What do you do when you find yourself not happy?

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RachelP03

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What do you do when you find yourself not happy?

I'm not sure what God is doing in my life. I'm trying my hardest to listen and to follow Gods will. I'm accepting peoples request when it is allowing me to go out of my comfort zone and I'm finding a side of me that I never really explored. Ive always lived in a bubble and since Im single and seeking God, Im boldly stepping out in faith, but yet Im not happy. It seems like Im seeking happiness and Im willing to try and find it anywhere possible, but then as I type that I realize that's not it. I know God wants me to go to these events and He wants me to share my testimony with people I don't know. Could the enemy be after me because Im doing Gods will? Two days ago I felt content, now I feel like my emotions are all up in the air and I don't know whats true or right anymore with what Im doing. I know your not supposed ot go by your emotions cause they constantly change. Theres something inside me that waits on God for and what He has placed on my heart seems like will never come to pass.

I feel God, I know Hes around me, I know He cares and I know He hears my cry. I would LOVE for Him to tell me what to do or show a possible glimpse of what He has in store for me as I keep seeking Him, but we all know that's where faith and trust lies. Its been a year and He has blessed me trimindously, I feel as if Im growing impatient. I love God so much and I never want to stop praising Him.....I don't know, maybe Im just in a funk today.
 
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I try to be as patient as I can be and God is teaching me to put all my trust and faith in him. When I feel unhappy, the first thing I do is try to figure out why and then I pray about it. I then open my bible and read. It makes me feel so much better. I also do this when I am scared or unsure about something. I will pray for you.
 
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started feeling like this since maybe I was 18 or maybe it was when I turned 19, can't remember.....I'm still blinded, no way of knowing for how long.........slowly lost most my passion, I kinda feel it's more of a blessing than a curse...... maybe once I stop enjoying music I will no longer be blinded......
 
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greg789 said:
started feeling like this since maybe I was 18 or maybe it was when I turned 19, can't remember.....I'm still blinded, no way of knowing for how long.........slowly lost most my passion, I kinda feel it's more of a blessing than a curse...... maybe once I stop enjoying music I will no longer be blinded......
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I found this, when I turned my whole life over to Christ. I have been saved since I was 8, but I have to admit I was more of a lukewarm, stupid Christian, lol. I knew the basics, but never really seeked more. I know when we are walking with Christ that's when the enemy likes to fill us up with doubt. Has it been happening since you turned your life over to God?
 
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cmarieh said:
I try to be as patient as I can be and God is teaching me to put all my trust and faith in him. When I feel unhappy, the first thing I do is try to figure out why and then I pray about it. I then open my bible and read. It makes me feel so much better. I also do this when I am scared or unsure about something. I will pray for you.
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Your right!!! I run to my prayer journal, but maybe I should open up the Bible just a little bit more. I know God has great plans for us and I know He cares and loves us and in this time is when He is molding us and He is wanting our attention and He wants us to give him trust and faith. Thank you for your prayers!! I need them!!! :)
 
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RachelP03 said:
Your right!!! I run to my prayer journal, but maybe I should open up the Bible just a little bit more. I know God has great plans for us and I know He cares and loves us and in this time is when He is molding us and He is wanting our attention and He wants us to give him trust and faith. Thank you for your prayers!! I need them!!! :)
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My inbox is open to you if you need to talk and vent as well.
 
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I just recently accepted Christ as my personal saviour, and my life was a complete mess prior to last week let me tell you! I thirst for His word, and I need him to show me what he wants me to do, but I too am being attacked by that evil satan ... telling me to go back to that wicked life that I was leading, but I have now been saved and I WILL NOT go back! Life can only get easier from here ... and no matter the temptation that I am fighting, I refuse to give in to the enemy. I will pray for you as well. Hugs
 
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When I couldn't find love where I expected to find it, I started seeking out God. Whether it was to actually seek true love, or to call God out I have no clue, but at this point I realize that my search for God is for a search of having my need for love fulfilled. It's only been a few years but it seems like the wait has been forever. If you want true peace and happiness, even when you're in your funky times, seek God out as you would a precious jewel. It's not just about reading scripture, it's about seeking out God in scripture, looking for who he is, and what his desires are. It's also about getting on your knees before Him on a daily basis, and not just asking, but begging and desiring his presence, knowing that without him you can do nothing. It's recognizing He needs to be the one to take control of your life because you cannot do it on your own.

