Getting impatient with God

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RachelP03

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Ive been struggling lately with trusting God with my future. I want what He wants and I want the mate God wants for me if that is His will, but I don't know if Im just getting tired of waiting or what, but what do you do when you get in this impatient point in life? What helps build your trust and faith in God?
 
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I think the biggest things that help me out when I start to get in that mindset are remembering who God is and also having gratitude. I try to remind myself that God is a loving Father who is for my good and His glory, and that He is working all things out to that end, so I really just have to trust Him and allow Him to work. Along with that, I try to remember that it's not going to do me any good to focus on what I don't have because there is so much that I do have that God has given to me. I don't want to neglect all that God has blessed me with just to focus on one thing that I don't have. "The Lord is my Shepherd; I shall not want" is something I try to keep in mind :)
 
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RachelP03

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I don't know why that it seems like the past few days I have been struggling more than ever. I hate the feeling of not being able to trust God even though He has been so good to me! I feel as if Im chained down and I cant be released or something. I know this isn't what I want to think or feel, but I cant seem to just feel free. Im walking the walk as close and good as I can, but its just certain moments I get overwhelmed and scared that Im going to die an old lady alone. Thank you for writing me and I do need to focus on what I do have instead of what I don't have. Maybe its because Valentines day is approaching and its just a reminder of what I don't have.....I don't know!!!
 
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Hi RachelP03,

For me, I would say to give thanks for what God is doing in you and in your life. Give thanks for the hardships and your "enemies" if you have any. Realize that God works all things to the good of those who love Him. All of our trials are blessings which can conform us to Christ and bring about spiritual maturity in us. They are one of the main ways how our Father raises us.

Forget speaking in tongues, find a place to be alone (the car for me) and just sing your own song to God. Make it up as you go lol, it doesn't matter how good it sounds (if it did, id be in trouble).

Find a topic that really interests you and study the Bible to find the answers. Reading the words of God is really helpful, especially when it's something you are interested in. (maybe study what it means to walk in the spirit/abide in Christ, God's definition of love)

Experience something that fills you with awe. For me it could be a sunrise, or watching a movie about the universe or DNA. Try not to dwell on the mundane, live in the present but have eternity in mind.

Realize that all these temptations and doubts we experience are Satan trying to deceive and destroy you. (Sounds crazy, but once I realized that it's true, my spiritual maturity skyrocketed. It changed how I view everything).

Find a good group of Christians to fellowship with and a way to contribute to the body of Christ. That can help in many ways and could help you meet your husband.

Don't think that a husband will magically change your life in any way. There's a great chance that it will make your life much more difficult and take your time and attention off of God and whatever else you love.

eh... I thought I had more to say but Im getting tired and my mind is getting fuzzy
 
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Someone wise told me that turning 30 is a big deal. Especially for women who want to be married and have kids. We (myself included) get panicky and worried and wonder does God really have someone for me?
My advice, and what I'm trying to do is to cast your cares on Him because He cares for you. Give the worries over to God, pray for yourself and your future husband. Sink your teeth into something worth while in the mean time. Live life passionately for God, it's great for you and highly attractive to a potential mate.
 
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RachelP03

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Honestly, a lot of that I already do, but I just recently got more in the Bible. I read a lot of devotions and Christian books that pertain to my walk, like with waiting and preparing myself to be a wife and who I am in Christ, etc. I just really felt like God was tugging at my heart to read the Bible directly, so I have the past few days.

Thank you for writing me and explaining all those things. I think sometimes we just need to be reminded of certain things. :)
 
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Your right!!! 30 is a big deal and I think us at this age, pretty much know who we are and what we want. I always thought I would of been done having kids by 30 and not starting, (God willing). Just shows I guess that we are not in control of our life and His plans are higher than our plans!!! :)
 
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I have definitely struggled a lot with very similar feelings, especially having just turned 30 a few days ago. Yes, even us guys deal with a lot of those same feelings and worries. I sure have had my moments and it has been very difficult to remember that God's will is a lot better than my current wants.
 
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God isn't a match maker, except in only a few rare cases.

It's a myth that's been circulated by the modern church that God is some type of cupid and is disproved by how similar the divorce rates are between christians and non-christians. That's why so often christians blame God when their marriage fails because they were taught that God had brought their partner to them
 
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sc81 said:
God isn't a match maker, except in only a few rare cases.

