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I do understand and appreciate very honest quotes like this but... Then it almost feels like there can be a thought of, "You should be grateful if you're being looked at like an object!!"
Maybe it's just me or the areas I've lived in but in many cases, when a stranger is looking you up and down, he's not thinking about "having a relationship" with you. He's wondering how easy of a hit'n'run you might be if he were to approach you.
On the other hand, comments from our older, wiser mentors here are making me even more afraid of aging than I already am (because every older person I know always says to me, "Don't get old!!", as if it's a choice.)
There has to be a balance somewhere... I just don't know what it is...
Maybe it's just me or the areas I've lived in but in many cases, when a stranger is looking you up and down, he's not thinking about "having a relationship" with you. He's wondering how easy of a hit'n'run you might be if he were to approach you.
On the other hand, comments from our older, wiser mentors here are making me even more afraid of aging than I already am (because every older person I know always says to me, "Don't get old!!", as if it's a choice.)
There has to be a balance somewhere... I just don't know what it is...
this is why whenever i go to the store, i go straight to the item, purchase, and run away lol
in all honesty, i've never had a problem with strangers looking at me that way. either that or i never noticed. only times i've had people talk to me at the store is when the store employee asks me if i need any help looking for an item
in all honesty, i've never had a problem with strangers looking at me that way. either that or i never noticed. only times i've had people talk to me at the store is when the store employee asks me if i need any help looking for an item
V
Years ago, I read where some actress told Marilyn Monroe that she wished she looked like her. Miss Monroe replied, “Men love you for who you are. Men only want to use me because of the way I look.” Marilyn also stated that she always felt she was sold to the public as “a celluloid aphrodisiac”. She knew nobody took her seriously, as an actress or as a real woman. When interviewed she would beg, “Please don’t make me a joke.” How very sad.
Marilyn (Norma Jean) was deserted by her mother and lived in various foster homes and was molested and raped many times. She married young to avoid being returned to an orphanage. When she realized her extraordinary looks could get her places, she used it to her advantage, for a time. It ultimately became her downfall. The fact that people couldn’t see past her physical features was what catapulted her into depression. In foolish desperation she went through numerous affairs looking for the one man who would really love her.
I’m writing this to women who feel they don’t measure up to the standard of beauty portrayed in the media. Victoria’s Secret models, Playmates, Hollywood actresses, rock stars. Even some Christian women evangelists on the television and in self-help books look very similar to Hollywood starlets.
I’m writing this to men for the same reason. For in today’s society, men have just as much pressure on them as women do to conform to an image. Be financially successful, metrosexual, emasculated, good looking, toned, ripped, virile, seductive, and politically correct.
The fact is: it’s all about money and power. If the media can convince you that beauty, success and fame are worth striving for, you’re trapped in idolatry. I’m not a fan of Joyce Meyer, but she said something that is worth remembering. She said, “Whatever you do to gain someone’s love, you will have to continue to do to maintain it.” In other words, you enslave yourself to your flesh.
The carnal world profits from the flesh through advertising and the entertainment industry. We as Christians, do not profit by it. It is our downfall. Praise God that the body of Christ no longer has to judge one another according to the flesh. We recognize one another by the Spirit of Jesus Christ who dwells in each of us. Our flesh is dying daily, rotting away. But we are changed inwardly from glory to glory. We are being conformed into His image, all thanks and praise to Him who loves us, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
Marilyn (Norma Jean) was deserted by her mother and lived in various foster homes and was molested and raped many times. She married young to avoid being returned to an orphanage. When she realized her extraordinary looks could get her places, she used it to her advantage, for a time. It ultimately became her downfall. The fact that people couldn’t see past her physical features was what catapulted her into depression. In foolish desperation she went through numerous affairs looking for the one man who would really love her.
I’m writing this to women who feel they don’t measure up to the standard of beauty portrayed in the media. Victoria’s Secret models, Playmates, Hollywood actresses, rock stars. Even some Christian women evangelists on the television and in self-help books look very similar to Hollywood starlets.
I’m writing this to men for the same reason. For in today’s society, men have just as much pressure on them as women do to conform to an image. Be financially successful, metrosexual, emasculated, good looking, toned, ripped, virile, seductive, and politically correct.
