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*considers answering with a quote from So I Married An Axe Murderer...thinks better of it*
Standards of attraction, greatest to least:
--How much bacon can she cook in a single session?
--Must be able to squat and/or deadlift her own body weight
--Can already drive stick (yes, this is a higher priority than...)
--Likes to make sandwiches
--Wardrobe consists of nothing but sweater dresses and tennis skirts
--Able to spin straw into gold
--Should look like a young Betty White (middle-aged Bea Arthur also acceptable)
--Church of Latter-Seventh Month Assembly of Locked-Up Presbyterian ONLY. No other denominations acceptable. (Good thing this is least important.)
What, you guys thought I would make a list that actually outlined what attracts me to GLR? Come on. You all know better. *smirk*
Standards of attraction, greatest to least:
--How much bacon can she cook in a single session?
--Must be able to squat and/or deadlift her own body weight
--Can already drive stick (yes, this is a higher priority than...)
--Likes to make sandwiches
--Wardrobe consists of nothing but sweater dresses and tennis skirts
--Able to spin straw into gold
--Should look like a young Betty White (middle-aged Bea Arthur also acceptable)
--Church of Latter-Seventh Month Assembly of Locked-Up Presbyterian ONLY. No other denominations acceptable. (Good thing this is least important.)
What, you guys thought I would make a list that actually outlined what attracts me to GLR? Come on. You all know better. *smirk*
Speaking of which:
*My favorite are night crawlers. They are fun to catch and large mouth bass love them.
*My next favorite are Red Wigglers. They are a compost worm. Crappie and bream like them.
*Then there's the common Earthworm. It's a good universal bait for all fresh water angling.
*And don't forget about Grubs and Maggots. Excellent bait when trout fishing.
*Artificial worms (rubber worms) come in a variety of colors and slightly different shapes. But, they do not come in a can.
I would love to answer this question... but after Shour's post... anything I had to say would sound like Kibbles 'n' Bits.
(Good thread, Cruisy!) I have a few things I could answer but it would be hard for me to prioritize them.)
Aw, shucks. I might as well give it a try in the spirit of the other posts.
I like:
* Sleek and creative.
* Top of the line, even if that was 15 years ago.
* Wickedly fast and sharp, but can slow down the pace during complicated situations.
* Doesn't mind going forward or backward when locking things in.
* Flexible and has hundreds of options to choose from.
To love my sewing machine... is to love me, too.
(Good thread, Cruisy!) I have a few things I could answer but it would be hard for me to prioritize them.)
Aw, shucks. I might as well give it a try in the spirit of the other posts.
I like:
* Sleek and creative.
* Top of the line, even if that was 15 years ago.
* Wickedly fast and sharp, but can slow down the pace during complicated situations.
* Doesn't mind going forward or backward when locking things in.
* Flexible and has hundreds of options to choose from.
To love my sewing machine... is to love me, too.
Well, I'm going to be one to actually try to answer this question:
1. Actually loves Jesus. Not a saint and far from perfect, but at least earnestly trying every day. Reading scripture, praying, worshiping, engaging in Christian, faith-filled/focused fellowship and mission with others. I'm try to do and be this, and need her (definitely in this case) to be the same to some degree. (If you've seen that thread of mine, I'm looking for a follower, not a fan.) [Not to say I can't be attracted to those who are not, but it's a fatal attraction that I'm working on extinguishing. Holy affections exchanged for unholy ones, with God's help.]
*SideNote* (Normally number 2, under a committed relationship leading to marriage, I'd say she needs to love me more than anyone else, but we're talking attraction here...you don't just start out loving someone, despite the 'true love at first site' people. I'd list 3 as God giving approval to both of us that this relationship, should we pursue and eventually marry, is okay. He approves. Again, though not exclusively, hard to apply when it comes to attraction.)
2. Something. Real descriptive, yeah...I get it. Still, there's something that happens between people. Call it chemical reactions due to pheromones, beauty being in the eye of the beholder, a spiritual connection...a 'click' ... whatever it is, there are some people we just endear to almost more effectively and instinctively than trying to force a relationship all the time.
3. Artistic ability (or at least appreciation). I'm an artist. Music is literally a huge part of who I am, and I want/need someone who can relate/share in that, or at least appreciate it. I find artisticness very attractive.
4. Personality. I m aware many people might feel this is unfair, but sometimes it literally just is that way you are (a person is) that makes them attractive. I knew a girl once who was adventurous, a dreamer/visionary type, open and honest with her wants and feelings, and really...just inspiring in a lot of way. I was VERY attracted to her, because she was a beautiful person. (In the words of "Falling for the First Time" by Barenakedladies, "Anyone plain can be lovely.")
