I have tried helping fixing people. It usually doesn't work. I was just thinking about this the other day, someone I used to work with, I tried so hard to get her to stop doing the thing she was doing, sleeping around. I tried hard to get her to see that she was worth more, it didn't work and she kept on doing what she was doing. I eventually left the work place and don't communicate with her anymore, but have you ever tried to fix someone and realized, it just doesn't work?
I totally understood what you were saying here Fenner. I am often amused when people start threads like this and then everyone else tries to "help" the OP with their "problem" when the whole point of the thread was to discuss the topic itself.
This happens to poor Kim all the time.
Yes... I am a convicted fixer. I try to fix everyone around me, even myself. I even go so far as to research what the person is going through so that I can give them valid advice and three easy steps to correct themselves. HA. I remember going through my dark valley three years ago, doing SO much research on how to fix myself. You have to do this, and this, and think about it like this, and NOT think about it like this... and you'll heal. Ugh. Well, a lot of it did actually help me, but for the most part I learned that sometimes people NEED to go through their own mess, and even hit rock bottom in many cases, in order to be "ready" to heal and get better. And in other cases, it takes TIME... and the Lord... to get past things. And then there are those who never do get past it, because they really just don't want to.
I'm usually the last one fighting. Everyone else has already given up, and I'm still in the ring attempting futilely to change this person's life, to help this person overcome. Just this last week I've been dealing with that. The need to walk away. And walking away appears unloving, which is very hard for me. But there's a place for it, and I've reached it. I feel the Lord saying "Angie. You can stop fighting now. Let me deal with this myself in my own way." I'm growing, slowly, and learning... Thank you Lord.