The fact is: it’s all about money and power. If the media can convince you that beauty, success and fame are worth striving for, you’re trapped in idolatry. I’m not a fan of Joyce Meyer, but she said something that is worth remembering. She said, “Whatever you do to gain someone’s love, you will have to continue to do to maintain it.” In other words, you enslave yourself to your flesh.
The carnal world profits from the flesh through advertising and the entertainment industry. We as Christians, do not profit by it. It is our downfall. Praise God that the body of Christ no longer has to judge one another according to the flesh. We recognize one another by the Spirit of Jesus Christ who dwells in each of us. Our flesh is dying daily, rotting away. But we are changed inwardly from glory to glory. We are being conformed into His image, all thanks and praise to Him who loves us, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
V
I love Philippians chapter 3 where Paul gives us awesome instruction about how to truly live in this world through Christ Jesus. He reminds us not to have any confidence in ourselves or our accomplishments of the flesh. He says that anything we can boast about that doesn’t magnify Jesus is useless. And Paul says that our righteousness is of the Lord, not of obeying the law. So Jesus gets all the glory. Not any of us.
We are being conformed to Christ’s death, our flesh that is. Paul says, “Not that I have already attained that perfection (because Jesus is even now working His will out in us) but I press on toward that mark of the high calling of Christ Jesus.”
Then he says right afterwards, “Let us therefore, all those who are perfect (in the sight of God because of the blood of Christ), be like-minded: and if you are not, God will reveal this to you.” He’s telling us that if we think differently about this, if we disagree with Paul, then God will show us the truth about it.
So here Paul says our imperfect flesh needs to die daily, and to trust that the Lord is conforming us into His image day by day. Yet we are already made perfect spiritually in God’s sight because of Jesus Christ. And he sums it up with this, “If you don’t believe me, ask God.” That’s on pretty good Authority, I’d say! LOL
Paul also tells us to watch out for those who boast about their flesh (legalists, intellectualists, the world) and don’t listen to them. But anything the Lord has already accomplished in us, the things we’ve succeeded in overcoming, keep on that right track. Forget the past, whether it be our failures or our fleshly accomplishments, and trust that the Lord Himself is changing us into His glory.
That is so liberating! All we need to do is trust Jesus’ working perfection out in our bodies here on earth and yet believing we are already made perfect spiritually in His sight. That’s so awesome!
I think the story of Esther radiates this message to the church, the body of Christ. King Ahasuerus represents the world. Esther represents the bride of Christ. Esther was godly, favored by God and did not need to fix herself up like the other women did to appear beautiful. Esther was naturally beautiful, as are we to God. When we walk in the faith of Jesus and He radiates through us, the world is drawn to Him, as Ahasuerus and everyone else was drawn to Esther (Hadassah). To me, this is similar to what Paul is telling us.
Trust in the spirit of Jesus in our lives, that we are like Queen Esther, a perfect bride. And all the attempts to try to fix ourselves up, just cast aside. We press on in faith that Jesus is renewing us (our minds, our perceptions, our heart’s desire) and bringing these physical bodies in line with His truth so that the world will see him in us.
Hallelujah! Thank You, Savior & Friend Jesus! \/
We are being conformed to Christ’s death, our flesh that is. Paul says, “Not that I have already attained that perfection (because Jesus is even now working His will out in us) but I press on toward that mark of the high calling of Christ Jesus.”
Then he says right afterwards, “Let us therefore, all those who are perfect (in the sight of God because of the blood of Christ), be like-minded: and if you are not, God will reveal this to you.” He’s telling us that if we think differently about this, if we disagree with Paul, then God will show us the truth about it.
So here Paul says our imperfect flesh needs to die daily, and to trust that the Lord is conforming us into His image day by day. Yet we are already made perfect spiritually in God’s sight because of Jesus Christ. And he sums it up with this, “If you don’t believe me, ask God.” That’s on pretty good Authority, I’d say! LOL
Paul also tells us to watch out for those who boast about their flesh (legalists, intellectualists, the world) and don’t listen to them. But anything the Lord has already accomplished in us, the things we’ve succeeded in overcoming, keep on that right track. Forget the past, whether it be our failures or our fleshly accomplishments, and trust that the Lord Himself is changing us into His glory.
That is so liberating! All we need to do is trust Jesus’ working perfection out in our bodies here on earth and yet believing we are already made perfect spiritually in His sight. That’s so awesome!