5. Looks. They matter, and different people are attracted to different things. The thing is, if there's not physical attraction to someone, it's largely (in my experience and hearing from others) not something you can 'create'. I realize a large part of this is vanity, but it is what it is.
Sidenote #2: I realized while thinking about all this, that we can be really fickle. I might be looking for someone sweet and responsible, when I'm not sweet and responsible myself. I might be looking for someone who would get rated as a '6' by most people in terms of looks, while I might be a solid '4'. I say this, because we seem to hold double standards... Don't expect things in others that you aren't willing to do or be yourself.
There might be more, but honestly, after that... I don't know.. Intelligence, the ability to have fun and enjoy life...*shrugs*
Actually, I thought about it after posting.
6. Playfulness. (Please! I need a girl who can play around, laugh, flirt or banter just a little bit... something. Attractiveness points +^ ...and I'm an introvert, mind you!)
1. Actually loves Jesus. Not a saint and far from perfect, but at least earnestly trying every day. Reading scripture, praying, worshiping, engaging in Christian, faith-filled/focused fellowship and mission with others. I'm try to do and be this, and need her (definitely in this case) to be the same to some degree. (If you've seen that thread of mine, I'm looking for a follower, not a fan.) [Not to say I can't be attracted to those who are not, but it's a fatal attraction that I'm working on extinguishing. Holy affections exchanged for unholy ones, with God's help.]
*SideNote* (Normally number 2, under a committed relationship leading to marriage, I'd say she needs to love me more than anyone else, but we're talking attraction here...you don't just start out loving someone, despite the 'true love at first site' people. I'd list 3 as God giving approval to both of us that this relationship, should we pursue and eventually marry, is okay. He approves. Again, though not exclusively, hard to apply when it comes to attraction.)
2. Something. Real descriptive, yeah...I get it. Still, there's something that happens between people. Call it chemical reactions due to pheromones, beauty being in the eye of the beholder, a spiritual connection...a 'click' ... whatever it is, there are some people we just endear to almost more effectively and instinctively than trying to force a relationship all the time.
3. Artistic ability (or at least appreciation). I'm an artist. Music is literally a huge part of who I am, and I want/need someone who can relate/share in that, or at least appreciate it. I find artisticness very attractive.
4. Personality. I m aware many people might feel this is unfair, but sometimes it literally just is that way you are (a person is) that makes them attractive. I knew a girl once who was adventurous, a dreamer/visionary type, open and honest with her wants and feelings, and really...just inspiring in a lot of way. I was VERY attracted to her, because she was a beautiful person. (In the words of "Falling for the First Time" by Barenakedladies, "Anyone plain can be lovely.")
5. Looks. They matter, and different people are attracted to different things. The thing is, if there's not physical attraction to someone, it's largely (in my experience and hearing from others) not something you can 'create'. I realize a large part of this is vanity, but it is what it is.
Sidenote #2: I realized while thinking about all this, that we can be really fickle. I might be looking for someone sweet and responsible, when I'm not sweet and responsible myself. I might be looking for someone who would get rated as a '6' by most people in terms of looks, while I might be a solid '4'. I say this, because we seem to hold double standards... Don't expect things in others that you aren't willing to do or be yourself.
There might be more, but honestly, after that... I don't know.. Intelligence, the ability to have fun and enjoy life...*shrugs*
Actually, I thought about it after posting.
6. Playfulness. (Please! I need a girl who can play around, laugh, flirt or banter just a little bit... something. Attractiveness points +^ ...and I'm an introvert, mind you!)
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I don't understand why people apologize for having an interest in the appearance of other people. It's not inherently vain or shallow. God created us as material beings. Having a sense of our physicality and responding to the physicality of others seems pretty innate to me.
I think it only becomes shallow and vain if we assume illogical things based on physicality. For example, if a person would assume that Man X could never make her happy because he's balding and Man Y could make her happy because he has hair, then that's illogical. This kind of thinking needs to be examined.
The vast majority of people have preferences that are contextual. "I find X attractive, BUT he has to have integrity," OR "I find Y attractive, but she has to be cheerful and kind." Ultimately beauty (which we're wired for, I believe) is not one thing...but a combination of many things. And, it seems that it's always a case of the sum being greater than the parts.
I think it only becomes shallow and vain if we assume illogical things based on physicality. For example, if a person would assume that Man X could never make her happy because he's balding and Man Y could make her happy because he has hair, then that's illogical. This kind of thinking needs to be examined.
The vast majority of people have preferences that are contextual. "I find X attractive, BUT he has to have integrity," OR "I find Y attractive, but she has to be cheerful and kind." Ultimately beauty (which we're wired for, I believe) is not one thing...but a combination of many things. And, it seems that it's always a case of the sum being greater than the parts.