I see some women saying things like, "You need to pray to GOd to get confirmation that the person you are dating is God's chosen husband or wife for you. I personally don't believe that God always has a specific person in mind for you to be with. I don't find it to be biblical at all. The reason why it bothers me seeing women say stuff like this, is I think they may dump someone that they should be married to, or even worse get married to someone they shouldn't be with. All because they got some false confimation. When I was young I was quite naive the same way and thought God confirmed that I was supposed to be with a woman and it turned out she was definitely no person I should get married to. I believe that if God really wants you to be with someone you will end up with that person. The bible says that God is not a God of confusion. Do y'all agree or disagree with me? Now I'm not against praying to God to let you know if a person is right for you or not. I just don't believe God usually has a specific wife or husband He chose for you to be with. Yeah it sounds romantic and all, but I think it's rubbish. lol.
God's chosen for you.
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I've posted this book on like 4-5 different threads phil as it is a great thought provoking piece...
The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas
I like the "What if it's not WHO you marry but WHY you marry".
He tears down the concept of a soul mate, insinuating that its not about the one person that God has set aside for you, but a couple that encourages one another to set aside God! It was a very intriguing read I highly recommend it to anyone that is having that tough time being single or just wonders
The Sacred Search by Gary Thomas
I like the "What if it's not WHO you marry but WHY you marry".
He tears down the concept of a soul mate, insinuating that its not about the one person that God has set aside for you, but a couple that encourages one another to set aside God! It was a very intriguing read I highly recommend it to anyone that is having that tough time being single or just wonders
Men wait until they see what the woman looks like, and if she's a total hottie, THEN they beseech God to tell them that SHE is DEFINITELY THE ONE.
(I'm joking. Sort of. Ok, not really. Because BOTH men and women do this.)
*ducks oncoming stones*
I'm just being real... because if people are honest, pretty much everyone is guilty of this at one time or another.
(I'm joking. Sort of. Ok, not really. Because BOTH men and women do this.)
*ducks oncoming stones*
I'm just being real... because if people are honest, pretty much everyone is guilty of this at one time or another.
Henceforth, the reason why I stated that EVERYONE (usually, if they're honest) is guilty of trying to "make" someone "the one" instead of truly seeking out whether or not God would have us marry that person. Pretty much all of us have done it... seeing only what we want to see, whether it be looks, money, career, family, status... instead of God's will.
(usually, if they're honest) is guilty of trying to "make" someone "the one" instead of truly seeking out whether or not God would have us marry that person. Pretty much all of us have done it... seeing only what we want to see, whether it be looks, money, career, family, status... instead of God's will.
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it is biblical
12And he said O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham.
13 Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:
14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
15 And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder.
16 And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up.
17 And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher.
18 And she said, Drink, my lord: and she hasted, and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink.
21 And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the Lord had made his journey prosperous or not.
26 And the man bowed down his head, and worshipped the Lord.
27 And he said, Blessed be the Lord God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the Lordled me to the house of my master's brethren.
12And he said O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham.
13 Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:
14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
15 And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder.
16 And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up.
17 And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher.
18 And she said, Drink, my lord: and she hasted, and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink.
21 And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the Lord had made his journey prosperous or not.
26 And the man bowed down his head, and worshipped the Lord.
27 And he said, Blessed be the Lord God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the Lordled me to the house of my master's brethren.
it is biblical
12And he said O Lord God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham.
13 Behold, I stand here by the well of water; and the daughters of the men of the city come out to draw water:
14 And let it come to pass, that the damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou hast appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast shewed kindness unto my master.
15 And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder.
16 And the damsel was very fair to look upon, a virgin, neither had any man known her: and she went down to the well, and filled her pitcher, and came up.
17 And the servant ran to meet her, and said, Let me, I pray thee, drink a little water of thy pitcher.
18 And she said, Drink, my lord: and she hasted, and let down her pitcher upon her hand, and gave him drink.
21 And the man wondering at her held his peace, to wit whether the Lord had made his journey prosperous or not.
26 And the man bowed down his head, and worshipped the Lord.
27 And he said, Blessed be the Lord God of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the Lordled me to the house of my master's brethren.
In my opinion it comes down to commitment, knowing yourself, knowing what you want in/from the relationship and knowing what you want to be in the relationship.
So technically you (in general) could be with anyone however having in mind all these factors would narrow down your pool dramatically, e.g physical attraction, pet peeves, education level, goals, aspirations, etc.
So technically you (in general) could be with anyone however having in mind all these factors would narrow down your pool dramatically, e.g physical attraction, pet peeves, education level, goals, aspirations, etc.
I have a question. If say you want to find(the one) what is the reason? See me I was never really into dating, I see ppl making a huge deal out of it and I see ppl doing it for different reasons. But like seeking anything in faith if the reason and motive in the heart isn't right not only will you not find the one for you but it could get very messy.
If you are wanting to find the right guy or the right women ask yourself why do I want this? How does this affect my relationship with God? Is this what God wants or is this what I want? I have always known that one day I would find the one for me even from a young age I don't know how I know I just do but I don't go seeking her out I wait for her to come to me and focus on my relationship with God. Heck it may not even be in God's plan for me to be in a relationship or get married but If I do I have a different way of doing things.
I don't care what she looks like If I am to marry or even date a person it will be because in my heart she is beautiful not because of her outer looks. I won't get bored of her as time goes on I will fall more and more in love with her as the years pass. I will accept her flaws and accept that sometimes we might argue she doesn't need to be perfect. I will randomly bring her romantic gifts like flowers or chocolates or maybe I will be creative and make romantics or meals. I will torture myself and watch those girly romantic movies with her because I love her and every day I will make sure to tell her how beautiful she is and how much I love her and I will learn to cook so sometimes I make her favorite breakfasts I mean the ideas are endless.
This is why I believe God kept me from being in a relationship for long so that I would know what it really means to be in love and how to treat her. to many men only half butt it in the relationship and even though I will always love God more than her she will be treated as a queen because if two ppl are really in love that love never fades it only intensify's
If you are wanting to find the right guy or the right women ask yourself why do I want this? How does this affect my relationship with God? Is this what God wants or is this what I want? I have always known that one day I would find the one for me even from a young age I don't know how I know I just do but I don't go seeking her out I wait for her to come to me and focus on my relationship with God. Heck it may not even be in God's plan for me to be in a relationship or get married but If I do I have a different way of doing things.
I don't care what she looks like If I am to marry or even date a person it will be because in my heart she is beautiful not because of her outer looks. I won't get bored of her as time goes on I will fall more and more in love with her as the years pass. I will accept her flaws and accept that sometimes we might argue she doesn't need to be perfect. I will randomly bring her romantic gifts like flowers or chocolates or maybe I will be creative and make romantics or meals. I will torture myself and watch those girly romantic movies with her because I love her and every day I will make sure to tell her how beautiful she is and how much I love her and I will learn to cook so sometimes I make her favorite breakfasts I mean the ideas are endless.
This is why I believe God kept me from being in a relationship for long so that I would know what it really means to be in love and how to treat her. to many men only half butt it in the relationship and even though I will always love God more than her she will be treated as a queen because if two ppl are really in love that love never fades it only intensify's