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M
I have imagined that we are not actually made to experience breakups, if everything was perfect according to Gods plan, we would all remain with our first love forever, well that's what i imagine anyway?
So it is understandable that when we fall in love, it feels like it will last forever, because that is the way we are designed to feel about it, but we are not so well equipped to handle breaking up, we were never designed for that. Just my thought, i could be wrong?
So it is understandable that when we fall in love, it feels like it will last forever, because that is the way we are designed to feel about it, but we are not so well equipped to handle breaking up, we were never designed for that. Just my thought, i could be wrong?
Some feel relieved, others feel devastated. Feelings are based on the emotions you are feeling. Sometimes in the game of love you get your heart crushed. At a young age this may hurt a lot until your next relationship when all is forgotten. What is more important is how you act on your feelings. At your age it is certainly not the end of the world. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get on with life.
Feelings, what are they? To a large part they're chemicals and hormones, mixed in with mental and emotional notes. Spiritual too, it's all related. Flesh-wise, it's an addiction. Your body produces certain chemicals/hormones in response to stimuli others give you. If it's good stimuli then you get the goody chems and 'mones. But like any drug your body will then build up a tolerance to it, so you don't notice it so much any more even tho (if?) it's still there. So then that person leaves, and there are huge holes in your system - you don't get the interaction, you don't get the stimulation, so your body stops producing these things and you go into withdrawal. That's one reason so many turn to drugs (alcohol being one of them) after a big breakup. They've had a chemical withdrawal and need another chemical to supposedly take it's place. Too bad that doesn't actually work 
My wife and I, we dated and lived together for 4 years. Nasty breakup and withdrawals, but we went on to have other girl and boyfriends. They came and withdrew as well, but we remained friends thru it all. After 8 years of that we realized that it's not the passionate do or die relationships that last, it's the steady trudge thru the mud ones that do. The ones that you can let go of and they're still there. Honestly, if I learned one big lesson from it all it's that passionate love (and it's many cousins) makes you stupid.
If it's meant to be it's going to be, lest our fretting get in the way. Take a deep breath and resume the path God has for you. 'Cause you never know what paths might re-intersect, unless you go burning bridges.
Sorry, I shouldn't be in the singles forum but you came up under new posts.
My wife and I, we dated and lived together for 4 years. Nasty breakup and withdrawals, but we went on to have other girl and boyfriends. They came and withdrew as well, but we remained friends thru it all. After 8 years of that we realized that it's not the passionate do or die relationships that last, it's the steady trudge thru the mud ones that do. The ones that you can let go of and they're still there. Honestly, if I learned one big lesson from it all it's that passionate love (and it's many cousins) makes you stupid.
If it's meant to be it's going to be, lest our fretting get in the way. Take a deep breath and resume the path God has for you. 'Cause you never know what paths might re-intersect, unless you go burning bridges.
Sorry, I shouldn't be in the singles forum but you came up under new posts.
B
I say feelings point out to you your Soul Alignment with God and Life or perhaps you could term it your true self. If your having feelings they are indicating something or pointing at something. Often the gut can tell you things as well as the heart. Feelings are a guidance system, they let you know if your on the right track or going down a dead end. Listen to your heart, that's usually sound advice.
If you were in a relationship that had lots of passionate sex, then you formed a soul-tie with your boyfriend. That's the reason the break up hurts! You need to break that soul-tie by seeking the Lord Jesus, and wait on him up until He provides you with a husband (if that is His plan for you). Realistically it would be great if you can meet a man that had a similar experience like you, therefore a common background which can be very uniting and compatible.
M
Under those circumstances it could be much more than just a soul-tie (although I'm not really sure what that is?). There could be a full and complete commitment to the relationship which is like being married (in emotional terms), and thus the breakup can have all the emotional turmoil of a divorce but without the added stress of legal matters..... although that can happen too in Australia, because the law considers you married (defacto) if you live with a partner for over 2 years.