What To Look For In A Christian Mate....Your Thoughts?

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greentree

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#21
Yes, friendliness level is important and to ensure their mood is relatively consistent instead of polar opposites behind closed doors.
 
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#22
hmmm

I am 36 years old, 5'10 kinda large framed
I have a Masters in Science Education and a BA in Geology
I was in the Army for 8 years
I have traveled the world
I have been Christian for about 10 years
Never married or had any kids
I like most things, as long as it is quality time with others
I like women who are encouragers - words of affirmation is my love language - that's why I love the Scriptures
I am pretty funny, genuine, and deep at times
I can live anywhere I want in the state of Florida, I work from home as a teacher
I have a creation ministry that I am pursing


I guess that's my stats, and the stats I am looking for

Looking for a woman between 29-37
is happy and kind
is quiet and reserved mostly - but can be spontaneous
Is inquisitive in a good way
love the scriptures, is willing to follow and forgive my blunders and help me to a higher place
shorter than 5'10 obviously, smaller than me, brown hair and eyes is a plus
 
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#23
And let's not forget #21.

#21 - Must have ridden on an elephant before.

My first thought on seeing the picture in the OP - "So I must only date someone who has sat on an elephant. Cool!!" :p

You have a good eye!

The woman seated is drawn to the man (not the opposite way) (at least the moment the pic was taken) so, it could be inferred the man is the one leading the elephant.

Thanks for point 21.
 
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#14, 15 and 16 are all similar. Honestly, #16 is more important than I realized when I got married. My ex-husband never fought with his family. But they also don't communicate well at all with one another. And that played out in our marriage.

I think #19 is a great one to look for too. Someone who keeps good lifelong friends will have a much better chance of investing in a lifelong marriage.
The red ones reminded me point 13 (No romantic baggage)

And, in my opinion, that point doesn´t make sense since OUR past is an IMPORTANT reference we can use as a compass to KNOW where we physically or emotionally.

The real mistake could be saying, to any of both: "You are behaving like my ex-spouse"

But see how naturally we share our feelings, publicly, because honest communication is a must.
 
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#25
1, 8, 17, 19 and 20 are important for me. :)

I have often reiterated that marriage is more about friendship than it is about sex. So, I would look out for how friendly she would be. There is nothing more fun than coming home to Mrs. Bear .. or being held hostage by a sniper from a cushion fort. Oh, and my home would be booby trapped, so she better be prepared for it. :D
After my years, I have seen it differently, both should be well balanced: Both friendship and sex are addictive.
 

Lynx

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thecreationtutor: Sometimes we don't really know what we want.

 
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kayem77

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#27
I've never been in a relationship, but I like to think I'm very observant when it comes to relationships. By observing other people's relationships, some bloom, some fail, I've noticed that:
- maturity matters. Observe how he/she deals with hard situations and hard people in their life. Do they follow their emotions, or do they follow God's Word? Is she/he mature enough to handle situations in a godly way? Do they just ignore the situation, become an emotional mess, or do they take responsibility for it an do something about it?

- convictions matter. Are they actively worried about their spiritual growth, about dealing with sin, and about your sin? How do they confront sin and how do they seek to grow in their weaknesses? Do they encourage you to deal with your sin? Do they point you to Jesus when you need it?

- personality matters. Do you even like being around this person? Can you imagine spending the rest of your life with this person, with their struggles and with their passions? I know many say this isn't very important, but it does have its importance. It's not fair to marry someone just because you're lonely when you don't appreciate them for who they are (leaving aside sinful attitudes of course). God created different personalities, so I think it' important to use those personalities for His glory.