Regrets From the Friend Zone?

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seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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Hey Everybody,

With all the talk of looking for the perfect guy or girl to step up and chase after or chase after us...

I was just curious if anyone out there has told someone that you could "just be friends" and then later came to regret it. Did you ever change your mind and decide to date the person anyway? Did you find out years later what became of each of your lives, and do you now wish you wouldn't have been so quick to Friend Zone that particular person? Or do you think you made the right decision? (I'm wondering if anyone is going to have any "Brooklyn Decker commercial" stories... where they Friend Zoned someone who was going through an awkward stage in school, but later turned out to be successful... and gorgeous.)

If you were the person whom someone else chose to Friend Zone, did they ever come to regret it? Did they try to ask you out at a later time?

I was thinking back over the years and I've had my fair share of both Friend Zoning other people as well as being put into the Friend Zone Box myself. Of the people I've Friend Zoned, I can only think of one I may have a slight regret over, but he wound up marrying someone I think is much more suitable towards his ministry calling, which is for the better, of course. Another guy I was friends with for a long time just got married to a wonderful girl as well, so I can't say I regret having the "Let's Just Be Friends Talk" years ago in that case either.

As for the guys who Friend Zoned me... at the time it might have felt like a lethal stab wound :), but as the years have passed... I'm GLAD nothing worked out because what was important to me then and what's important to me now has completely evolved and changed. Back then I wasn't as good about standing up for what I believe in--I would have let things slide that would have just left me feeling trapped and bitter. Now I'm much more difficult and stubborn... er... I mean, grounded in what I believe.

I'd like to believe that my sense of discernment has become more grounded and Godly over the years... But I still tend to lean on the more cautious side, just in case. Doesn't mean I'm not in danger of tossing caution into the wind though, which is why I lean on my Christian circle to keep me inside the fence.

How about the rest of you?

Have your Friend Zones been a source of regret or relief?
 
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ServantStrike

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No regrets here that I can think of. I mean it sucks to be stuck in the friend zone, but honestly if that's how the other party feels, it's better to get it out of the way sooner rather than later.


I think Kurt Russel needs to come out of retirement and do another movie - Escape From the Friend Zone. There need to be explosions and lots of loud noises and things. I'd definitely pay to see that.
 

seoulsearch

OutWrite Trouble
May 23, 2009
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I think Kurt Russel needs to come out of retirement and do another movie - Escape From the Friend Zone. There need to be explosions and lots of loud noises and things. I'd definitely pay to see that.
If you can't charm your way into someone's heart... blasting your way in is always the second-best bet.

Yup. This would pretty much some up my entire dating history. The bad thing about explosions... is that there is always a collapse and a fallout.
 
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ServantStrike

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If you can't charm your way into someone's heart... blasting your way in is always the second-best bet.

Yup. This would pretty much some up my entire dating history. The bad thing about explosions... is that there is always a collapse and a fallout.
Kim, what have I told you about stalking people.

Now you're doing it with a gun. Subtle - you have to be subtle. I know it's easier to find prince charming if you come to his house waiving a gun at 2am, but the neighbors might be trying to sleep. We all know the natural next step is for him to say "hey that's a nice gun, let's blow things up" but think of the neighbors.
 

Lynx

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If you can't charm your way into someone's heart... blasting your way in is always the second-best bet.

Yup. This would pretty much some up my entire dating history. The bad thing about explosions... is that there is always a collapse and a fallout.
Reminds me of two spies in World War II who were in France, and they were planning to get married once they hit Paris. The woman says "So when we get there I'll get a priest at gunpoint to do the ceremony..." The guy says "Why do everything at gunpoint? Can't we just ask him to marry us?"

"Wow, Bill..."

"Yeah, it sounds like a crazy idea, but it just might work."
 
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Jacob_Fitzgerald

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Honestly I don't understand the whole "friend zone" thing. Arn't husband and wife supposed to be best friends? So, why not start out as friends and if you find that you enjoy each others company then spend more time together. It may even happen that one day you realize you're not just friends anymore but sweethearts also.

So no regrets on the "friend zone" thing. Though I think it might have hurt some female friends of mine. I guess we should have discussed the matter.
 

maxwel

Senior Member
Apr 18, 2013
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The Friend Zone.


I put ALL women in the friend zone...

while I check their criminal record and psych evaluation.



Then I check it all again,
overseas.


: )
 
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ServantStrike

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The Friend Zone.


I put ALL women in the friend zone...

while I check their criminal record and psych evaluation.



Then I check it all again,
overseas.


: )
But that doesn't keep you from the women abroad.

They'll find you. They just will...


I think that's one at the aaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhh...........
 

Calmador

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Jun 23, 2011
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I feel arrogant about the topic... may God bless me with humility.

I think people should just make sure they know who to friend-zone and who not to.
 

Desdichado

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Feb 9, 2014
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No regrets about that.

Come to think of it, I have no regrets at all. Give it time! Hahaha
 

Tommy379

Notorious Member
Jan 12, 2016
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The friend zone is hell. At least just tell me you're keepimg me around in hopes someone pretty comes around.