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Anarchist. 
I like being single because I can shamelessly flirt. Lol.
Okay, seriously: I enjoy the free time being single offers. It gives me more time to work on myself in so many ways. Relationships often aid us in working on ourselves also, but they can strip us of free time to reflect and explore things we wouldn't have the time to pursue while obligated to someone.
I like being single because I can shamelessly flirt. Lol.
Okay, seriously: I enjoy the free time being single offers. It gives me more time to work on myself in so many ways. Relationships often aid us in working on ourselves also, but they can strip us of free time to reflect and explore things we wouldn't have the time to pursue while obligated to someone.
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Some might not think this is serious but it kinda is. I like being single because I can rip a fart any time I want and I don't have to protect the other( my partner).
I also like being single because my money doesn't disappear towards things that I never thought it would.
But I still don't fully like being single. Its alright.
I also like being single because my money doesn't disappear towards things that I never thought it would.
But I still don't fully like being single. Its alright.
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I like being single because the only other consult in my life regarding my life's decisions is God. I also don't have the emotional upheaval that come with loving a significant other. Not saying relationships are all drama filled, but my life is peaceful in that aspect.
This is sounds terrible, but I'm also glad that I'm single because I'm not responsible for another person's happiness, just my own.
This is sounds terrible, but I'm also glad that I'm single because I'm not responsible for another person's happiness, just my own.
1. Your heart is not split.
"32 I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord.33 But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife—34 and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband.35 I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord." . 1 Cor 7:32-35
So what does that mean? Well, for instance, scripture and prayer. If you live alone, you could spend hours in scripture and prayer with relatively few to no distractions. If God is speaking to you in the middle of the night, you're not keeping anyone awake. If you feel convicted to worship at a given moment in the day, you're not distracting anyone from something. If you feel the call 'to go' or 'sell all your possessions' at any given moment, you have no one to explain yourself to or disadvantage in some way by doing so. You avoid all those hiccups or hangups along the way. You can devote yourself fully to Christ.
2. Your Relationship.
"But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this." - 1 Cor. 7:28
So, I think what needs to be said first, is that, marriage is the closest mirror of what God wants with us. To be at the deepest level of intimacy, life together, affection... God loves you, and as such, wants nothing more than for you to love Him back. Jesus wants to be best friends, best lovers, best sister or brother, with you. Like a parent and child, like a husband and wife, so God wants us to be unrestricted, close, connected, in life with Him.
That said, being single, allows you to focus on that primarily through Him. When you have a girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife, there are struggles you have to face. Different ways of living. Different ways of understanding. Different feelings, needs, wants, schedules, life goals/paths. You'll have to learn to adapt, change, compromise, etc to 'fit' your lives and selves together.
"3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife.5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.6 I say this as a concession, not as a command." -1 Cor. 7:3-6
As you can see here, you are no longer your own. We already have this understand that if you live by the Spirit instead of the flesh, then you are no longer your own, but Christ's... however, if you marry, you also 'belong' to your spouse. That's part of the marriage vows. "To HAVE and to hold..." You belong to each other. There's a wonderful gift in this, but also, for those strongly independent or self-willed (which is most of us), it's a whole shift in how you do and understand things. This shift should already happen between God and ourselves, but marriage brings it into a completely different physical realm of reality.
There are several other things I could say about the gift of singleness, but I'll share only one further. I also want to say there exists a multiplicity of gifts toward being married, so as to not portray a leaning to one or another. Both are equally blessed by God, but are certainly distinctively different.
3. The 'Mutual Ownership' or decision of what, where, when, & how.
So, right now, to large effect, your decisions when single are your own. The things you choose to do, buy, support, etc. When married, you now share in all decisions, material or immaterial, with one another, and should/must consider and confer with each other upon making such decisions which before were your own.
What does that mean? Perhaps you didn't see a problem before in your finances, personal habits, or hobbies...but now there can ( and probably will ) be. FE, that bar you used to play music in, that coworker you used to spend so much time with, or whatever example applicable... need to be considered and run past your wife or husband. That hobby, FE: video games, now is no longer something you can spend so much thought, time, and money on. You need to make concession with your wife about them. (and visa versa, filling in hobbies, habits, and consultation of a wife to her husband)
There can be strengths in this, but it is also a great struggle and usually source of trouble, tension, and injury.
