Please help me and pray for me

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Spud1115

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I've been so depressed lately over everything that has gone on in my life.. I truly don't know how much more I can handle. I pray everyday that the Lord will give me clarity on what my future holds and I never get any response... So I'm asking everyone to please pray for me, my mental health, my wife hoping that she will come back to us.... And please pray for my 3 children who I care for so much that I as a human being can continue to deal with and strive through these difficult times in my life.
Thanks
 
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i'll pray for you spud. That Jesus will give you hope and clarity. And that He will turn all the bad into something beautiful. i ask for a blessing for your children, that they will know Jesus and always be close to Him. i'll pray that He will show you wich step is the next that you can take and will always lead you on His right path.
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My brother.....I have been a single parent for many years.......I'm always here for you......If you have questions.......or need a shoulder.....your children are blessed to have you.....And I remember the beginning struggles....Feel free to pm me.....Father God I thank you for my brother Spud.....for giving him strength....for protecting the hearts of him and his children...for leading him to a successful life....full of love and understanding....for allowing his wife to find her way back....complete and whole.......for the love and guidance You bring......in Jesus' loving name.......amen
 
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I'm so sorry for all you're going through, and you'll certainly be in my prayers.

If you stick around in this forum, I think you'll find a lot of people who have been where you are now, and you'll also find a lot of compassion and people willing to listen :)
 
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Spud1115, I pray for God to help in all those areas you mentioned. I went through a similar situation almost three years ago, praying for my marriage to be saved. My divorce went through and I was devastated. I still question God why things happened the way they did but I know that things will work out good according to His will. I do hope that your wife comes back and you can work things out with God at the center of your lives. No matter what happens, you and your wife need to be there for your children. Children are resilient and they will be okay knowing that both parents love them and are there for them. I have two young children myself, so I know how hard it is for you. I truly pray for the best for you and your family!


Spud1115 said:
I've been so depressed lately over everything that has gone on in my life.. I truly don't know how much more I can handle. I pray everyday that the Lord will give me clarity on what my future holds and I never get any response... So I'm asking everyone to please pray for me, my mental health, my wife hoping that she will come back to us.... And please pray for my 3 children who I care for so much that I as a human being can continue to deal with and strive through these difficult times in my life.
Thanks
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Spud, your post reminds me of the scripture to what my signature was just changed ...
 
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Spud1115

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Thank you everyone who's responded to my prayers I'm going through some very difficult times right now. Sometimes I actually ask myself why when I pray the Lord doesn't listen to me or talk to me... I really need his help right now I honestly can't continue living like this day in and day out... My depression is getting so horribly bad!
 
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Spud1115

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It is so very difficult being a single parent. I love my children more than they would ever imagine. But I'm stuck, I want my wife to come back so bad it actually consumes me and my life and takes time away from my children who are my strength right now! There is so much stuff going on in my life I literally feel like I have a black cloud over me and I can't get it to go away! Every one tells me time heals all things but if that's the case then I'm in trouble because as time goes by my depression becomes worse...
 
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Do you have anything you can pour your life into? A hobby, a work for God, something you can do with your life to give it meaning? It's not merely a distraction - finding a purpose for your life would take away the reason you feel depression.

Quote for the day: "We speak of comfort and luxury as if they were necessities for happiness. The only truly necessary thing for happiness is something to be passionate about."
 
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MissCris

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Spud1115 said:
It is so very difficult being a single parent. I love my children more than they would ever imagine. But I'm stuck, I want my wife to come back so bad it actually consumes me and my life and takes time away from my children who are my strength right now! There is so much stuff going on in my life I literally feel like I have a black cloud over me and I can't get it to go away! Every one tells me time heals all things but if that's the case then I'm in trouble because as time goes by my depression becomes worse...
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Nobody can force your wife to come home, not even God. I know it hurts. I know it's hard. But you're not going to start to feel better until you accept that she may not come back to you. You don't have the luxury of pining for her when you have children to take care of. You obviously know that you're not being the best parent you can be because of your depression; I think that's where you need to start. Find somebody you can talk to about this; a counselor or a pastor would be best.

It sounds like you're completely overwhelmed and lost right now- that's totally understandable, and I empathize with how hard it is to be a single parent. But you've got to get back up, for their sake and for your own. Please, get some kind of help for your depression.

As far as God not listening or answering your prayers...I think we've all felt that way sometimes. It's so difficult to feel like He cares about us when we're hurting and struggling. But He does care. He loves us beyond words. And He hears you and knows your pain. The thing is...how much can He do for someone who is wallowing in their pain and depression? There comes a point where we tend to shut Him out when we're suffering, all while getting angry with Him for not helping us, or hearing us, or healing us.

Let Him in. Allow Him to comfort you during your hardships. Don't cling to the hurts and injustices of your situation; praise God for whatever good you have in your life (and you may not see much right now, but you have your kids- are they healthy? Do you have a roof over your head? Are your children fed and clothed?).

It's not easy. It hurts like hell. But you can't stay where you are now and expect to get better without you taking the first step.

I've been praying for you and your family, and I'll keep doing so...I truly hope you can find peace and strength. And as I mentioned before, so many of us here can offer comfort or a listening ear. Don't struggle through this alone.
 
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Spud, I'm so sorry for your situation. I know the pain and desperation you are in. I agree with Cris, that you won't start to get better until you face the fact that your wife is gone and start moving forward. You can do this. Life goes on, even when terrible things happen. You are stronger than you realize. Start living for God, for yourself, for your kids, and you will begin to heal.

My heart goes out to you. It's overwhelming to suddenly be caring for children all on your own. Not to mention the pain and loss you are also going through with your marriage. But you CAN do this. God IS helping you, even if you don't realize it right now. You'll be able to look back and see that he has been with you all this time. Call out to him. Weep with him. He will reach out to you.
 
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