50 and insecure

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when i read the post and saw last response by utah im thinking "ohh man is this gonna be good" and then he goes out and says something sweet. i will remember this moment.
Lol. Go over to the sanctification thread. No sweetness there. :)
 
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mjg716

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Thank you all for your comments. I know to some I sound silly but I'm not trying to sound silly. I guess I really should decide if I really want someone or not. Sometimes I do but most times I'm too scared and dont.
 
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When I was 25, I was pretty shy and never dreamed of complimenting a complete stranger. Today at 50, I compliment all the time, including women half my age, but do so very respectfully and for no other reason than to just make someone smile.

Here's a example:

"I'm old enough to be your dad so please know that I'm not hitting on you, but I have to tell you, you're smile lights up the entire room. Make sure you always share your smile with someone in need."

This always proves to be a great experience because everything I say is true: I'm old, I'm not hitting on them, their smile is awesome, and its important that they always share a smile with others.

And for the record, even an average, ho hum, smile can instantly become a person's best feature when you've brought them a moment of happiness.
That is so lovely. :)
 
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Risen2014

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fall in love with the soul.jpg The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him:

"Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take her of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

 
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Risen2014

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It will help if you see your self as Christ sees you.
Your were made to be perfect by a perfect God. Psalms 139:14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
God your creator choose you before the foundation of the world. Ephesian 1:4
According as he hath chosen us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before him in love:
Your are precious to God and your are loved Isaiah 43:4
"Since you are precious in My sight, Since you are honored and I love you, I will give other men in your place and other peoples in exchange for your life.
You have been bought with Christ life and blood. 1 Corinthians 6:20 For you have been bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body.

Your worth is clearly defined in God's word. Accept who you are for you are who God our creator made you to be. You are unique and special and know that you are a daughter of the Most High God and you are beautiful beyond compare and your future is secured in God your heavenly Father. Jeremaiah 29:11 11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. (plan to give you hope and a future.) Put your trust in God and have faith in His word and accept nothing less than the best.

 
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The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt . . .
I'm not stupid or naive, but that bums me out.

Imagine the positive impact she could have on so many peoples' lives if she was still modelling.

Sorry to be such a buzzkill, especially when her man kicks serious behind!
 
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Utah, I agree with you and I believe that it was Turia Pitt's dream come true for her to be a model. "She did have positive impact in so many lives when she was still modelling." No human could possibly wish a dramatic end like this on their courier. What happened to her was absolutely not her doing? I am glad that she is not you. "I'm not stupid or naive, but that bums me out." She did not burned out. Her physical appearance does but she is her spirit!!!!!. Her spirit continues to smiles and she radiates eternal beauty. As according to God's word 1 Peter 3:4 ESVBut let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. What an amazing testimony and her fiance not only fall in love with her physically but most importantly he fell in love with the real her. Her soul

 
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Jole

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I think we all women , nearly all, feel a bit insecure. but we are the way we are. If someone likes you its only because its you, not because of your appearance only, its a heart in you. You are Gods creature. You the best
 
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That was beautiful Jole
Welcome to CC
Thank you
Very inspiring post to women
God bless you
 
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TRSSS1stPresident

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For me, I prefer younger because I am also 50 AND love to have children, LORD willing. So, I am not giving up.
 
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Whats for you , you wont miss it.
 
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Nala50

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I will be turning 50 soon; I was married for close to 20 years, but, now that I am back in the "dating scene", the men I have encountered so far are very superficial and are expecting someone that looks 20. I am hoping and waiting for the one that has matured enough to realize that the person you are going to spend your time/life with has to have more than looks going for them. You will find that person too, and they will not even notice/care that you are not "perfect".
 

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Would you marry a woman with underdeveloped breasts? I am 50 and am so insecure, i feel that I would love to marry a man with an
Underdeveloped man part because we would understand and accept and love each other for how God made us.
I think you are using the word "underdeveloped" here (in both instances) to mean "small." Small can still be fully developed, sooooo... yeah. "Small" is not an abnormality like you make it sound here lol. :cool:
 
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Utah, I agree with you and I believe that it was Turia Pitt's dream come true for her to be a model. "She did have positive impact in so many lives when she was still modelling." No human could possibly wish a dramatic end like this on their courier. What happened to her was absolutely not her doing? I am glad that she is not you. "I'm not stupid or naive, but that bums me out." She did not burned out. Her physical appearance does but she is her spirit!!!!!. Her spirit continues to smiles and she radiates eternal beauty. As according to God's word 1 Peter 3:4ESVBut let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious. What an amazing testimony and her fiance not only fall in love with her physically but most importantly he fell in love with the real her. Her soul
You misunderstood the intent of my post. I said it bums me out that she's no longer modeling, as in, how awesome it would be if someone in the industry had the heart and mind of Christ and had her modeling for them. Talk about someone breaking incredible social barriers. The subject being the modeling executives, not Turia Pitt. I failed to make that clear.
 
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If I was just small, I would of said small. I am under developed, you see my pituitary gland was not doing its job as to release the hormones it should have. So at age 11 I had to take growth hormones till i was 16 because I was super tiny and at 17 I had to take estrogen because I hadnt reached puberty and didn't have a menstrual cycle. By then endocrinologist had already informed me that I would not have children unless I went through even more hormonal treatment and even then it was not guaranteed. I was just tired of it all so I stopped everything at age 24. So my boobs are not fully developed and because I knew I couldn't have kids I never married. I did not want to take that from anyone and because I never married, I've never been intimate with anyone. So yea, I did mean UNDER DEVELOPED.
 

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If I was just small, I would of said small. I am under developed, you see my pituitary gland was not doing its job as to release the hormones it should have. So at age 11 I had to take growth hormones till i was 16 because I was super tiny and at 17 I had to take estrogen because I hadnt reached puberty and didn't have a menstrual cycle. By then endocrinologist had already informed me that I would not have children unless I went through even more hormonal treatment and even then it was not guaranteed. I was just tired of it all so I stopped everything at age 24. So my boobs are not fully developed and because I knew I couldn't have kids I never married. I did not want to take that from anyone and because I never married, I've never been intimate with anyone. So yea, I did mean UNDER DEVELOPED.

Okay, so there is a bigger picture here, which of course was impossible to get from your original post. I think that's more relevant than breast functionality. And the fact that you would seek a man with similar hormonal issues is odd, in my opinion.

Many women who can't have children can and DO find life partners. I think there was more at play here.
 
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mjg716

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I just think a man with similar issues would be more understanding and I would definitely understand him and love him as he is
 
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Galahad

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That was beautiful Jole
Welcome to CC
Thank you
Very inspiring post to women
God bless you
I agree skylove. Remember you can LIKE Jole's response.
 
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Galahad

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I just think a man with similar issues would be more understanding and I would definitely understand him and love him as he is
Not necessarily. Men are more visual oriented. That's why a woman's body is beautiful, but a man's body is basic. The female body is beautiful for a reason.

So you don't think a man can be understanding unless he has a shorty? You must think men are all cold, uncaring.

But there are several posts that prove you wrong.

I love my wife. Love her dearly. Guess what, cancer. Changed her body. I still love her. Care for her.

Now knock it off.

Quit worrying and start rejoicing.

Okay. Get out of yourself.

Cool it! Enough! You are more than your issue.

Will pray for you.