Would you share a personal letter?

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cmarieh

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I realize that there are posts of people writing a letter to their future spouses and I find it very special and sacred. In fact I already wrote mine. However, my question to you is: Is it appropriate to share the letter to anyone before you give it to your spouse? Why or Why not?

PS: Don't get me wrong, I admire many of you who have posted yours and they are truly all beautiful and unique and whoever that person is very blessed.
 
zeroturbulence

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If I had written one I wouldn't share it only because to me it would be something deeply personal and sharing it would be like unveiling the inside of my soul, sooo.. no.
 
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cmarieh said:
I realize that there are posts of people writing a letter to their future spouses and I find it very special and sacred. In fact I already wrote mine. However, my question to you is: Is it appropriate to share the letter to anyone before you give it to your spouse? Why or Why not?

PS: Don't get me wrong, I admire many of you who have posted yours and they are truly all beautiful and unique and whoever that person is very blessed.
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This is a "no win" question it seems to me. If I say "yes" then those who wouldn't do such would disagree with me and possibly have their feelings hurt. If I say "no," then those who have already done such could possibly have their feelings hurt for my being against what they have already done here on CC.

The only comment I could offer would be to sincerely consider the thread Title........

"Would you SHARE a PERSONAL LETTER?"

To avoid hurting anyone's feelings, I will just leave it at that..........God bless
 
secularhermit

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When WW was on CC she shared some of her letters... But, since I believe the enemy :)mad:) could read the whole of my life and my secret longings (also), I would not give the enemy a chance to beat me down: He knows how to spoil people's dreams

I think I have published a lot of personal things online (no regrets on that) but I don't think the world needs to know whatever feeling I needed to proclaim naively, such like that.
 
cinder

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cmarieh said:
I realize that there are posts of people writing a letter to their future spouses and I find it very special and sacred. In fact I already wrote mine. However, my question to you is: Is it appropriate to share the letter to anyone before you give it to your spouse? Why or Why not?

PS: Don't get me wrong, I admire many of you who have posted yours and they are truly all beautiful and unique and whoever that person is very blessed.
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Some of it may depend on when and why the letter was written to begin with. If I were engaged and had a person in mind I was writing to and could reference all sorts of inside jokes and history together, that's different from a letter when there's no one on the horizon and it is much more about my hopes and aspirations for love. When I wrote my CC letter, sure it was authentically me and carried some personal stuff in there, but it was also written as much for some of the awesome guys on here to read and be encouraged that some day they might meet a girl who would say the same to them. Because there may not be a future husband for me, but there are quite a few guys in our community now who could use some encouragement. Conversely there might be a future husband out there, and by the time we meet I will be a different person from the one who wrote that letter 20 years ago and I may decide not to give him that letter.

So I'll agree that there might be appropriate and inappropriate future spouse letters to post, but I think when done right it can be a beneficial and encouraging facet of our community.
 
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I think PR said it all. Are they PERSONAL, or are they for forum entertainment?
 
JonahLynx

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I've written one but I won't show it to anyone else. I wouldn't say it's wrong to if you wanted because I've gotten a lot out of other people's letters. But as for me, I wrote it to a specific person for that person only. :eek:
 
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Kaycie

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I know this is very over-used, possibly tacky, but seriously, where have you been all my life? I wrote him many poems, and people thought they were really good, but I believe only he can read between the lines to what I'm really saying. But the things that are too private I would not write down on paper, I'll wait to whisper them in his ear.
 
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MollyConnor

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I think if some people have shared their letters, it would work for testimony purposes. Like because I read someone else's personal letter to their future spouse, I want to do it too. But if I were to write one, I don't think I would share it publicly.

However, like I said before, if someone has already shared theirs' it is a good thing. As long as they felt comfortable telling us what they wrote, I don't see a problem at all in it :) I guess it's just a very personal decision to share it with others or not.
 
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cmarieh

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Very interesting points in each post. I think if a person was planning to write a letter to their future spouse and needed guidance to get started, I believe making a couple of points here and there. However, I am a very personal person and I do not believe it is right to share that type of letter with other people besides when you give it to the designated person it belongs to. My letter is very sacred and personal that it has things in it I never want shared, except for when I give it to him on our wedding night.
 
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mystikmind

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Personally i have never had much concern for protecting my privacy, and i have always wondered why i am like that? It would not even scare me if there were people who could read my mind and see into my deepest thoughts. Sure i have things in there to be embarrassed about, who doesn't? But the thought of people knowing, those things, well, It's ok, i say this "well, so be it, they know, good for them, what's for lunch?"
 
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zaoman32

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I'd share my letter only on the pretense that it would make women fall in love with me...


I know, I know, they're already in love with me. You can't expect me to look like this and NOT know that
 
Fenner

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When I got married two Pastors did the ceremony, friend's of ours, married couple. They had us each write a letter to each other, he read his, she read mine, it was really nice.
 
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