Why are single Christians underestimating online christian dating?

[Godson13]

I have discovered that many christian singles especially Christian women are underestimating online christian dating. I once asked several christian girls that are single if they will consider online christian dating and they said as follows “ i don't like online dating” “i don't want my picture to be online” “its not the proper way of dating” “the date i meet online can be anybody”. These christian girls believe that it is better to find a christian date in their church. But the truth is that online christian dating is the easiest way to find a true christian date because you have more people to choose from online than in your church. Also what if your dream partner lives miles away from you? You will never get to meet in the church because he/she lives miles away from you , the only way you will meet that dream partner is online. Also you don't have to put your picture online, all you need is a strong profile headline that will attract true Christians to your profile. In regards to “the date i meet online can be anybody” of course that's true, the date you meet online can be anybody i.e the date you meet online may be a liar, thief, fraudster or a false christian. but the date you meet online may also be a true christian that will end up to be your dream partner. Also note that it is wrong to believe that the date you meet in your Church is automatically a true christian. Just because you see an attractive man or woman in the church choir or youth pastoral team, that does not automatically make them true Christians. For example i used to know a man from high school who was gay but later on in life he joined a church, the Church choir and the youth pastoral team. and he has managed to get himself one of the Christian girls in the Church as a wife. but his wife does not know that her "husband"is gay and she believes that he is a true christian just because he is a church goer. This just shows you that the same way the date you meet online can be anybody, the date you meet in your church can also be anybody. The date you meet in your church may be a liar, thief, fraudster, false christian and as we now know the date you meet in your church may be gay, but the date you meet in your church may also be a true christian that will end up to be your dream partner. The point here is that in regards to safety the date you meet online and the date you meet in the church are the same, the only advantage online dating has is that you have more people to choose from. But yet many Christians are underestimating online christian dating? My advice to single Christians is to go online for a date, but not just any site, make sure it is a Christan dating site. but when you go online you have to be careful. My experience shows that only 3 out of every 10 people on christian dating sites are true Christians. this means that if 10 people contact you on a christian dating site in one day then you can be assured that 7 of those people that contacted you may be false Christians but the good news is that you will at least still get 3 good Christian potential partners in that day which is probably a higher figure than what you will get if you relied solely on meeting a Christian partner in your church.
So the question here is Why are single Christians underestimating online christian dating?

 

[Olerica]

Well, I suppose you have a good argument about why to date online, but... isn't that an individual's preference? People do or don't do a whole host of things because of their preference.

 

[mystikmind]

I think the issue is more about this idea of 'waiting for God' that i see allot of on this site. So if your busy doing nothing waiting for God to do everything for you, why would you go on a Christian dating site?

Not that i have anything against seeking Gods guidance, but i do believe God helps those who help themselves.

 

[Shannon50]

I think if women get desperate enough, they will go for online dating-- lol-- I still don't know what I think

 

[hoss2576]

I think plenty of women do online dating or those sites wouldn't stay in business.

 

[secularhermit]

"So the question here is Why are single Christians underestimating online christian dating?"

1) Online "truth" is partial, manipulable, somewhat limited to the corners of this screen, idealized the way each person knows (and it's known after they have met the person they thought they knew)

2) When they actually met those have undergone a new process of "knowning" the one they thought they knew online

3) Online anonimity gave them some temporal advantages, that could be vanished any time when those meet personally. E. I. men can lie on their age, social status or body shape (same way ladies could do) and a real personal approach spares people time (although I believe online dating is also profilactic and time-saving)

 

[Lynx]

I love pickled eggs, but a lot of people don't like them at all. I can't see why not... they're delicious! So why do so many people not like them?


My point is, some people don't want to do some things just because they don't want to. No logic, no list of pros and cons, just a matter of personal preference.

 

[seoulsearch]

*shrugs*

I've been part of the online dating community for about... 7 years now? Something like that. It's been so long I've lost track.

It may not have worked in finding "THE ONE", but I've at least had the privilege of meeting some very interesting people along the way.

Then again, I am a very "old-school" person who's had pen pals since the time I could write. And this was long before the internet, so I couldn't look up their criminal histories online . I first met a pen pal in person when I was around 15; I met another from Japan when I was in my 20's. Again, this was pre-internet. My Japanese pen pal and I never even talked on the phone before she came--we set up everything with snail mail paper letters that took 2 weeks to arrive going either way.

Granted, this is a little different from online dating.

But writing to people or meeting them via "technological means" (even if that technology is good old pen and paper) before meeting them in person is not as new as people think, and a few of us have been doing it for decades.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

I hate black licorice! But some people like it, even over red licorice. I can't see why─red is obviously a more flavorful colorful. So why the discord?

My point is...food.

 

[MyLighthouse]

Truth is their are creeps online...you can be and act however you want behind a screen. Yes, there are some that aren't. Had a friend telling me yesterday about her creepy guy experience online. Not even going there....Just no, no, no!

