Why do I feel drawn to this man...

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Ofgodandhorses

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I've dated a lot of guys in my past none followed Christ and let's just say the guy I'm about to talk about is different.
I am a freshman in college, and I decided to follow Jesus this year:)
I dated a guy named dan for about 3 months and everything was amazing, but he was so busy with life we went our separate ways ( which is strange considering the week before he told me he never wanted to lose me)-- which makes me believe God is pushing me towards something else or someone else
So after we split I made a promise to only date a man who followed Christ instead of just believed.
I went on a mission trip and I can't really explain this but the first time I saw jake it was like I knew him before, it was like I almost felt pulled towards him. And I didn't know why. It had nothing to do with looks either. As we got to know eachother turns out we both went to Nicaragua over winter break on a service trip ( but to separate places, and took a picture at the same volcano)
Things got weirder, we both love traveling, God, service, and turns out we both want to adopt children from a 3rd world country on a funny note we both got kissed by a homeless person on that trip to haha....
Another crazy thing was Jakes friend Al, had a dream of jake and I holding hands and sitting in the back of the van on the way back home.

We hung out yesterday at a pond and talked about Jesus, life, travel it was amazing. And we have a dance Friday.
Why do I feel drawn or pulled to him?
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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Siberian_Khatru said:
I think you know exactly why.
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I mean ... it is the Spring.

Girl, make your choice and stick with it. Don't attach any crazy supernatural meanings to it either. Love is a choice and God gives you opportunities to pursue it. It's on you and him to make the wise one and take a stand in the face of adversity.
 
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Ofgodandhorses said:
I've dated a lot of guys in my past none followed Christ and let's just say the guy I'm about to talk about is different.
I am a freshman in college, and I decided to follow Jesus this year:)
I dated a guy named dan for about 3 months and everything was amazing, but he was so busy with life we went our separate ways ( which is strange considering the week before he told me he never wanted to lose me)-- which makes me believe God is pushing me towards something else or someone else
So after we split I made a promise to only date a man who followed Christ instead of just believed.
I went on a mission trip and I can't really explain this but the first time I saw jake it was like I knew him before, it was like I almost felt pulled towards him. And I didn't know why. It had nothing to do with looks either. As we got to know eachother turns out we both went to Nicaragua over winter break on a service trip ( but to separate places, and took a picture at the same volcano)
Things got weirder, we both love traveling, God, service, and turns out we both want to adopt children from a 3rd world country on a funny note we both got kissed by a homeless person on that trip to haha....
Another crazy thing was Jakes friend Al, had a dream of jake and I holding hands and sitting in the back of the van on the way back home.

We hung out yesterday at a pond and talked about Jesus, life, travel it was amazing. And we have a dance Friday.
Why do I feel drawn or pulled to him?
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I'd be a little wary (don't trust too much yet) of this new guy. Sounds a little too good to be true. Did he actually show u the pic he took at the volcano?
 
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Gabriel7672

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i had a similar situation once in feeling funny things anyway, be honest and open and don't let your fears cripple you like i once did. if it is meant to be you can be entirely honest and things will work out, i wish you both the best :)

p.s an exact reason? well like some of the others kindly pointed out i think it's obvious, you two where meant to meet for something who knows where the future will lead you but the lord has good plans for you both
 
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Ofgodandhorses said:
I've dated a lot of guys in my past none followed Christ and let's just say the guy I'm about to talk about is different.
I am a freshman in college, and I decided to follow Jesus this year:)
I dated a guy named dan for about 3 months and everything was amazing, but he was so busy with life we went our separate ways ( which is strange considering the week before he told me he never wanted to lose me)-- which makes me believe God is pushing me towards something else or someone else
So after we split I made a promise to only date a man who followed Christ instead of just believed.
I went on a mission trip and I can't really explain this but the first time I saw jake it was like I knew him before, it was like I almost felt pulled towards him. And I didn't know why. It had nothing to do with looks either. As we got to know eachother turns out we both went to Nicaragua over winter break on a service trip ( but to separate places, and took a picture at the same volcano)
Things got weirder, we both love traveling, God, service, and turns out we both want to adopt children from a 3rd world country on a funny note we both got kissed by a homeless person on that trip to haha....
Another crazy thing was Jakes friend Al, had a dream of jake and I holding hands and sitting in the back of the van on the way back home.