Many people who read your post will be praying for you, I will be as well :) seeking out God has been the greatest joy of my life and the greatest romance I've ever lived in, I pray the same for you.
 
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Or..... you COULD just "Get Happy!"
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RachelP03 said:
I found this, when I turned my whole life over to Christ. I have been saved since I was 8, but I have to admit I was more of a lukewarm, stupid Christian, lol. I knew the basics, but never really seeked more. I know when we are walking with Christ that's when the enemy likes to fill us up with doubt. Has it been happening since you turned your life over to God?
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God started sending me the church since I was like 0=1, didn't truly receive him though til I was like 12 or 13, but I never really turned my life over to him, kinda thought I wasn't really worth it.......I've been asking for his wisdom for awhile though. It's hard for me to take anything in, I'm reading Job at the moment and I can kinda feel what it's about this time, but last night I tried to read chapter 19 and couldn't take it in so I just gave up. that's my greatest skill other than listening.
 
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roxxyroller said:
I just recently accepted Christ as my personal saviour, and my life was a complete mess prior to last week let me tell you! I thirst for His word, and I need him to show me what he wants me to do, but I too am being attacked by that evil satan ... telling me to go back to that wicked life that I was leading, but I have now been saved and I WILL NOT go back! Life can only get easier from here ... and no matter the temptation that I am fighting, I refuse to give in to the enemy. I will pray for you as well. Hugs
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Congrats on spending eternity in Heaven!!! WOOT WOOT!!! I actually personally think its so much harder to be saved and walking in this evil world then before we are saved. We are hated on and judged and the enemy hates us. I read the other day where this lady said, The devil hates God but cant attack him, so he attacks the closest thing, His children! But we have Gods word and His word gives us the armor that we need to fight against the spiritual warfare that we cant see. Walking with Christ, having faith and trust in him is so hard, but its so rewarding. I just know that Im personally struggling with something I really know that God told me and laid on my heart a year ago. I don't see the outcome or see it even coming close and I am totally in a rut of whether or not its worth it anymore. I know it could be years and I feel miserable at times on waiting and hoping.
 
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zaoman32 said:
When I couldn't find love where I expected to find it, I started seeking out God. Whether it was to actually seek true love, or to call God out I have no clue, but at this point I realize that my search for God is for a search of having my need for love fulfilled. It's only been a few years but it seems like the wait has been forever. If you want true peace and happiness, even when you're in your funky times, seek God out as you would a precious jewel. It's not just about reading scripture, it's about seeking out God in scripture, looking for who he is, and what his desires are. It's also about getting on your knees before Him on a daily basis, and not just asking, but begging and desiring his presence, knowing that without him you can do nothing. It's recognizing He needs to be the one to take control of your life because you cannot do it on your own.

Many people who read your post will be praying for you, I will be as well :) seeking out God has been the greatest joy of my life and the greatest romance I've ever lived in, I pray the same for you.
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That was beautifully written, thank you so much for sharing, it brought tears to my eyes. I want nothing more than to seek God and know Him more. I have recently even started to pray for speaking in tongues if that is Gods gift for me. I sometimes feel like God lied to me even tho I know God dosent lie. I know that's where my faith and trust is needing to be built even more. Thanks again sweet friend!
 
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greg789 said:
God started sending me the church since I was like 0=1, didn't truly receive him though til I was like 12 or 13, but I never really turned my life over to him, kinda thought I wasn't really worth it.......I've been asking for his wisdom for awhile though. It's hard for me to take anything in, I'm reading Job at the moment and I can kinda feel what it's about this time, but last night I tried to read chapter 19 and couldn't take it in so I just gave up. that's my greatest skill other than listening.
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Do you pray before you start reading, for God to open up your heart and so you can have understanding of the scriptures?
 
