single. If you're not going to be emotionally available, then we're not going to pursue you. No one enjoys chasing a woman except psychos. Simply put, a lot of us don't have time for that nonsense, and we're not interested in being a crutch, we want a partner.
So, there you have it.
Cue the flaming, the moaning, and the topic drift in 5... 4.... 3... 2....
