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Mar 4, 2011
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Hi Forum,

I've been going out with someone for a few dates and initially things were ok but now things feel really sour and bad , and i don't think its love anymore :( .
 
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Shouryu

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Hi Forum,

I've been going out with someone for a few dates and initially things were ok but now things feel really sour and bad , and i don't think its love anymore :( .
Truthfully, it probably wasn't love to begin with. It was probably just attraction and some general interest. Very much not the same as love.

Remember, love is what you DO, not what you feel. ^_-

Give it time. There will be healing, and there will be other opportunities, if God wills.
 
Dec 1, 2014
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Dating is a natural way to formulate just who and what you are. It's full of fun, regret, laughter and tears at the same time. Obviously, it's a personal test. Both parties have to be openly honest, and willing to defend your morals should the occasion come up. If a date begins to feel boring, dull, mundane, and your likes and dislikes keep you on edge..take it as a GODLY intervention and ease off, remaining cool friends, etc. but do not chase after them. Do not start dating with the idea that you should instantly begin a physical relationship, or move in, or hang with just them and nobody else. It never ends up in your favor if you surrender to the other's whims. Make sure that it is YOU that is treated mannerly with no hidden agenda from the other date. Allow time to help you two decide if it's worth it. Sometimes, you instantly know immediately if that date will be your last one with that girl/boy. As for me, I knew instantly that my certain date was THE ONE, because..way back at age 14, I was encouraged to pray that GOD would lead me to the girl that HE had prepared just for ME. I met her when I was 17...we dated for 4 years until she realized that I was the ONE for her! We are about to celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary.
 
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Ilona

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Dating is a natural way to formulate just who and what you are. It's full of fun, regret, laughter and tears at the same time. Obviously, it's a personal test. Both parties have to be openly honest, and willing to defend your morals should the occasion come up. If a date begins to feel boring, dull, mundane, and your likes and dislikes keep you on edge..take it as a GODLY intervention and ease off, remaining cool friends, etc. but do not chase after them. Do not start dating with the idea that you should instantly begin a physical relationship, or move in, or hang with just them and nobody else. It never ends up in your favor if you surrender to the other's whims. Make sure that it is YOU that is treated mannerly with no hidden agenda from the other date. Allow time to help you two decide if it's worth it. Sometimes, you instantly know immediately if that date will be your last one with that girl/boy. As for me, I knew instantly that my certain date was THE ONE, because..way back at age 14, I was encouraged to pray that GOD would lead me to the girl that HE had prepared just for ME. I met her when I was 17...we dated for 4 years until she realized that I was the ONE for her! We are about to celebrate our 39th wedding anniversary.
Happy love story, pwrnJC. I'm glad for you! :)
God bless you!
 
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Practice-English

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Hi Forum,

I've been going out with someone for a few dates and initially things were ok but now things feel really sour and bad , and i don't think its love anymore :( .

Hello to you buddy :)

Yeah life is complicated sometimes...
I can't be in your skin to know how I can feel...
But let me introduce this:





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Misty77

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Aug 30, 2013
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I totally agree with Shouryu.

This is why I support casual dating. Get to know people first without putting all the pressure of "the ONE" on each person. "Get together, have a few laughs..." Maybe it'll turn into a friendship, maybe you'll just not click with each other, or maybe you'll grow a relationship on a really strong foundation.
 

JesusLives

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Oct 11, 2013
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Hi Forum,

I've been going out with someone for a few dates and initially things were ok but now things feel really sour and bad , and i don't think its love anymore :( .
I don't think it was love to start with....infatuation maybe, interest, trying to get to know the other person better? So you found out maybe not for you.....plenty of fish in the sea......