Longing for a Relationship

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May 7, 2015
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Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.

I just need some encouragement.
 
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mystikmind

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I don't know why this story comes to mind, but.... 'the stone the builders rejected'. It is not about dating i know, but perhaps we can learn a lesson from this as a 'builder' trying to build a relationship and think about the stones (people) we reject?
 

Desdichado

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Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.

I just need some encouragement.
I guess it depends on what you are looking for in a God fearing man.
 
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Tintin

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I don't know why this story comes to mind, but.... 'the stone the builders rejected'. It is not about dating i know, but perhaps we can learn a lesson from this as a 'builder' trying to build a relationship and think about the stones (people) we reject?
Wow. That's so lacking context I don't know where to start.
 

Roh_Chris

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Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.

I just need some encouragement.
Hey there! First of all, welcome to CC.

It could be a long wait to meet a God fearing man. In the meantime, you could use the time to work on yourself. Here are some ideas -
1. Understand God's plan for your life
2. Be involved in the church ministry
3. Focus on your career
4. Achieve financial independence and financial security
5. Indulge in some personal recreation/hobby like singing, writing music, travelling, blogging, etc.
6. Socialise and make new friends
7. Check off a few items on your life's wishlist (How about '10 things to do before I turn 30'?)
8. Travel the world

I know single life does have its moments of loneliness and boredom. But once immerse yourself into all these activities, you will start to enjoy your independence more. Always remember that - you are better off being alone than being with someone who makes you feel alone. This could be a God-given opportunity to work on yourself (see it as the glass being half-full). :)

Hang in there, sister.
 
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Budgem

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Remember, it's better off being single, than being in a relationship that hurts both people. You'll find what you're looking for! Never give up! Never surrender!
 
May 7, 2015
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Hey there! First of all, welcome to CC.

It could be a long wait to meet a God fearing man. In the meantime, you could use the time to work on yourself. Here are some ideas -
1. Understand God's plan for your life
2. Be involved in the church ministry
3. Focus on your career
4. Achieve financial independence and financial security
5. Indulge in some personal recreation/hobby like singing, writing music, travelling, blogging, etc.
6. Socialise and make new friends
7. Check off a few items on your life's wishlist (How about '10 things to do before I turn 30'?)
8. Travel the world

I know single life does have its moments of loneliness and boredom. But once immerse yourself into all these activities, you will start to enjoy your independence more. Always remember that - you are better off being alone than being with someone who makes you feel alone. This could be a God-given opportunity to work on yourself (see it as the glass being half-full). :)

Hang in there, sister.
You are so Right!!I will definitely do those things you have listed n ik everything else will Fall in place! Thank you so much for your encouragement! GOD Bless You!☺
 
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Remember, it's better off being single, than being in a relationship that hurts both people. You'll find what you're looking for! Never give up! Never surrender!
Thats True! Ok n Thank You for your encouragement! GOD Bless You!☺
 
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skylove7

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Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.

I just need some encouragement.
Put it all in Gods hands! But you must listen closely to the Spirit! :) and in time you will know :)
 
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Shouryu

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I don't know why this story comes to mind, but.... 'the stone the builders rejected'. It is not about dating i know, but perhaps we can learn a lesson from this as a 'builder' trying to build a relationship and think about the stones (people) we reject?

That's so...I...my brain...ow.


Dude, you CANNOT twist scripture to fit your needs. That's not how the Word of God works. Please, PLEASE be careful with that.


Why is it so hard to come across a God fearing man?? I'm single n I long for a relationship.It gets hard but I Dont want to settle or lower my standards like I have in the past.


I just need some encouragement.

I'm going to give you the encouragement you DON'T want.


STOP FIXATING ON FINDING A RELATIONSHIP.


Psalm 37:4 says to delight yourself in THE LORD, and HE will give you the desires of your heart. When you're fixated on finding a relationship, you're not focused on keeping God pleased with you. You're focused on making YOU pleased with you. And when you DO get that relationship, you're not focused on God, you're focused on your new man.


And since you've arrived at CC, the only two topics you've had to talk about are men. You've had almost NOTHING to say about God and what He's done in your life, or what you are doing to glorify Him. The only thing on your mind, based off of all of your prior posts, is: I'm lonely and I need a man. Granted, we've been given a very small snapshot of what you're all about...but if that's all you show us, what else do we have?


I'm not saying this to be critical, I'm not saying it to be mean. I'm saying it to be truthful. FOCUS ON GOD. That is the encouragement I offer you. And focus on Him for the RIGHT reasons...NOT because you want Him to give you a man. You focus on serving and glorifying Him to your utmost ability, because He's the Almighty, the Creator, and deserves all praise and glory just for THAT alone...not even just for the redemption He gives through Christ, or how He enriches our day-to-day lives. When you throw every fiber of your being into Christ, you suddenly find that Christ is MORE than sufficient...and while you may still desire to have companionship, you may likely find that you are content in the Lord nonetheless.


