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Because God hates divorce - Malachi 2:16. But instead of cherry picking Mosiac law it's also pretty clear Jesus had pretty strong language on the same topic in Matthew 19:3-6. And if you'll keep reading to 19:8 you'll see divorce was never part of God's original design.
That's part of the reason God wishes us to be steadfast in marriage, but the parcel is the "practice of faithfulness". I think of faith like a muscle requiring exercise and man's "hardness of heart" in marriage is ALWAYS the result of unfaithfulness. Always. Whether the unfaithfulness is physical or emotional or indifference, it is unfaithfulness to a union that God joined together. It means His covenant is in error. It's undependable. Unreliable.
Do you know what's in the deepest recesses of this couple's hearts? Do you know their relationship is over because of some paperwork? Do you think God can't temper the hardness of their heart? Would it be good if the couple knew all there was to know spiritually to help them make their decision?
That's part of the reason God wishes us to be steadfast in marriage, but the parcel is the "practice of faithfulness". I think of faith like a muscle requiring exercise and man's "hardness of heart" in marriage is ALWAYS the result of unfaithfulness. Always. Whether the unfaithfulness is physical or emotional or indifference, it is unfaithfulness to a union that God joined together. It means His covenant is in error. It's undependable. Unreliable.
Do you know what's in the deepest recesses of this couple's hearts? Do you know their relationship is over because of some paperwork? Do you think God can't temper the hardness of their heart? Would it be good if the couple knew all there was to know spiritually to help them make their decision?
Well, first of all, if you thought it was ok... why are you asking us? I have a feeling you don't think it's ok either.
Secondly, it's really not over till it's over. There is still an opportunity for reconciliation (even if they don't think so.. God's a pretty big God.)
Thirdly, getting involved romantically with a married person is not only socially unwise, it's tempting yourself with adultery.
Finally, getting romantically involved with someone who has not been single at least 6 months post-marriage is just borrowing trouble. Though that's not a Biblical principal, someone just ending a marriage (no matter how long it's been 'over') is still reeling and hurting emotionally. You may not see this yet, but often a man - women too, but as you are a woman, I'm assuming he's a man - will not deal with his emotions and will distract himself with someone who might make him happy... but then he'll realize he's not ready and you are the one who gets crushed. There is a reason why the phrase "rebound relationship" is a well known concept.
But yes, please do pray about it. The above is my opinion. It's also my opinion that if it's a God thing that the two of you are together, you both will wait till he is free and clear to pursue you. Keep your acquaintance, your friendship (if one already exists) and put a boundary up of him not approaching you romantically till he's a single man, and has had some time to seek God and heal from the ending of his marriage. I'm not a young woman, I've seen a few things in my time. Please benefit from my experience. God bless you!!
Secondly, it's really not over till it's over. There is still an opportunity for reconciliation (even if they don't think so.. God's a pretty big God.)
Thirdly, getting involved romantically with a married person is not only socially unwise, it's tempting yourself with adultery.
Finally, getting romantically involved with someone who has not been single at least 6 months post-marriage is just borrowing trouble. Though that's not a Biblical principal, someone just ending a marriage (no matter how long it's been 'over') is still reeling and hurting emotionally. You may not see this yet, but often a man - women too, but as you are a woman, I'm assuming he's a man - will not deal with his emotions and will distract himself with someone who might make him happy... but then he'll realize he's not ready and you are the one who gets crushed. There is a reason why the phrase "rebound relationship" is a well known concept.
But yes, please do pray about it. The above is my opinion. It's also my opinion that if it's a God thing that the two of you are together, you both will wait till he is free and clear to pursue you. Keep your acquaintance, your friendship (if one already exists) and put a boundary up of him not approaching you romantically till he's a single man, and has had some time to seek God and heal from the ending of his marriage. I'm not a young woman, I've seen a few things in my time. Please benefit from my experience. God bless you!!
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As a school teacher, I can tell you why, because I see this behavior all the time.
"Said no yesterday. Maybe today they'll change their minds and say yes."
"Said no again...maybe if I word it in a different way?"
"There's gotta be a way to get the answer I want, if I just ask at the right time or the right way!"
Unfortunately, for sixth graders, right and wrong do not change. And for God's children, the Bible does not change. Womp womp.
"Said no yesterday. Maybe today they'll change their minds and say yes."
"Said no again...maybe if I word it in a different way?"
"There's gotta be a way to get the answer I want, if I just ask at the right time or the right way!"
Unfortunately, for sixth graders, right and wrong do not change. And for God's children, the Bible does not change. Womp womp.
