Expectations

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Deliver

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like I do have a weakness for a man in uniform so I do like police officers and men that are in the military. Over the last year I dissected why I liked those type of men and it was because they give of themselves on a daily basis without any guarantee of coming home again. Even if the man God has for me is not a police officer, I want him to have that same mindset to put others before themselves.
What about a soldier in the army of The Lord? :D
 
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cmarieh

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What about a soldier in the army of The Lord? :D
You didn't read my entire post, I do expect a man to have a relationship with Jesus Christ and follow that every single day not wavering in his faith. But yes every single man that is in the army of the Lord gains a few points of attractiveness in my book:eek:
 
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BeanieD

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I would only expect from others that we are all human, all make mistakes, and all have baggage. I would expect only honesty, and sincerety.
 
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Deliver

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You didn't read my entire post, I do expect a man to have a relationship with Jesus Christ and follow that every single day not wavering in his faith. But yes every single man that is in the army of the Lord gains a few points of attractiveness in my book:eek:
I did read the entire thing and I can understand you have your preferences.
 
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Maybe it's just me but the older I get, the less I expect from
people and from life - the world seems to have very little to offer
and not much shocks me now. I'm just grateful to God that my
needs are met.


Let you be you and let them be them.

God willing you and them might be compatible.
Oh, myyyyyyy!

I expected "her" to play some music for me... :p
 
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That depends on the expectations. Expectations on morality and ethical behavior are good. But having high expectations on things that are subjective is called being controlling. Everyone should be allowed to have their own taste in music, opinions on politics, thoughts on how to apply scriptural truth to their lives, and preferences on how to express themselves.
The other side of the respect for free will is:

1) She doesn´t want to go to the church I wanna go

2) She doesn´t love God the way I think she should

3) She doens´t like my loved ones... I´m sure I chose wrongly (again)

4) She doesn´t dress the way a Christian woman ought to (but I was drawn the moment I saw how nice looking she was wearing those pants I want her she stopped using)

Those ideas -also- apply for men.

May God spare ppl´s wrong choices.
 
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Ahhhhhhh....

From the American Psychiatric Publishing, Inc.

High Expectation => Depression.

View attachment 125303
In that chart, Bow, age and body conditions play a HUGE ROLE.

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a person gets, the "uglier" a person thinks of him-herself, that DEVALUATION fluctuates.

When ppl are really young, they can ask "heaven" or earth but, when WE see time has charged its toll, everything on that chart changes.

Here we have a song, "Caballo Viejo", written and sung by Simon Díaz. It tells it well, too:

[video]https://youtu.be/3DnnT3MlnVo[/video]

Letra de Caballo Viejo de Sim
 
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@Cmarie

I thik your sister is really correct in what she has seen, in you, for years (I only have read, about you, since those days I saw your avatar, like this


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"and it was because they give of themselves on a daily basis without any guarantee of coming home again..."

those that are preaching the Gospel, abroad, are ALSO giving themselves, without using an uniform that would bring home a torn flag and those honors money cannot not buy, after being dead.
 
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"My question is How do you lower on what you expect of other people?"

Several years back I had an online friend I got a crush on...

When I knew she was fat, I shrank back (I know why) and she wanted me to be cracked (she has a doctorate in Psychology and still works to help ppl to overcome their problems with obesity, in Valencia)

She TAUGHT me a lot of things.

She is the most beautiful person I have loved (at distance). I never accepted to show up, because I know me well.

She told me, on time, she loved an engineer, a professional and, when they met, she knew he was on a wheel chair (that broke her heart) but she loved him, until the last day.

One day, as she told me, the Police phone called her (she got so nervous and it downed on her).

Before that man died, the last phone call he did, was to listen her voice (and believe me her voice is so SPECIAL).

They both had a real love affair. She said she loved him to his last breath.

-We´re calling you to know who you are -said the policeman-. The owner of this phoned died and, the last person he called, was this number and we wanted to check why he called...

She said what she needed to say.

That engineer, for having lost one or two legs, had to work in a booth (his own business) renting phones or selling candies to get his daily living (some ppl are really handicapped by society and those markets who sell IMAGES, instead of social services).

That friend almost shed tears when she told me that, his last breath, his last words, were just for her, a beautiful woman who help too many ppl to overcome their emotional limitations and -also- their problem with being overweighted.

How do I respond to love? With love!

Being loved is a miracle.

I don´t believe ugliness is really outside, but INSIDE, the way how we perceive love and ppl.

Those who are "young" and attractive -today- also have the chance to be picky but, time will tell all (as I also learned)
 
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bowharp

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**self reminder: Don't play "love songs" while reading other people's posts on love.....**
 
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Rosesrock

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remember iit's easier to bring someone down than to left them up. So surround yourself with those who point you closer to Christ so you can strive to do the same. Guard your mind and soul through prayer and God's word. Pray for the Lord to protect you and put people in your life you need and keep those out you don't. He will provide all your needs. Don't guess. :)