Hello Everybody,
First I want to say that I am sorry for all the typos and misspellings in my last few posts and threads... I'm on one of my infamous random bouts of insomnia, and my sleep-deprived mind is inserting letters and words in ways that somehow make sense to me, but will look like absolute nonsense to the rest of you!
I have tended to travel in and out of the dating scene the past few years... and having made the choice to jump back into the mix within the last five months or so, I seem to be running into a common issue.
Many of the guys who have expressed interest will eventually tell me they are dealing with, or have dealt with, a porn addiction. In a thread I wrote a while back, most people here seemed to voice the opinion that they would not date or marry someone who had a current porn addiction but would be willing to consider someone who has "kicked the habit."
My question is, what exactly should the definition be of having kicked the addiction? If the person hasn't viewed porn in 6 days, weeks, months, or years, are they over it? Would you want to see some sort of "proof", such as a certificate showing that they had been through some kind of intervention program, or have a mentor?
Where are the guidelines between what you would and would not accept in a relationship regarding this issue?
I tend to be cautious in this area because I have been too open-minded in the past and found myself in very damaging situations.
But, I certainly don't want to slam the door on an earnest, heartfelt Christian guy who is a normal human being that has struggles, just like the rest of us, in many different areas.
What are your thoughts?
I still wrestle with this, and have yet to come to a solid conclusion.
First I want to say that I am sorry for all the typos and misspellings in my last few posts and threads... I'm on one of my infamous random bouts of insomnia, and my sleep-deprived mind is inserting letters and words in ways that somehow make sense to me, but will look like absolute nonsense to the rest of you!
I have tended to travel in and out of the dating scene the past few years... and having made the choice to jump back into the mix within the last five months or so, I seem to be running into a common issue.
Many of the guys who have expressed interest will eventually tell me they are dealing with, or have dealt with, a porn addiction. In a thread I wrote a while back, most people here seemed to voice the opinion that they would not date or marry someone who had a current porn addiction but would be willing to consider someone who has "kicked the habit."
My question is, what exactly should the definition be of having kicked the addiction? If the person hasn't viewed porn in 6 days, weeks, months, or years, are they over it? Would you want to see some sort of "proof", such as a certificate showing that they had been through some kind of intervention program, or have a mentor?
Where are the guidelines between what you would and would not accept in a relationship regarding this issue?
I tend to be cautious in this area because I have been too open-minded in the past and found myself in very damaging situations.
But, I certainly don't want to slam the door on an earnest, heartfelt Christian guy who is a normal human being that has struggles, just like the rest of us, in many different areas.
What are your thoughts?
I still wrestle with this, and have yet to come to a solid conclusion.