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cmarieh

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I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?
 
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#62
I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?
We, men, might feel it suspicious.

We may feel jealous and threathen, but your folks can tell it better, your own culture and ways.
 

kodiak

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I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?
I don't know what I would do...but talking to him or just ignoring would probably be what I would do....It all would depend on the girlfriend or wife, what she wanted me to do/ what the guy did....but praying for the guy is always on the list.
 
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cmarieh

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I don't know what I would do...but talking to him or just ignoring would probably be what I would do....It all would depend on the girlfriend or wife, what she wanted me to do/ what the guy did....but praying for the guy is always on the list.
There is a little problem with your statement, but yes I do understand where you are coming from. Most women actually expect the man to know how to deal with it because in some cases there is no time to discuss what we should or shouldn't do. I hope that makes sense.
 

kodiak

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There is a little problem with your statement, but yes I do understand where you are coming from. Most women actually expect the man to know how to deal with it because in some cases there is no time to discuss what we should or shouldn't do. I hope that makes sense.
Well yes, but it all depends on the situation...I think if I was with her, I would know if she was comfortable with me talking to the guy...some would rather it just be ignored...I think her preference matters even if it can't be discussed right there...
 
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skylove7

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How do you react when you feel someone is checking you out? I mean I was at the grocery store last week and needed to use the restroom and started walking down the hallway and as soon as I passed this guy he turned around and stopped, while watching me as I was walking. It made me feel completely uncomfortable, yet it made me feel good at the same time, lets just say I was confused on how to react. Is this normal to feel that way?
when men check me out in the grocery store...I just go get my groceries and not dwell on it because if they are looking me up and down at a grocery...odds are they don't want me for my good intentions.
 
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Shouryu

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I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?
When I was with The Ex, and other men (strangers) checked her out when we were out together? I actually took it as a point of pride. Not even kidding.
 
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In my opinion, guys who openly stare to check a woman out are pigs. On the other hand, women who check guys out are... kind of awesome. :)
 
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cmarieh

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There is a huge difference between looking at a person of the opposite gender and turning their head with their mouth open. Shouryu, you said that you take it as a point of stride if another man checked her out. What if it turned into another man touching her? Would it cross the line then?
 
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jeremyPJ

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I know how that feels...was in a local pawn store a few years ago, checking out their guitar selections. Noticed a very attractive gal staring at me, she was talking to someone, but her eyes were practically enticing me.

I went on about my way, wanted to talk to her but I was still married and didn't want an entanglement like that for my daughter to dwell on about me. I wanted custody of her and wasn't about to do anything silly to ruin it. She stared at me grinning as I left, looked back from outside and was still being watched...sometimes wonder "what if", but I think I did the right thing by walking.
 
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Shouryu

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There is a huge difference between looking at a person of the opposite gender and turning their head with their mouth open. Shouryu, you said that you take it as a point of stride if another man checked her out. What if it turned into another man touching her? Would it cross the line then?
Oh sure.

There is a HUGE chasm between looking and touching.


The guy across the street from me has a triple-black Challenger SRT. Sounds like heaven when he starts it up. I look at it, and I think, "Nice. That'd be fun to drive."

If I were to actually take it out of his driveway without any consent and proceed to take a joyride, on the other hand...

See, big gap.


I've demonstrated in other posts that I was willing to do physical harm to defend my woman's honor. It's one thing to cast an admiring glance, and it's another to take action.
 
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greg789

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I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?
I'd have to forgive them......I think.....pray my Mr. Hyde doesn't get loose
 

cinder

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In my opinion, guys who openly stare to check a woman out are pigs. On the other hand, women who check guys out are... kind of awesome. :)
I smell a double standard here. I might have to check out this idea.
 

Reborn

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I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?

I never sweat it much.
As long as a man does just a respectful type glance......I take it as a compliment.


It's the men that are checking her out from 800 yards out, with binoculars, that worries me a bit. :(
 
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Nemakiza

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It is normal, because I often feel the same. One day, I took decision and ask members in one group in the Facebook, I was like I wanted to know why a guy may look at you all the time without telling you if there is something wrong or just he is into you. A girl said that if a guy look at you without even approaching you, in this century know that " he does not love you but he do desire you" and I total agree with her, so it is fine to feel the way you said. Some men can even look at your private body parts. I real hate this kind of men.
 
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Nemakiza

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I make direct eye contact with people all the time. I don't mean glance, I mean I deliberately look people straight in the eye. You can discern a lot in people's eyes. If a person is checking you out, they'll usually turn their head away if they see you looking directly into their eyes. If there's no ulterior motive in their glance, they'll probably smile or say hello to you. Actually, making direct eye contact with people is a great tool in helping you overcome excessive self-consciousness. :)
What if they look at you without smiling or saying Hello?
 
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MollyConnor

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I appreciate all the answers here, but what if you saw a man do that to your girlfriend or wife? Would this change anything? How?
I think it depends on the situation, like Kodiak says. I know I am the girl, so if a guy were starring at me in a non-threatening way, it's okay. I think that's normal guy behavior. However, if he is really starring and won't take his eyes off of me and maybe even trying to follow me, there's a problem! I would want my boyfriend/husband to do something about it. If the other guy is really big and my bf/husband isn't, I might suggest we leave hehe. I wouldn't want him to get hurt.

We need to watch out, there are a lot of bad people out there. Sometimes calling the starer out will make matters worse.

If any of us are faced in such a situation, it's best to pray about it and ask God for help. :)