It's a myth that's been circulated by the modern church that God is some type of cupid and is disproved by how similar the divorce rates are between christians and non-christians. That's why so often christians blame God when their marriage fails because they were taught that God had brought their partner to them
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I agree to a point, God did give us brains and instincts and feelings, so obviously God does expect us to make decisions about our lives. I think Marriages are always blessed by God (unless someone is being very dishonest) And most of us have to choose our own partners but behind that, no one can really know how much of a match maker God really is? I think the point is, don't sit on your hands waiting for God to do everything for you
 
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Somebody once asked me "What if you never get what you want? Would you still love and serve God?" It's hard to totally surrender to the Lord when you want something and we are all in a position of not knowing what our future is. You need to reach the place where you are thankful and content with where you are at and with what you have. To delight yourself in the Lord and have Him give you the desires of your heart doesn't necessarily mean He will give you what you want but your desires will begin to line up with His.
 
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hmm - are you a woman who puts herself under God's word? Do you live in Florida?
 
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i understand the frustration. i'm 31 and single, which as a hispanic woman can be a big no-no. i should be married with about 3 kids by now lol fortunately, i don't have my family pressuring me to get married. neither do my friends. but i've learned (or am learning) to trust God. i'd rather be single than be in a relationship with the wrong person. i dated a guy for almost 5 years, and although i learned a lot about myself and the opposite sex, sometimes i feel it was a waste of time because it didn't lead to marriage. i don't want that to happen again. so it's a learning process. what if i never get married? does that make me less of a person? no. but i admit, some days it's difficult. i'm glad i can be completely honest with God about it :)
 
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RachelP03 said:
Ive been struggling lately with trusting God with my future. I want what He wants and I want the mate God wants for me if that is His will, but I don't know if Im just getting tired of waiting or what, but what do you do when you get in this impatient point in life? What helps build your trust and faith in God?
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You are taking the right approach in trusting in God to search and find your heart's desire. I know from experience that it is best to trust in God in providing a future spouse rather than relying on your own devices. Please be patient a little longer. I have said a prayer for you.
 
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melita916 said:
i understand the frustration. i'm 31 and single, which as a hispanic woman can be a big no-no. i should be married with about 3 kids by now lol fortunately, i don't have my family pressuring me to get married. neither do my friends. but i've learned (or am learning) to trust God. i'd rather be single than be in a relationship with the wrong person. i dated a guy for almost 5 years, and although i learned a lot about myself and the opposite sex, sometimes i feel it was a waste of time because it didn't lead to marriage. i don't want that to happen again. so it's a learning process. what if i never get married? does that make me less of a person? no. but i admit, some days it's difficult. i'm glad i can be completely honest with God about it :)
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It is good to trust in God for searching and finding the man that will love you and be faithful to you. I believe that you bring a lot to the table and would make a wonderful wife. I have said a prayer for you. Fear not.
 
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I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure. He put a new song in my mouth, a song of praise to our God. Many will see and fear, and put their trust in the Lord. (Psalm 40:1-3)

The Lord is good to those who wait for him, to the soul who seeks him. (Lamentations 3:25)

These are great to memorize. :eek:
 
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Your right!!! 30 is a big deal and I think us at this age, pretty much know who we are and what we want. I always thought I would of been done having kids by 30 and not starting, (God willing). Just shows I guess that we are not in control of our life and His plans are higher than our plans!!! :)
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30 is what you make of it. Personally, I believe that age is little more than a number.
 
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Not ideal to think about ones age to much at this time in life. Its good to remember God is always there with his arms reached out for us, even when there isn't any human ones.

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ah..mates, GOD..and how it all fits together! In my case, I had been advised by a Southern Evangelist, at age 14, that GOD has a soul mate out there just for us. So, I started praying then..and by age 17, I met her..knew it instantly, even though she needed a little convincing. We have been happily married since 1976! Do not get impatient..it does your heart NO good. Life is full serving HIM, with or without an instant mate in your life. Imagine, if you will, that you are being led into a certain ministry and you are working away when suddenly, someone else who also has the same interests and working out his spiritual calling. Presto! No wonder GOD had you to wait. You two souls just had to meet while doing what GOD intends for your lifes. What a better way! In short, make sure you are using your spiritual gifts and seeking HIS will so that you are exposed to someone else doing the same thing. As for me, I was a part of a Youth Team and so was she!
 
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RachelP03

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Im turning 30 this year also and always wanted to have children and be done by 30, but then I guess its not up to me. Im sorry you are struggling with it too, I can relate!
 
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