In life everything is going to pull you in every direction and going any direction at all is going to break the rules, offend, betray or otherwise annoy your own sensibilities.
Remember, you are on your own team first and foremost. If for instance I have a squabble with say, MissCris about which food coloring makes for the best sugar cookies, you don't have to choose between us. You can choose what is in your own best interest.
And if you agree with her, that doesn't make me a bad guy.
But when someone is trying to rally the troops, remember, this isn't world war one. You don't have to jump on the bandwagon or come to the aide of anyone.
We are all adults here.