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p_rehbein

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Don't pick your nose on the first date.............
 
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ServantStrike

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#22

well, i am too. but cut her a little slack.

when's the last time you wore a bra holster or thigh holster under a ballgown???
Ahahahaa. Oh I lol'd at this one pretty hard.

You got me. As long as Cinderella wasn't carrying something that wasn't drop safe I'd probably do the chivalrous thing and help her pick up whatever it is she dropped, and then ask her out on like... 5 or 6 follow up dates - because Cinderella just got a lot more interesting. Chances are good she's a conservative, so, game on.

You won't get me to confirm or deny anything other than muzzle loading on an open forum though :p. Though I can say with certainty I've never tried wearing a dress, let alone a bra or thigh holster.
 
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mystikmind

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My advice is to slow it way down. Your divorce isn't even finalized yet. Slow down, heal, and take your time. It's not a rush - you said yourself you commit too fast and get tunnel vision. Confidence isn't a bad thing, but just because you've found it doesn't mean it's time to use it yet in the dating arena.

I also recommend you do some reading on the biblical grounds for divorce, and make sure whatever happened that your wife has crossed that threshold, or should be a moot point. That's an unpopular opinion - but it's an important one. You will not hear much discussion on the topic in your average church, because it doesn't exactly fill pews with divorce rates hovering between 30 and 50 percent.
I have gone through allot, learnt allot, and worked very hard to get over my wife. If she came up to me tomorrow and said she wanted to try to work things out, i would say no, of this i am sure.

When she told me the marriage was over it was absolutely and FYI statement, i had no say at all in the matter. When i asked her to go to marriage counseling she said "do you really want to drag me through that?" But she agreed to go anyway. But then when the therapist asked her out of 100 how much did she want to try to save the marriage she said "zero". The therapist had nothing to work with, from that point on it became how to break up counseling. So this is why i will never take her back and if she tried, i will remind her that she had her chance at marriage counseling and blew it off. If she had at least tried a tiny bit, things would be different, but that is the way it is, i accept it, i am ok with it, i have moved on already.
 

p_rehbein

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Yeah, like don't pig out on refried beans...........on a first date.......
 
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skylove7

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I just don't have time for all this flowery talk and complicated beating around the bush.

Why can't people just hurry up and get to the point?

Come on, go go go.

Geesh.
Lol.....awww Maxwell :)
 

maxwel

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Yeah, like don't pig out on refried beans...........on a first date.......
Knowledge pours from this man like water from a leaky hose.

I mean, it's like I just stand next to him, and wisdom just oozes all over my sneakers.
 

Fenner

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This is correct, and i understand the importance to get out there and meet new people and make new friends. But while doing this, i am fairly certain i am going to come across women that i like.... and taking it slow is not a problem for me. But here is the trick, while i am taking it slow with a women i like, how do i hold back from feeling committed to that and remain open to whatever else may come in the future?

I don't know, hate to say that but you will just have to keep yourself in check. I don't know if there really is a secret. For example, I'm trying to lose weight, I can get a lot of inspiration or advice but I'm the only one who can stop myself from eating the wrong food. Does that make sense?
One thing I do is avoid the junk food in the first place, but when I can't I pray and remind myself why I'm doing what I'm doing.

:)
 
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mystikmind

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I don't know, hate to say that but you will just have to keep yourself in check. I don't know if there really is a secret. For example, I'm trying to lose weight, I can get a lot of inspiration or advice but I'm the only one who can stop myself from eating the wrong food. Does that make sense?
One thing I do is avoid the junk food in the first place, but when I can't I pray and remind myself why I'm doing what I'm doing.

:)
Yes, there are things about dating i find difficult to understand, and there is no shortage of secular wisdom on dating, but i don't know, much of it seems a little shallow too me, that is why i have asked the question on this forum?
 

Roh_Chris

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Knowledge pours from this man like water from a leaky hose.

I mean, it's like I just stand next to him, and wisdom just oozes all over my sneakers.
Aren't you supposed to finish the gardening and take out the trash? And please get that leaky hose replaced. We could do with a brand new one.
 
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mystikmind

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Yeah, and not shake somebody's hand. Yuck!
Good tip! on a first date, a gentle hug will suffice, and possibly a little kiss on the cheek. Watch out while going for the cheek kiss though, a sudden head turn and you could end up with allot more of a kiss than you bargained for! lol

Here is a tip for you ladies.... What i remember was the number one big issue for me when i was dating (before i was married) was the issue of trust. There were so many wonderful ladies out there but they have serious trust issues because of all the things that had happened to them with men in the past. I did try to understand but, i could not help the way it just killed the chemistry, seriously!
 
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skylove7

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A fruit! Wisebeardman Wisebeardman...its an apple or Pearman! Comes from a treeman, wisebeardman. :) shheesh