 

[mystikmind]

Truth is their are creeps online...you can be and act however you want behind a screen. Yes, there are some that aren't. Had a friend telling me yesterday about her creepy guy experience online. Not even going there....Just no, no, no!

creeps and scammers, yep. But good dating sites give you the tools to avoid them

 

[Roh_Chris]

We, the single Christians, are not underestimating online Christian dating. Online Christian dating is underestimating us.

 

[Willie-T]

Wassa matter, Godson, having trouble getting a date? People meet people the way they choose to meet people. What's the big deal?

 

[Richie_2uk]

I have discovered that many christian singles especially Christian women are underestimating online christian dating. I once asked several christian girls that are single if they will consider online christian dating and they said as follows “ i don't like online dating” “i don't want my picture to be online” “its not the proper way of dating” “the date i meet online can be anybody”. These christian girls believe that it is better to find a christian date in their church. But the truth is that online christian dating is the easiest way to find a true christian date because you have more people to choose from online than in your church. Also what if your dream partner lives miles away from you? You will never get to meet in the church because he/she lives miles away from you , the only way you will meet that dream partner is online. Also you don't have to put your picture online, all you need is a strong profile headline that will attract true Christians to your profile. In regards to “the date i meet online can be anybody” of course that's true, the date you meet online can be anybody i.e the date you meet online may be a liar, thief, fraudster or a false christian. but the date you meet online may also be a true christian that will end up to be your dream partner. Also note that it is wrong to believe that the date you meet in your Church is automatically a true christian. Just because you see an attractive man or woman in the church choir or youth pastoral team, that does not automatically make them true Christians. For example i used to know a man from high school who was gay but later on in life he joined a church, the Church choir and the youth pastoral team. and he has managed to get himself one of the Christian girls in the Church as a wife. but his wife does not know that her "husband"is gay and she believes that he is a true christian just because he is a church goer. This just shows you that the same way the date you meet online can be anybody, the date you meet in your church can also be anybody. The date you meet in your church may be a liar, thief, fraudster, false christian and as we now know the date you meet in your church may be gay, but the date you meet in your church may also be a true christian that will end up to be your dream partner. The point here is that in regards to safety the date you meet online and the date you meet in the church are the same, the only advantage online dating has is that you have more people to choose from. But yet many Christians are underestimating online christian dating? My advice to single Christians is to go online for a date, but not just any site, make sure it is a Christan dating site. but when you go online you have to be careful. My experience shows that only 3 out of every 10 people on christian dating sites are true Christians. this means that if 10 people contact you on a christian dating site in one day then you can be assured that 7 of those people that contacted you may be false Christians but the good news is that you will at least still get 3 good Christian potential partners in that day which is probably a higher figure than what you will get if you relied solely on meeting a Christian partner in your church.
So the question here is Why are single Christians underestimating online christian dating?

Over the years Online Dating has not given great expectations, so with that in mind, I cant trust a dating site even if it is a Christian dating site fully, because you will get mostly online Romance scams, Romance scams has increased over the last 3 years, so you can see why dating sites are not trust worthy. Then you get people who think why pay for love? well most dating sites offer certain tools and and features on the sites to help you get or find dates and its the tools they use on the site you have to pay for. Well thats here or there, its not a guarantee thing to give you success. Again its down to trust issues. Most dating sites tries to get you to pay them to do the search for you, when all they do is try match you with a likely candidate that has similar interests or attributes as you, and 8 out of 10, are matched to no one that is what you are looking for.

Dating romance scams is the biggest problem on dating sites even on so called Christian sites. There are people who will make a fake profile, or even a real profile of themselves, they manipulate teh person they speaking to, and give them soft and soppy stories, they try to get to you to feel sorry for them, and them they start asking for money to help them come over to meet you, and so on. Many people say oh they wont fall for the traps, but sadly they do, because these scammers are clever, they know the ins and out of the sites, and they know how to get to the soft side of you.

So basically you can see why not many people dont use dating sites. and on most of them, well there are more fakes profiles on them than facebook, and mainly they are all out to mess with your hearts and scam you silly.

 

[PoetMary]

Personally, I don't get why people have a dog in the fight at all (unless they own a Christian dating site).

Long gone are the days when you'd marry someone within your village or clan that had basically be vetted by the entire community. Pretty much any source used to meet single people puts you in the position of meeting someone new, who is a stranger to your friends, and who could potentially be a con-artist.

But the thing is, nobody can manipulate you if you're not easily manipulated. And con-artists can totally sense who would make an easy target and who would not. So, if you don't want to be manipulated romantically, sort your inner life out. It's not a guarantee (we all have weak spots), but it certainly helps.

Then, jump into whichever part of the dating pool you'd like. Or maybe don't jump, just stick your toe in. Or maybe just sit on a lawn chair and watch a little.

 

[Ugly]

Truth is their are creeps online...you can be and act however you want behind a screen. Yes, there are some that aren't. Had a friend telling me yesterday about her creepy guy experience online. Not even going there....Just no, no, no!

Hmm.. there's a level of validity to this concept. But it is such an overused, exaggerated excuse, when really what people mean are they aren't interested in the idea. But they feel a need to justify that so they bloat ideas to back up how they feel.
There is a lot to be concerned about with people you meet offline as well. Just that people who speak against internet dating minimize (or are ignorant of) the dangers of 'real life' dating.

