Is there something wong with me?

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PierceM

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I have this hate for girls who cheat, flirt and just talk to guys. Im 14, and currently seeing a therapist but he seems to just ask me question without advice although i have only seen him a few times. I would like to see some of your guys thoughts on this. Let me explain more. I see these people that flirt talk and cheat as "contaminated". These people that are contaminated ( i feel like its all the girls at our school ) i see as their skin peeling off and having hair that is thin oily and stringy falling out. Their skin is peeling and oily from when guys talk to them their words skink in and make it peel also all the oil from guys touching their face does that. Their hair is falling out becuase of all the guys that touch it making it oily sorta like their face. But what they do is put makeup on trying to cover their peeling skin. Its not like i am a germaphob; but it disgust me to put my hand where another guy had his romanticlly. I feel these emotions so strong i feel like killing people that break these rules or commiting suicide. I tried explaining this to my friends but they think im crazy and tell me it washes off. I get that it does but i dont want to put my hand where the other peoples hands where or where i feel like their words seeped into their skin ( i know they dont actully ). Another thing is a fear that kills me. Im so scared at the same time i will die single. Its not like i cant get a girlfriend. But i cant find somone who not "contaminated". Every girl at my school is friends with guys and that bothers me. I have another fear is they will cheat and if they cheat they will become contaminated; if i touch them it will be like im touching the guy that touched her. Oddly guys cant become contaminated they sorta just contaminate other girls. I would feel very uncoftorble if a girl i was dating talked to other guys. I feel like these guys words would stain them and i feel like its kinda like cheating. So what are your thoughts?
 
maxwel

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PierceM said:
I have this hate for girls who cheat, flirt and just talk to guys. Im 14, and currently seeing a therapist but he seems to just ask me question without advice although i have only seen him a few times. I would like to see some of your guys thoughts on this. Let me explain more. I see these people that flirt talk and cheat as "contaminated". These people that are contaminated ( i feel like its all the girls at our school ) i see as their skin peeling off and having hair that is thin oily and stringy falling out. Their skin is peeling and oily from when guys talk to them their words skink in and make it peel also all the oil from guys touching their face does that. Their hair is falling out becuase of all the guys that touch it making it oily sorta like their face. But what they do is put makeup on trying to cover their peeling skin. Its not like i am a germaphob; but it disgust me to put my hand where another guy had his romanticlly. I feel these emotions so strong i feel like killing people that break these rules or commiting suicide. I tried explaining this to my friends but they think im crazy and tell me it washes off. I get that it does but i dont want to put my hand where the other peoples hands where or where i feel like their words seeped into their skin ( i know they dont actully ). Another thing is a fear that kills me. Im so scared at the same time i will die single. Its not like i cant get a girlfriend. But i cant find somone who not "contaminated". Every girl at my school is friends with guys and that bothers me. I have another fear is they will cheat and if they cheat they will become contaminated; if i touch them it will be like im touching the guy that touched her. Oddly guys cant become contaminated they sorta just contaminate other girls. I would feel very uncoftorble if a girl i was dating talked to other guys. I feel like these guys words would stain them and i feel like its kinda like cheating. So what are your thoughts?
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uhhhh... you're 14.

You really don't need to be married just yet.

In fact, it's probably best if you share your thoughts over in the teen forum,
instead of a forum full of single adults.
 
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PierceM

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I dont want to hear you will find someone someday crap. Becuase you have no idea if i will and i dont want to live off blind hope. Im an athiest btw. Also i think this is important, i feel like i would kill myself if i stayed alone without someone that i love and that loved me. One more thing; i DO NOT like to debate about the girls being freinds with guys thing. That is a very touchy subject for me.
 
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PierceM

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maxwel said:
uhhhh... you're 14.

You really don't need to be married just yet.

In fact, it's probably best if you share your thoughts over in the teen forum,
instead of a forum full of single adults.
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I made a thread there but i dont think many people use it so i figured i could get advice from other people. Sorry i feel kinda bad now for doing this
 
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Tintin

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No girl will ever make you feel complete. Only Jesus Christ can fill that deep hunger of your spirit. So get to know Him first and then if you get the girl (much later on in life), she's be an awesome blessing on top of what you already have in relationship with Christ.
 
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Pierce, you seem to know already that these feelings are not normal, and that you would benefit from some help. I would like to pray for you (since that's pretty much the only thing I can do), that Jesus will guide you to where you need to go in order to have peace and healing. Hint: it starts in His arms. ;)

If that would offend you, please let me know and I will refrain. :)
 
secularhermit

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Hi pierce!

you are zelous to be fair but, let me tell you that men also do what you hate with that holy zeal and, the moment you are hurt, you could think you would do "that" to feel avengued.
 
SoulWeaver

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Its not like i am a germaphob; but it disgust me to put my hand where another guy had his romanticlly. I feel these emotions so strong i feel like killing people that break these rules or commiting suicide.
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I honestly believe you should get yourself checked for OCD. I really dont mean it in any kind of insulting way, I look upon you as a younger brother. Because what you have written there simply isnt healthy. I am glad you also realize there is something wrong.
We maybe could talk further about spiritual and prayer support for this, also, if you want.
But for now I will only say that emotions often come from the flesh and we should not be relying on them, but rather on what the Bible teaches, as well as the Holy Spirit in you (in this case He taught you this spiritual discerning, that something is wrong).

I have this hate for girls who...
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Hate the sin, not the sinner. That is what is wrong. The devil got you tricked to hate the sinner instead of hating him.

Imagine yourself entering a relationship with a girl and she fails your expectation somehow. Maybe stumble by accepting a flirty compliment because she feels insecure. And of course, you would be disgusted with her for it. This would be very damaging to her, possibly push her away from the faith you're trying to proclaim, and defiling for you, because your disgust would cause you to sin upon her error.

Have you ever sinned?
What do you think about the idea of Jesus being permanently disgusted by YOU and not wanting you to come close to Him because of sin you have committed in the past and which tainted you? Imagine Jesus saying to angels around Him, "move him further away from me, I am so disgusted by him, he has defiled himself with demons, I dont want him in My presence, he is unclean"?

So are some sins "washable" and some are not? Or IS GOD faithful and just to CLEANSE us of ALL unrighteousness (1 Jn 1:9)? All sins can be washed away by the LOVE and the shed blood of Christ, and He gave these to us to forgive as He forgave.
You are just 15, but if you are already thinking about marriage, rather ponder on being made ready to love as Christ loved us all and make another clean by your forgiveness 77x7. Marriage is a serious committment and requires longsuffering, forgiveness and patience at times. There is no man, even a godly man without sin, and you will find no godly woman without sin either (1 Jn 1:8).
 
secularhermit

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Are u scare of drinking in a glass where a woman left some saliva?

Just to help you think it could be something phobic.
 
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