okay I was wondering. I have a girlfriend. but I didn't know that she already had a boyfriend...But her boyfriend is fine with our relationship.. Is this a sin? I know it would be if she where married but she's not. Will god forgive me? I told her one day she would have to choose. I don't live with her. He does though. Not sure what to do I love this girl but Its just such a weird situation any advice?
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she already has a bf..it was wrong of her not to tell you this..sounds like she likes to play the field.. her bf being ok with having to share her should send up red flags.. bow out gracefully and save yourself a headache and heartache down the road.. never mess with someone who's already taken..even if she did mislead you..this girl is bad news all around in my opinion, and her bf doesnt sound much better.. find someone of your own who you dont have to share..
Are you sleeping with her? If so, that is a sin all on it's own. Yes, you can be forgiven if you repent and turn from it, following Christ with all of your heart.
As far as her having a boyfriend (who she is living with - wow, what a mess) - you didn't know about that so I don't believe you can be held responsible. However, NOW you do know, so you need to cut off contact with her.
I'm hoping you can take a step back and separate yourself from her regardless of your feelings for her. She appears to have been lying to you, has been unfaithful to both you and her other boyfriend (whether or not they are married), and seems to be lacking in morality to be in this situation at all but especially in not being bothered by it. I would disengage from her if I were you, and concentrate on following the Lord.
As far as her having a boyfriend (who she is living with - wow, what a mess) - you didn't know about that so I don't believe you can be held responsible. However, NOW you do know, so you need to cut off contact with her.
I'm hoping you can take a step back and separate yourself from her regardless of your feelings for her. She appears to have been lying to you, has been unfaithful to both you and her other boyfriend (whether or not they are married), and seems to be lacking in morality to be in this situation at all but especially in not being bothered by it. I would disengage from her if I were you, and concentrate on following the Lord.
Well I already told her Id try it and I cant back out. I was just wondering if it was a sinful relationship....she's not married I don't see anything in the bible about having two boyfriends. I want to marry her someday. But if I get jealous im going to have to back out... If she cant pick one then I will leave. Your right though I shouldn't have to feel like a third wheel.
wait, chick has another dude but didn't tell you until later and come to find out she is living with him (and you know sleeping with him).
and you want to marry her someday.
uh, PLEASE tell me you are smarter then you are appearing right now. (I am not trying to be mean) but come on. she is a cheater. why would you even waste time on that.
and you want to marry her someday.
uh, PLEASE tell me you are smarter then you are appearing right now. (I am not trying to be mean) but come on. she is a cheater. why would you even waste time on that.
of course you can back out.. you're playing with fire here!! And I guarantee you'll get burned, and will regret it..she's using you and your allowing it.. If a woman sleeps with two men, that is called adultery, or cheating at the very least.. she already has a boyfriend, and you need to accept and respect that and move on.. God has someone much better for you.. if you have a lick of sense, you'll leave this girl alone and run far away from what can only end in trouble..
I had someone tell me through text after a year of being together she felt obligated to be with me the entire time because she felt I was a nice guy and she didn't want to hurt my feelings at the time I asked her out. Another girl started seeing someone else when she volunteered at a summer camp, and didn't tell me until after the summer ended. And only because I had a feeling something was wrong. The point is it always is better to find out the truth sooner than later. I know it sucks to have your heartbroken. But it's easier to pick up the pieces now and move on with your life. Without this girl and her boyfriend in it. You don't know what God has in place for you for the future. We meet new people all the time in mysterious ways. Keep your chin up, and don't look back. You deserve better than this.
Brandon, listen to me. She's NOT your girlfriend; she's just playing you; she already has a boyfriend. You won't have anyone for Valentine's Day, even if you "stay with her". If you don't want to be alone on Saturday, stay here on the forums or go in the chat room and hang out with us for V Day.
You put on your profile that you're trying to follow Jesus. Well, now's the time to make good on that assertion ... I could list the Bible verses that apply here, but do you need them? Time to make a decision, buddy. I'm praying for you right now as I type this. "Jesus, please help him. Show him how much You love him and want him to feel truly loved; the love that we feel when we follow you. The peace that passes all understanding, please give that to Brandon now, Sir. Flood him with peace now. In Your name, amen."
You put on your profile that you're trying to follow Jesus. Well, now's the time to make good on that assertion ... I could list the Bible verses that apply here, but do you need them? Time to make a decision, buddy. I'm praying for you right now as I type this. "Jesus, please help him. Show him how much You love him and want him to feel truly loved; the love that we feel when we follow you. The peace that passes all understanding, please give that to Brandon now, Sir. Flood him with peace now. In Your name, amen."
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Forget about her and focus on the Lord. If you are meant to be married, the Lord will bring the right woman into your life someday. For now be content. You can do so much while single. Don't waste your time and lose your dignity on this woman. You deserve a girl who will make you her priority and will follow God's commandments.
I will pray for you, that lady and even the man she is living with. The whole situation is completely strange from my perspective. I hope all three of you can fix that and follow God's plan for your lives. Read the Word to gain a better understanding of what the Lord asks of us.
God bless you!
I will pray for you, that lady and even the man she is living with. The whole situation is completely strange from my perspective. I hope all three of you can fix that and follow God's plan for your lives. Read the Word to gain a better understanding of what the Lord asks of us.
God bless you!
the question you need to answer for yourself is why you would feel that you deserve only "part" of a relationship. or why you deserve to settle for a woman who won't choose you, 100% for you, and you alone.
don't ever shortchange yourself on the best outcome, the healthiest relationship, or settle for second best.
anytime i see someone who is willing to settle for such a paltry and poor substitute for a healthy relationship, the first question i have is what is going on in your life and heart that makes you open to such a broken scenario. you deserve healthy, not counterfeit.
yes, you are attached right now, and it's painful to break those connections. but the sooner, the better. remind yourself that what you thought you had with her is not what exists. your relationship (or what you thought of it) isn't what appeared to be.
don't ever shortchange yourself on the best outcome, the healthiest relationship, or settle for second best.
anytime i see someone who is willing to settle for such a paltry and poor substitute for a healthy relationship, the first question i have is what is going on in your life and heart that makes you open to such a broken scenario. you deserve healthy, not counterfeit.
yes, you are attached right now, and it's painful to break those connections. but the sooner, the better. remind yourself that what you thought you had with her is not what exists. your relationship (or what you thought of it) isn't what appeared to be.