 

[Ugly]

I have discovered that many christian singles especially Christian women are underestimating online christian dating. I once asked several christian girls that are single if they will consider online christian dating and they said as follows “ i don't like online dating” “i don't want my picture to be online” “its not the proper way of dating” “the date i meet online can be anybody”. These christian girls believe that it is better to find a christian date in their church. But the truth is that online christian dating is the easiest way to find a true christian date because you have more people to choose from online than in your church. Also what if your dream partner lives miles away from you? You will never get to meet in the church because he/she lives miles away from you , the only way you will meet that dream partner is online. Also you don't have to put your picture online, all you need is a strong profile headline that will attract true Christians to your profile. In regards to “the date i meet online can be anybody” of course that's true, the date you meet online can be anybody i.e the date you meet online may be a liar, thief, fraudster or a false christian. but the date you meet online may also be a true christian that will end up to be your dream partner. Also note that it is wrong to believe that the date you meet in your Church is automatically a true christian. Just because you see an attractive man or woman in the church choir or youth pastoral team, that does not automatically make them true Christians. For example i used to know a man from high school who was gay but later on in life he joined a church, the Church choir and the youth pastoral team. and he has managed to get himself one of the Christian girls in the Church as a wife. but his wife does not know that her "husband"is gay and she believes that he is a true christian just because he is a church goer. This just shows you that the same way the date you meet online can be anybody, the date you meet in your church can also be anybody. The date you meet in your church may be a liar, thief, fraudster, false christian and as we now know the date you meet in your church may be gay, but the date you meet in your church may also be a true christian that will end up to be your dream partner. The point here is that in regards to safety the date you meet online and the date you meet in the church are the same, the only advantage online dating has is that you have more people to choose from. But yet many Christians are underestimating online christian dating? My advice to single Christians is to go online for a date, but not just any site, make sure it is a Christan dating site. but when you go online you have to be careful. My experience shows that only 3 out of every 10 people on christian dating sites are true Christians. this means that if 10 people contact you on a christian dating site in one day then you can be assured that 7 of those people that contacted you may be false Christians but the good news is that you will at least still get 3 good Christian potential partners in that day which is probably a higher figure than what you will get if you relied solely on meeting a Christian partner in your church.
So the question here is Why are single Christians underestimating online christian dating?

Two problems i have with this post. One, good lord man, create paragraphs. Wall of text is difficult to read and look at.
Second, you are using a very broad brush to describe a large number of people, and in doing so discrediting your claim.

Truth is Christian online dating is quite popular. Naturally there are naysayers, as in everything, but this blanket statement is not accurate of the truth at all.

Another thing i see wrong 'what if your dream partner lives on the other side of the country'. Well, don't you think God has foresight? Do you truly believe if God knows that 'John' doesn't believe in online dating that He will not bring anyone to John because John won't use online dating? If God is going to bring someone to another, He knows how that person feels and won't set two people together who can never have a chance at meeting.

 

[MyLighthouse]

Hmm.. there's a level of validity to this concept. But it is such an overused, exaggerated excuse, when really what people mean are they aren't interested in the idea. But they feel a need to justify that so they bloat ideas to back up how they feel.
There is a lot to be concerned about with people you meet offline as well. Just that people who speak against internet dating minimize (or are ignorant of) the dangers of 'real life' dating.

That's not true, I can name a friends that I know have dated tons of people in real life. The one I mentioned included who did online dating and ending up only meeting creeps. One of my friends was totally for it until being scared from it, she still can't talk about her experience to this day. Of course people are deceptive and such in real life but truth it is much easier to bend online and get away with it much longer than in real life...Have you even seen Catfish?

 

[Godson13]

Well, I suppose you have a good argument about why to date online, but... isn't that an individual's preference? People do or don't do a whole host of things because of their preference.

Preference? if it was about shopping for something as little as a pair of jeans then a christian has the right to prefer shopping either online or in the stores, but when it comes to finding a true christian partner who is hard to find then it is naive and unwise to say " its a matter of choice" the fact is that when a christian decides that he/she wants to get married in the future then that Christian has stated that he/she has a preference for getting married and therefore, where that christian gets his/her Christian partner from should not necessarily be a matter of choice because at the end of the day what that christian is searching for is a true christian partner. and true christian partners can be found online. so why should a christian say "i don't prefer online dating" when what that christian wants is online? for example its like you saying "i don't prefer using my ATM card , instead i prefer queuing at the teller" why queue at the teller when you can easily get what you want from the ATM? also note that many Christian girls i have spoken to have complained that they are finding it difficult to find a Christian partner because the men in their church are few and they are not in the same age range as them. that's why i am encouraging Christians to go online.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

for example its like you saying "i don't prefer using my ATM card , instead i prefer queuing at the teller" why queue at the teller when you can easily get what you want from the ATM?

Maybe I'll meet a nice Christian teller.

I think you made a good point in this post, only the analogy is poor.