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I am probably very insensitive on this issue, but the more I read people's desperate cries for some type of relationship advice, the more I disagree with all the preaching for patience as if that is the only true answer. Patience doesn't get you anywhere most of the time. In your relationship with Christ, patience is the key. You grow in a relationship with Christ. He is always there, so you have a basis to start from. Human's are different. In your relationship with humans, patience is never the key in terms of meeting them. You have to be proactive.
You have to be constructive in actually meeting people and finding someone that is compatable. God will always help you when you pray, but you need to pray for the strength to actually take action with it as well. For all you know, your perfect christian mate might already be in your life, but you are so busy praying for that person to show up that you forget that God might have already helped you. Nothing in life comes easy, and there is no lottery ticket in terms of meeting someone without working for it. Go out and talk to someone! Stop bottling yourself up inside and refusing to be who you are in hopes that a miracle will happen. Abraham had to leave Ur before God would work in his life. The same should be applied to you.
Everyone want's companionship. We are made that way. It's an automatic given. Eve was created for Adam based on this basic knowledge. We don't live in that day and age anymore, though. The world is populated with people beyond comprehension, and there IS someone out there that will love you. You have to be proactive in finding them though. The perfect person could be sitting next to you, but if you don't talk to them, how would any of it ever work?
I don't understand why everyone is so afraid of rejection that they refuse to give the chance to be accepted. I could go out and talk to 10 girls today, and possibly be rejected by all of them. I could also have the chance to be accepted by 1 or more of them as well. It would fall squarely on me as a man to try to talk to someone that I was attracted to. Also, if I went to a bar to find someone, most likely they will not be good christians. I know this already. If I do it through a church, I might get a different outcome. This falls squarely on my shoulders, and I know this.
The more everyone says "I have never been kissed, and I am this age or that age," whose responsibility does that fall on? Be yourself and meet someone. God will help steer you in the right direction, but he always always always gives us a choice. Instead of just praying for a girlfriend or boyfriend, pray to have the strength to meet them too. Pray for the ability of understanding for when both of you don't see eye to eye. Then, pray for the patience to be able to withhold from the temptations that go along with having a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Think of it this way. If God KNEW that you wouldn't be able to keep yourself pure and focused on Him if He answered your prayer for a partner, do you think it would be His will to give you one anyway? Sometimes you need to look outside of the box and focus your prayer more on fixing the negatives before they happen. If you have managed to stay a virgin by the age of 20, it is probably a far better thing than you imagine. If you had a girlfriend your whole life, I am willing to bet that you would NOT be one thus far, and your heart would have been broken many times over. This possibly could have led you astray from God, who should always be your focus anyway.
My thoughts are this: If you are still young and still haven't had a girlfriend/boyfriend and you are able to pray everyday because of that reason, you are blessed. You are forced to focus on God for that reason alone. It is the same concept that the poor are more willing to pray and be saved than the rich. They have far more need of divine help than a rich person. Desperate people are the ones that go to God for help. You should look at this as a blessing. Having a partner takes up far more focus away from God than you think it does at this stage. Learn from it first, because when you do have find your partner, you will know how to keep your focus squarely on God instead of things like sex.
Just my two cents... feel free to bash me or agree
You have to be constructive in actually meeting people and finding someone that is compatable. God will always help you when you pray, but you need to pray for the strength to actually take action with it as well. For all you know, your perfect christian mate might already be in your life, but you are so busy praying for that person to show up that you forget that God might have already helped you. Nothing in life comes easy, and there is no lottery ticket in terms of meeting someone without working for it. Go out and talk to someone! Stop bottling yourself up inside and refusing to be who you are in hopes that a miracle will happen. Abraham had to leave Ur before God would work in his life. The same should be applied to you.
Everyone want's companionship. We are made that way. It's an automatic given. Eve was created for Adam based on this basic knowledge. We don't live in that day and age anymore, though. The world is populated with people beyond comprehension, and there IS someone out there that will love you. You have to be proactive in finding them though. The perfect person could be sitting next to you, but if you don't talk to them, how would any of it ever work?
I don't understand why everyone is so afraid of rejection that they refuse to give the chance to be accepted. I could go out and talk to 10 girls today, and possibly be rejected by all of them. I could also have the chance to be accepted by 1 or more of them as well. It would fall squarely on me as a man to try to talk to someone that I was attracted to. Also, if I went to a bar to find someone, most likely they will not be good christians. I know this already. If I do it through a church, I might get a different outcome. This falls squarely on my shoulders, and I know this.
The more everyone says "I have never been kissed, and I am this age or that age," whose responsibility does that fall on? Be yourself and meet someone. God will help steer you in the right direction, but he always always always gives us a choice. Instead of just praying for a girlfriend or boyfriend, pray to have the strength to meet them too. Pray for the ability of understanding for when both of you don't see eye to eye. Then, pray for the patience to be able to withhold from the temptations that go along with having a girlfriend/boyfriend.
Think of it this way. If God KNEW that you wouldn't be able to keep yourself pure and focused on Him if He answered your prayer for a partner, do you think it would be His will to give you one anyway? Sometimes you need to look outside of the box and focus your prayer more on fixing the negatives before they happen. If you have managed to stay a virgin by the age of 20, it is probably a far better thing than you imagine. If you had a girlfriend your whole life, I am willing to bet that you would NOT be one thus far, and your heart would have been broken many times over. This possibly could have led you astray from God, who should always be your focus anyway.
My thoughts are this: If you are still young and still haven't had a girlfriend/boyfriend and you are able to pray everyday because of that reason, you are blessed. You are forced to focus on God for that reason alone. It is the same concept that the poor are more willing to pray and be saved than the rich. They have far more need of divine help than a rich person. Desperate people are the ones that go to God for help. You should look at this as a blessing. Having a partner takes up far more focus away from God than you think it does at this stage. Learn from it first, because when you do have find your partner, you will know how to keep your focus squarely on God instead of things like sex.
Just my two cents... feel free to bash me or agree
