Why am I a magnet for unavailable men?? UGH!!

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hellynn

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OK...so I dont date because of the fact that right now its not for me....due to rebuilding my life around and other important issues needing to be taken care of......but it seems however...that ALWAYS an dihate to say this.but its liek always the wrong guy at the wrong time...or the right guy at the wrong time and half the time I am NOT looking for this to happen but it happens tome anway!! ugh!! can SOMEONE pls EXPLAIn this frustration to me?? I was on facebook last night and an ex IMd me and started rehashing the past and he is MARRIED!! i jsut kept redirecting the convo but it didnt matter...he didnt change ONE BIT!! Still hit on me and flirted and im like : "ok!! IM DONE!!" I delete him bc why even go there?? Seriously! I love God i couldev used more wisdom then obviously that i had lacked last night --(no critism pls im already my wost criitc...) I just want to knwo why is it that when u r doing ur best to seek God and a re great person not bc of who u r in urself but bc of HIS awesome faithfulness in ur life...its liek bottom feeders and sludge eaters of wolves in sheeps clothing always prey on u.....as a single almost 30 year old; this SUCKS!! lol....anyway..Im ok with b eing single im just not ok with being messed with from unavailble men such as married men , exes etc...and it jsut sometimes messes with me is that ALL i attraxt?? even at work some men have NO shame and hit on u in front of their kids...at register...desperation is sad...whats worse is when is deseperation on both ends...you become desperate too!! ugh lol...THANK GOD He is seeing me thru all this...I just pray i will cont to be a prov 31 woman..i m nto saying i have "arrived" and bla bla look at me....im jsut frustrated that even at times when i was praying boot accepting dates or begin dating again...it jsut nmever worked out even when iw as ready....i just wonder if ill ever attract a man of God who has integrity, morals and a passion for souls...thats not perfectionism....just certain things id liek in common bc i love the mission field souls and to havea clean conscience..who doesnt?? Just venting here...thanks for listening...in Christ, hellynn
 
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Liz01

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Well....I think that maybe it happens to you because as you said, you are rebuilding your life and in the deep inside of you, maybe you dont want a relationship and maybe when you be ready for a relationshp, you will be attracting single men.
I have known married men that want to go out with me too, but I think that is better to be alone and wait for a man of God that to be with married men. I am convinced that God is wise and do all the things for a reason and in the rigth time. So, be confident in God and don´t desperate, the man that God have for you will be available :)
 
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