We hung out yesterday at a pond and talked about Jesus, life, travel it was amazing. And we have a dance Friday.
Why do I feel drawn or pulled to him?
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I'll echo what zero said. Use wisdom, use caution. But my biggest advice will be don't play at dating until you decide you want to date. It's easy to fall into the trap of doing dating type activities (movies, outings, meals, etc.) as friends, but especially if your emotions are already running high, that will probably only lead to more confusion in the long run.

Be friends, hang out in groups, see how he interacts with other people, don't be in a hurry to share all the secrets and longings in your heart, be wary of spending lots of 1 on 1 time together if you are just friends (gotten myself into trouble with that before). Don't put too much stock in dreams, coincidences, or "signs". You have time, no need to rush things.
 
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Nemakiza

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Ofgodandhorses said:
I've dated a lot of guys in my past none followed Christ and let's just say the guy I'm about to talk about is different.
I am a freshman in college, and I decided to follow Jesus this year:)
I dated a guy named dan for about 3 months and everything was amazing, but he was so busy with life we went our separate ways ( which is strange considering the week before he told me he never wanted to lose me)-- which makes me believe God is pushing me towards something else or someone else
So after we split I made a promise to only date a man who followed Christ instead of just believed.
I went on a mission trip and I can't really explain this but the first time I saw jake it was like I knew him before, it was like I almost felt pulled towards him. And I didn't know why. It had nothing to do with looks either. As we got to know eachother turns out we both went to Nicaragua over winter break on a service trip ( but to separate places, and took a picture at the same volcano)
Things got weirder, we both love traveling, God, service, and turns out we both want to adopt children from a 3rd world country on a funny note we both got kissed by a homeless person on that trip to haha....
Another crazy thing was Jakes friend Al, had a dream of jake and I holding hands and sitting in the back of the van on the way back home.

We hung out yesterday at a pond and talked about Jesus, life, travel it was amazing. And we have a dance Friday.
Why do I feel drawn or pulled to him?
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If you are not ready for it don't rush into it. Be careful to distinguish lonely and readiness, not all the time things are for God's sake, sometimes it is devil's work even though you guys are in the work of God.
 
Desdichado

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zeroturbulence said:
I'd be a little wary (don't trust too much yet) of this new guy. Sounds a little too good to be true. Did he actually show u the pic he took at the volcano?
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Great, now you have me thinking of tribal rituals the man might have in mind.
 
Desdichado

Desdichado

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If he asks if you are a virgin and it has anything to do with a volcano-run. Especially if you can see new tattoos and a nose piercing on his body.
 
AAAPlus

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Ofgodandhorses: It seems like you're piecing together a lot of random events (took a pictures at a volcano, homeless kiss, random 3rd party dream) to come to the conclusion that you should be with this guy.

I know too many girls at church that just can't seem to not be in a relationship; they always have to be with a guy. And once they find that guy, they typically stop attending church (or attend less often) and make fewer friends (because they spend so much time with their boyfriend). I'm not saying that's you, but don't assume you're the exception either.

In my view, someone who has recently decided to get serious about their faith will be slowed down by a romantic relationship and is best off leaving some time to grow first. In a relationship, your efforts are divided between growing in your faith and growing closer to your boyfriend. Usually the latter gets the Lions share of the effort.
 
AAAPlus

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Oh, and to answer your question, you feel drawn to him because he has an attractive personality. But honestly, you just met him. He is still technically a stranger; in the bigger picture of things you know almost NOTHING about him. Dating someone you don't know really well is just foolish.
 
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First, I find it fascinating how we all claim to worship a supernatural, sign giving, never changing, miracle working, life giving, deep magic working, trinity belonging creator of the universe God... and yet we tip toe or sometimes run screaming away from God working and showing up in a big way in our lives (or someone else's).


OP, I'm not saying that you should be with Jake forever. What I am saying is to pursue the Lord. Pray, read the word, go to church, seek WISE biblical counsel from older women, and pay attention to who Jake is. You both are young and have plenty of time to get to know each other.
 
AAAPlus

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I find it wildly annoying that I took the time to give wise advice and the OP never responded.
 
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AAAPlus said:
I find it wildly annoying that I took the time to give wise advice and the OP never responded.
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I agree.

There are trolls and bots amongst us.
 
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