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I'd also say reading the Bible on whatever subject I am dealing with helps tremendously. Otherwise, I'll just mess around on the guitar and let the emotions spill out as blues rock, lol. Writing and talking to friends helps as well, although what I've found is that lack of happiness is usually caused by tiredness.

So, I address down times with spiritual, emotional, mental, and physiological solutions.
 
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I'd also say reading the Bible on whatever subject I am dealing with helps tremendously. Otherwise, I'll just mess around on the guitar and let the emotions spill out as blues rock, lol. Writing and talking to friends helps as well, although what I've found is that lack of happiness is usually caused by tiredness.

So, I address down times with spiritual, emotional, mental, and physiological solutions.
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ive thought about that, because Sundays are so hard for me, because I work nights and then I get 3 hours of sleep to go to church and then come straight home to take a nap right away. I love Sundays, but I dread them.
 
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RachelP03 said:
ive thought about that, because Sundays are so hard for me, because I work nights and then I get 3 hours of sleep to go to church and then come straight home to take a nap right away. I love Sundays, but I dread them.
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Ouch, that definitely could be a factor :(! Especially if it isn't a continuous feeling throughout the week.
 
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RachelP03 said:
What do you do when you find yourself not happy?

I'm not sure what God is doing in my life. I'm trying my hardest to listen and to follow Gods will. I'm accepting peoples request when it is allowing me to go out of my comfort zone and I'm finding a side of me that I never really explored. Ive always lived in a bubble and since Im single and seeking God, Im boldly stepping out in faith, but yet Im not happy. It seems like Im seeking happiness and Im willing to try and find it anywhere possible, but then as I type that I realize that's not it. I know God wants me to go to these events and He wants me to share my testimony with people I don't know. Could the enemy be after me because Im doing Gods will? Two days ago I felt content, now I feel like my emotions are all up in the air and I don't know whats true or right anymore with what Im doing. I know your not supposed ot go by your emotions cause they constantly change. Theres something inside me that waits on God for and what He has placed on my heart seems like will never come to pass.

I feel God, I know Hes around me, I know He cares and I know He hears my cry. I would LOVE for Him to tell me what to do or show a possible glimpse of what He has in store for me as I keep seeking Him, but we all know that's where faith and trust lies. Its been a year and He has blessed me trimindously, I feel as if Im growing impatient. I love God so much and I never want to stop praising Him.....I don't know, maybe Im just in a funk today.
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Rachel, my advice would be to wait this out for a while (a week or two perhaps) and see how you feel then. It is incredible to me how much my moods can change the way I feel about everything around me. If it's been just a few days that you've felt like this, it could very likely be just a funk you are going through, so try not to worry too much. Focus on Christ as your rock, and don't look down into the storm that is your emotions right now. Christ is steady and faithful, and He will anchor you. I know that's hard to do in the midst of uncertainty and turmoil! Those are the times when our faith (for a long-term plan for our benefit) is tested.

I think you are doing awesome by the way. You have a definite grasp on things, and you are careful in your thought processes. You will get through this!
 
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greg789 said:
God started sending me the church since I was like 0=1, didn't truly receive him though til I was like 12 or 13, but I never really turned my life over to him, kinda thought I wasn't really worth it.......I've been asking for his wisdom for awhile though. It's hard for me to take anything in, I'm reading Job at the moment and I can kinda feel what it's about this time, but last night I tried to read chapter 19 and couldn't take it in so I just gave up . that's my greatest skill other than listening.
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Actually, that is exactly what He asks us to do..... but, not in a negative, defeated way. LOL
 
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RachelP03 said:
Do you pray before you start reading, for God to open up your heart and so you can have understanding of the scriptures?
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yes, but I mainly pray after now, I know I won't be happy ever again til my death, that's the only thing I look forward to now in life. yes I know I'm messed up but it's the Honest truth, my truth and................*sigh*
 
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greg789 said:
yes, but I mainly pray after now, I know I won't be happy ever again til my death, that's the only thing I look forward to now in life. yes I know I'm messed up but it's the Honest truth, my truth and................*sigh*
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Did you sign up with Jesus to keep on following "your" truth, or His?

With everything you claim to be your truth that He says is not so, you are, in effect, trying to make Him out to be lying. Are you not?
 
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