Injury, mentioned, I'll also submit the fact that things with before 'one hurt you', no longer hurt only you, but your spouse. It's a great shift in the way we need to feel, think, act, etc... and increases our responsibilities, taking on the life of another. Many are not really ready, committed, or equipped to do this, so it ends in messy break ups and divorces... I realize that's a bit of a general simplification to things, but I believe it accurate nonetheless.
So, for now, that's the argument of benefit toward the single life.
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Well, I take care of myself better because I am only concerned with my own needs (at home alone) rather than the feeding and care of another person. I can, if the whim strikes me - and as I work for myself, by myself - stay up all night working, or get up early, or take a break mid-day for whatever reason.
Specific to my marriage, I can make all of the egg dishes I want and not have objections. And the WHOLE bed is MINE!!
Specific to my marriage, I can make all of the egg dishes I want and not have objections. And the WHOLE bed is MINE!!
to echo ole's comment about bed: i share my bed with a dog, and enjoy a rather diagonal pattern that isn't terribly conducive for anyone who is larger than a mini-schnauzer.
i keep crazy hours, such as being an PW'er who rises for early east coast meeting times and a troubled sleeping schedule which of late, mostly mimics a stubborn little kid who won't sleep through the night.
and i often swing from protein shakes, to egg dishes, to whatever i have on hand, and when i feel like really cooking--because it's just me. in fact, i really struggle with normal meal times.
that's a few. i'm enjoying my freedom, and have probably enjoyed being single more than the average single. my life has indulged a lot of my whims and wandering fancies, and i'll never regret that because of all that came from that time.
but i'll be happy to enjoy new freedoms when the opportunity arises. : )
i keep crazy hours, such as being an PW'er who rises for early east coast meeting times and a troubled sleeping schedule which of late, mostly mimics a stubborn little kid who won't sleep through the night.
and i often swing from protein shakes, to egg dishes, to whatever i have on hand, and when i feel like really cooking--because it's just me. in fact, i really struggle with normal meal times.
that's a few. i'm enjoying my freedom, and have probably enjoyed being single more than the average single. my life has indulged a lot of my whims and wandering fancies, and i'll never regret that because of all that came from that time.
but i'll be happy to enjoy new freedoms when the opportunity arises. : )
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Not for long, mate.
As for me - I have the independence to make my decisions. I have also made some big-ticket purchases, which would not have been approved by a significant other. Also, my schedule cannot accommodate an hour or two for the romance. I spend 8 hours at work, followed by 2 hours at the gym and then dinner. By the time I am done for the day, it is past 11 and then it is time to sleep (8 hours for the body to recover and all that ... ). I hardly have time, let alone the energy, to engage in any emotional communication after that.
As for me - I have the independence to make my decisions. I have also made some big-ticket purchases, which would not have been approved by a significant other. Also, my schedule cannot accommodate an hour or two for the romance. I spend 8 hours at work, followed by 2 hours at the gym and then dinner. By the time I am done for the day, it is past 11 and then it is time to sleep (8 hours for the body to recover and all that ... ). I hardly have time, let alone the energy, to engage in any emotional communication after that.
Last weekend my church went to the UPCI campground. While we were there I noticed an Aldi only about 9 miles away. So I stocked up on chocolate. Moser Roth comes in little bars a bit larger than a credit card, five bars in a pack. Each 5-bar pack is two bucks.
I might possibly have spent more than $118 last weekend at Aldi. And they might possibly need to restock a couple kinds of chocolate.
THAT is one of the awesome things about being single.
I might possibly have spent more than $118 last weekend at Aldi. And they might possibly need to restock a couple kinds of chocolate.
THAT is one of the awesome things about being single.
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I wish I could be more like you all and do things you all want or need for yourself because honestly I am not grained that way, I am more concerned with taking care of people than myself. However, one of the nice things about being single right now is being able to spend more time in God's word and with my parents because once I do get into a relationship I won't spend as much time with them.