Praying the best for you.
 

Reborn

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Nov 16, 2014
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Are you related to that "PrincessK" that started all of those threads, by chance?

I do apologize, because sometimes l get my Princesses mixed up.
.....ask my daughter. :(

Just trying to clarify, l wish you luck.
 
May 7, 2015
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That's so...I...my brain...ow.


Dude, you CANNOT twist scripture to fit your needs. That's not how the Word of God works. Please, PLEASE be careful with that.





I'm going to give you the encouragement you DON'T want.


STOP FIXATING ON FINDING A RELATIONSHIP.


Psalm 37:4 says to delight yourself in THE LORD, and HE will give you the desires of your heart. When you're fixated on finding a relationship, you're not focused on keeping God pleased with you. You're focused on making YOU pleased with you. And when you DO get that relationship, you're not focused on God, you're focused on your new man.


And since you've arrived at CC, the only two topics you've had to talk about are men. You've had almost NOTHING to say about God and what He's done in your life, or what you are doing to glorify Him. The only thing on your mind, based off of all of your prior posts, is: I'm lonely and I need a man. Granted, we've been given a very small snapshot of what you're all about...but if that's all you show us, what else do we have?


I'm not saying this to be critical, I'm not saying it to be mean. I'm saying it to be truthful. FOCUS ON GOD. That is the encouragement I offer you. And focus on Him for the RIGHT reasons...NOT because you want Him to give you a man. You focus on serving and glorifying Him to your utmost ability, because He's the Almighty, the Creator, and deserves all praise and glory just for THAT alone...not even just for the redemption He gives through Christ, or how He enriches our day-to-day lives. When you throw every fiber of your being into Christ, you suddenly find that Christ is MORE than sufficient...and while you may still desire to have companionship, you may likely find that you are content in the Lord nonetheless.


Praying the best for you.
Amen! You're Right! Thank you for being so blunt!God Bless You ☺
 
May 7, 2015
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Are you related to that "PrincessK" that started all of those threads, by chance?

I do apologize, because sometimes l get my Princesses mixed up.
.....ask my daughter. :(

Just trying to clarify, l wish you luck.
No I'm not related to anyone on here that I know of anyways. Thank You! God Bless You ☺
 
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missy2014

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Hey there! First of all, welcome to CC.

It could be a long wait to meet a God fearing man. In the meantime, you could use the time to work on yourself. Here are some ideas -
1. Understand God's plan for your life
2. Be involved in the church ministry
3. Focus on your career
4. Achieve financial independence and financial security
5. Indulge in some personal recreation/hobby like singing, writing music, travelling, blogging, etc.
6. Socialise and make new friends
7. Check off a few items on your life's wishlist (How about '10 things to do before I turn 30'?)
8. Travel the world

I know single life does have its moments of loneliness and boredom. But once immerse yourself into all these activities, you will start to enjoy your independence more. Always remember that - you are better off being alone than being with someone who makes you feel alone. This could be a God-given opportunity to work on yourself (see it as the glass being half-full). :)

Hang in there, sister.
No #8 sounds awesome which reminds me to save to go to Toronto ohh drool FUN! #cooltobesingle#actuallyrohchrisneedsaban#visitsbanningthread#
 

Roh_Chris

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No #8 sounds awesome which reminds me to save to go to Toronto ohh drool FUN! #cooltobesingle#actuallyrohchrisneedsaban#visitsbanningthread#
I know, right? I am so awesome that I come up with such awesome ideas for awesome people to do awesome things. :cool:

#bringiton #seeyouinthebanningthread
 
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mystikmind

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Wow. That's so lacking context I don't know where to start.
hmmm, next time i have to remember to use a more extensive disclaimer other than "this is not what it means"...

perhaps something like this,... 'this scripture gives me an idea not at all related to the specific meaning of the scripture, so the idea itself is not intended as scripture, just a personal idea inspired by scripture'

Probably still not enough... i'll keep working on it :)
 
Feb 15, 2015
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I find it extremely difficult to find God fearing women as well. Part of that is because the times we are in. The other part of that is because I tend to look in the wrong places.
 
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Never be conditioned to believing that you are just one of those wallflowers who never get noticed and will end up lonely. JESUS CHRIST is the GROOM and you are his spiritual mate. Dive into helping others, no matter if it is serving in a soup kitchen, starting a collection of things to give to a local nursing home, etc. In short time, you will meet others who have a deep seeded faith that goes beyond profession. Who knows, a male that has a heart for others, will cross your path and your spirits will gel. This story has a happy ending..never think lowly of yourself because you are NOT attached to the arm of a "Stud". lol