I think the story of Esther radiates this message to the church, the body of Christ. King Ahasuerus represents the world. Esther represents the bride of Christ. Esther was godly, favored by God and did not need to fix herself up like the other women did to appear beautiful. Esther was naturally beautiful, as are we to God. When we walk in the faith of Jesus and He radiates through us, the world is drawn to Him, as Ahasuerus and everyone else was drawn to Esther (Hadassah). To me, this is similar to what Paul is telling us.
Trust in the spirit of Jesus in our lives, that we are like Queen Esther, a perfect bride. And all the attempts to try to fix ourselves up, just cast aside. We press on in faith that Jesus is renewing us (our minds, our perceptions, our heart’s desire) and bringing these physical bodies in line with His truth so that the world will see him in us.
Hallelujah! Thank You, Savior & Friend Jesus! \
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You have a gracious heart! Jesus looks beautiful on you.
The Jesus I think of, could be strong and, since His mom was pure, holy before God's issues, I bet she was the most beautiful girl in town (no doubt Joseph had to compete till the last day she said "Yes" to marry him).
Joseph could been "ugly" but Mary saw his beauty (to marry him, at last). Jesus, being a mixture of several people, lacked blue eyes. He wasn't "blond" like many paintings said He was, but the love those people poured over Him, the way they were, as friends, the way Mary poured that alabaster over His feet or body, shows (at least to me) He was handsome and, at the same time, humble and NEVER behaved like daddy's boy, neither like self-conceited man, like those who like to play their pretentious games.
Whenever I read Isaiah (Isa 52:14), I had the hunch God made Him handsome, yet humble and meek, like a sheep (Isa 50:6)
S
Protip - you're never ready. Don't let it stop you if someone good comes along.
I tear off my shirt and start flexing, at which point they run away screaming. Bwahahaha. No but I kid.
I don't think I usually have people stare. They usually do the glance up and down thing and that's it. If they stared at me, I don't know what I'd do... maybe walk up to them and say something.
How's this:
"Yeah, that's right, Kim Kardashian wishes her butt looked this good. It's called a squat rack."
Cowards.
Then again, the way I check women out is probably... different.
If I accidentally look at something I shouldn't, my eyes immediately dart back up to eye level. Then I realize it's creepy to stare at random strangers and look somewhere else and think "dang, those are some nice eyes, hair looks good, age bracket is appropriate."
Then sometimes, although not as of late, I might actually approach said person and try to start a conversation. That's a messy and inexact process that usually ends badly.
I tear off my shirt and start flexing, at which point they run away screaming. Bwahahaha. No but I kid.
I don't think I usually have people stare. They usually do the glance up and down thing and that's it. If they stared at me, I don't know what I'd do... maybe walk up to them and say something.
How's this:
"Yeah, that's right, Kim Kardashian wishes her butt looked this good. It's called a squat rack."
Cowards.
Then again, the way I check women out is probably... different.
If I accidentally look at something I shouldn't, my eyes immediately dart back up to eye level. Then I realize it's creepy to stare at random strangers and look somewhere else and think "dang, those are some nice eyes, hair looks good, age bracket is appropriate."
Then sometimes, although not as of late, I might actually approach said person and try to start a conversation. That's a messy and inexact process that usually ends badly.
Not sure it comes my way often lol. I prefer to be low profile. But if I find someone attractive I'll try to give a compliment, minimize the awkwardness for everyone. But yeah there are people who try to make others feel awkward because it's more noticeable and it makes you remember what happened at least for the day. Seems like a weird strategy if you plan on asking them out but hey sometimes people flirt for the sake of flirting.
S
May I ask what way they react when they knew those tips?
My daughter Joy, near her 15, is getting fat, lately, and she pays too little attention to this U said, now.
I hope she sees it the way you clearly said it.
She loves to get the attention:
My daughter Joy, near her 15, is getting fat, lately, and she pays too little attention to this U said, now.
I hope she sees it the way you clearly said it.
She loves to get the attention:
S
It is depressing to realize how fast the years have gone by and you'll never get it back. When you're young and pretty and thin you never think about a day when you're old, gray, overweight and have sagging jowls. What bothers me so much is men in my age group that want the younger women. I wonder if there are many left that want somebody who has real value. Our society promotes looks and a great body so much that I don't feel I stand a chance, but I'm also concerned for my daughters that they don't end up with somebody who only cares about how they look.
