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God blessed me at 23 with a child........and then......He blessed me with a child at 38......
I loved being a mom in my twenties....tripping along ....not really sure of me.....and my abilities...
But when I had a baby at 38.....wow.....I was sure of what kind of mom I was....I was comfortable
and not a nervous wreck......it was an amazing experience.....peaceful.......my baby is now 19......
we are best friends.....I'm active and mature enough to understand and be able to give her good tested advice...........so have hearts my sisters....having babies is more fun in your thirties....then It
was in our twenties.....you all have plenty of time.......besides after all these years....God has always come through......always faithful.....and so giving......He has got you.....He hears you......
its time to prepare yourselves by learning to be good mothers....by getting your bodies healthy....
prepare yourselves for the blessing Gods getting ready to give you.....and work on your patience....
cause ya need a lot of it .....when you do have your babies.......peace....jo
I loved being a mom in my twenties....tripping along ....not really sure of me.....and my abilities...
But when I had a baby at 38.....wow.....I was sure of what kind of mom I was....I was comfortable
and not a nervous wreck......it was an amazing experience.....peaceful.......my baby is now 19......
we are best friends.....I'm active and mature enough to understand and be able to give her good tested advice...........so have hearts my sisters....having babies is more fun in your thirties....then It
was in our twenties.....you all have plenty of time.......besides after all these years....God has always come through......always faithful.....and so giving......He has got you.....He hears you......
its time to prepare yourselves by learning to be good mothers....by getting your bodies healthy....
prepare yourselves for the blessing Gods getting ready to give you.....and work on your patience....
cause ya need a lot of it .....when you do have your babies.......peace....jo
To all of the singles out there, I would love to share some experience and some warnings. Yes God has put desires in all of us to help perpetuate the species but take a look around right now. I have four children and have been married for fifteen years and counting. I love my wife and kids and that's why life is hard. Let's admit we are all messed up. Even if you aren't ready to admit you're messed up at least agree that the person you will fall for is most likely messed up. Watching my kids have to endure the sufferings of this world and the pain they will face breaks my heart. At 38 of all the people I know I would say 70% are divorced or have divorced. Out of the remaining 30% I'd conclude that their marriages are shaky. The happily married couple doesn't exist anymore that I can see. Not for any significant length of time. They might love each other but the pressures that exist today are enormous. Parenting is an all consuming challenge questioning continually your effectiveness. You want to hide them from all of the crap that's out there but you can't. People are selfish by nature. Everybody brings unattainable expectations into the marriage. People are all stressed and on the edge most of the time. Trying to find a spouse who first has similar philosophies as you and then hoping they aren't bringing decades of emotional baggage into the relationship when your closet is already full is impossible. I really wasn't planning a rant but I guess this is therapeutic in a way. Again I love my family and that is the cause for my anxiety because I'm the leader and feel responsible. I do trust God but that doesn't mean they won't suffer. They too now have to live in a fallen world trying to establish relationships with broken people who will most likely hurt them deeply. This in itself keeps me praying diligently. So this Valentines Day as everyone puts on their I love you faces and opens their obligatory presents give yourself a hug and say, "Thank you God." Tomorrow most of them will go back to hurting each other and wondering if that was their last Valentines Day together. Please don't think this is me being negative, I am just telling you plain naked truth. The grass is greener over here because of all the "fertilizer".
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Thank you for sharing that. It actually gives me hope and encourages me. I have thought about it before and I have looked back in my twenties and was very selfish and Im actually glad I had that time and nothing forced me to be unselfish. I think now Im choosing to be unselfish and selfless with a lot of my actions and I appreciate and want to help others because IM CHOOSING too. I know a lot of people are faced with different situations, but I think God knew all along I wasn't ready. I could be ready if the situation arises, but I feel like God spoils me in a way and He lets me figure it out in a slow way. I don't know if any of this is making sense. I hope my 30's will be awesome and all my dreams come true in them. Twenties was very rough, but all learning!!! Thank you again!!
R
Thank you for being honest and I totally understand. I have been married before and I am divorced. I married my high school sweetheart and we had no baggage I guess you could say, considering we were 15 when we started. I now have baggage and God has been so good to me with digging deep within me to handle all my issues and sort them out as they have cause my relationships after my marriage to break, because I brought the baggage and the Uhaul truck into the relationships, lol.
Ive been on the other side and your right, it is ALOT of work. I remember the last relationship I was in, I remember wishing I was single because of all the pressure and stress of trying to please another person. At times I do sit alone and soak it in, knowing that it wont always be just me and Christ! Im trying my hardest during this time to work on myself, grow, lose weight, pay of debt, help others, fix my weaknesses because when Im in a relationship, I wont have this time and availability. Just like with everything there are pros and cons. Being lonely, or trying to find someone to go on a trip with, or just a big ole hug and kiss is sometimes something you miss. Thank you again for sharing!!!!! Sometimes we need to be reminded that being single are pros to it! So is marriage.......it sounds like you are doing a great job and I will pray that God will help the burden on your shoulders of being a leader and an example to your wife and kids
Ive been on the other side and your right, it is ALOT of work. I remember the last relationship I was in, I remember wishing I was single because of all the pressure and stress of trying to please another person. At times I do sit alone and soak it in, knowing that it wont always be just me and Christ! Im trying my hardest during this time to work on myself, grow, lose weight, pay of debt, help others, fix my weaknesses because when Im in a relationship, I wont have this time and availability. Just like with everything there are pros and cons. Being lonely, or trying to find someone to go on a trip with, or just a big ole hug and kiss is sometimes something you miss. Thank you again for sharing!!!!! Sometimes we need to be reminded that being single are pros to it! So is marriage.......it sounds like you are doing a great job and I will pray that God will help the burden on your shoulders of being a leader and an example to your wife and kids
Wait upon the Lord. Wait, I say, upon the Lord.
Psalm 27:14
Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.
Psalm 27:14
Wait on the Lord: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the Lord.