Encouragement through break ups.

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Arigirl

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So, I know many of us have been through this. And I just went through this today. God has given me peace about it, and I've realized that the best way to deal with a break up, is to be encouraged and surrounded by positive people! :) Let's blow up this thread and encourage all the brokenhearted on our little Christian community here!
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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I dealt with my last break-up by throwing away all the letters and stuff he had ever given me, and burning all pictures I had of him. And I also asked God to take him out of my heart, head and mind once and for all. He did. :)
 
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Arigirl

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I'm glad God helped you so well through that :) Because, as the Bible says, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me." Including get through a break up stronger than before.
 
Lynx

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I've never been on a date before, but I'm reminded of a story about a guy who joined the Army and was stationed in the Marshall Islands. His girl said she would wait for him, but about five months later she sent him a letter saying she was going out with some other guy. She requested he return his photograph of her.

He took a rather innovative approach to this. He gathered up all the photos of women he could find on the base, made copies of the photos other guys had of their girlfriends, as well as a few pictures of some of the (topless) native women. He put all of them in an envelope with a note: "I'm sorry, but I can't remember which woman you are. If your photo is among these, please keep it and send the rest back."

She never did send the other photos back...
 
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Arigirl

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Lol! Oh my gosh... I don't think that's the best Christian approach, but I gotta say, that's funny. XD
 
zeroturbulence

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I'm over brokenheartedness. That was the old me. The new me is just.. meh.
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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zeroturbulence said:
I'm over brokenheartedness. That was the old me. The new me is just.. meh.
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To quote my main man Al Swearengen from Deadwood:

Pain or damage don't end the world. Or despair or [redacted] beatings. The world ends when you're dead. Until then, you got more punishment in store. Stand it like a man... and give some back.
 
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Hellooo

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[video=youtube;m5H-qIovNnw]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m5H-qIovNnw[/video]
 
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mystikmind

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Arigirl said:
Lol! Oh my gosh... I don't think that's the best Christian approach, but I gotta say, that's funny. XD
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Well at least not the topless pictures! but the rest of the idea is fine.... it would free the girl from feeling guilty, and it helps the guy feel better too, everyone benefits!
 
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mystikmind

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In my case, my wife is divorcing me, and this forum has been a helpful support. I was deeply upset at first, but i was surprised how quickly i was over her..... when i think back before my wife ended it, i have to admit, the thought of divorce had crossed my mind on more than one occasion, but eventually i resigned myself to accept my responsibility as a husband and a father and put those thoughts out of my mind, i decided i was ok with living with a wife who is just a good freind and nothing more (there was no intimacy). I was willing to live that way, but my wife had the good sense to end it, I'm almost grateful!
 
melita916

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i've been through one break up. what really helped was 1) being completely honest with God on how i felt on sad days, 2) my parents who were always there to encourage me, and 3) friends who always checked up on me and made me hang out when i didn't want to (usually when i didn't want to, it was because i wanted to mope around the house. but once i was with them, i felt a lot better :) )

after the break up, i packed everything that was associated with him and got rid of it. yaaaaaas lol
 
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VioletReigns

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Cut your losses and move on. What makes it easier is knowing they don't love you. Who in the world wants to be with someone who doesn't love them? Why hang on? As it's written, "If the unbelieving depart, let them depart. The brother or sister who is believing is no longer under bondage in such cases." In other words, "You're FREE!!" YAY!! I like freedom. :D
 
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mystikmind

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Siberian_Khatru said:
Lol is that progress or indifference?

Glad you found peace about it, Arigirl!
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I'm not sure what indifference means? But really, i don't care what it means, it just doesn't seem important to me at all either way, and i really cannot be bothered to look it up..... hahaha :)
 
Violet24

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Its been several years since I've had a break-up. I remember being 17 years old, & pursuing a guy that I really likes a lot! which had since become my husband of 25 years. At the tender age of 17, I fell "head over heals in love" but it was a very short lived courtship because this guy wasn't ready to be in a serious relationship. I remember the pain of feeling completely devastated & heart broken. Its such a awful feeling, but I gave it some time, than pursued him again, and again. Well long story, "short" we both gave our hearts to the Lord & married in 1989.....End of Story:)
 
JonahLynx

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So true about being around positive people. :eek: A little Pearl Jam and Bon Jovi won't hurt either!
 
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cmarieh

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JonahLynx said:
So true about being around positive people. :eek: A little Pearl Jam and Bon Jovi won't hurt either!
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Never heard of Pearl Jam, but I do remember Bon Jovi. My mom would play them quite a bit when I was growing up. They have good music and actually pretty clean compared to what other groups have out now. Although, listening to that type of music is something God told me to avoid as he is teaching me to put all my trust and faith in him.
 
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Tintin

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Sure, breakups can be tough. You may want to run and hide from everyone, but it's so important that you take your heart to God and be real with Him. Read His Word and soak in His prescence. Also, get out of the house! Surround yourself with loved ones. Blast uplifting music, find a new hobby. Apply yourself to something you really enjoy. In time, you'll heal.
God bless, friend.
 
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