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Here is where folks started getting upset 
If the folks who got upset at seeing a happy person posing with her family, are upset by it, then that is THEIR problem and they need to figure out WHY it upset them.. Just cuz some ppl round here be all like "I hate my life, I wanna die", well ya know what? I WANNA DIE TOO. But I can't and I won't until Jesus takes me. I won't commit suicide and give the devil that satisfaction. Everyone has bad days, that's guaranteed. Life sucks, that's a fact. But pull yourself up and endure through like the rest of us do. God has NOT called us to be weak and pitiful. He has called us to be strong and brave.
Who wants a beautiful creature in front of you who you can't enjoy due to their displeasure? Bummer dude, Not me! Get that six- pac abs and buns -of- steel out of here!
The easy question here is "What is our beauty?" Substance or peripheral -eye candy ? Or perhaps even, how strong can eye-candy be? Surprising to some Women men do see the beauty in the substance, OK, truth be told, we men are simply logical; if a girl isn't happy and or joyful she is hard to be physically attracted to because of her unhappiness or unjoyeousness [which by the way ain't a word, right along with 'ain't' except in slang, but i digress].... So us guys DO LOVE beautiful women unless you ruin it with unhappiness, then it spoils the pot, just like women prefer well maintained men over men who aren't. The difference is we men want credit for the obvious conclusion as if we did something honorable for extra credit. we say we love a joyful person more than a beautiful women but it is only by way of deduction let's get real.. Ask a man if he likes a beautiful woman that is happy over a not- so -beautiful woman that is happy and I prove my point in his answer. But there is the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder concept as well which is another thread topic..
But we tend to merge the topics of joy and happiness together rather randomly. They indeed are close but not the same. I prefer a joyful woman over a happy one. Look at Scripture when God asks us to pick-up our cross and follow him, and says to have joy in it. Or when our enemies attack us to have peace and joy still remaining yet, even love for them, does He say happiness?
Happiness is mentioned 20 times in Scripture, Joy is mentioned 242 times. Happiness is an outward showing of pleasure, sometimes not available in our real trench -work with our Lord. Or in a relationship with a man and woman. But Joy is always a internally uprooted feeling of great pleasure. Is there pleasure in things happiness can't accept as allowable? Yes, for there can be pleasure in pain.
When a woman or man sacrifice for the other they serve 'pain without notice' in love and are so affixed on the need of the other they find joy regardless of themselves but because of the others needs met, their resolved goal. Joy comes from a commitment to pleasure unmoved by outside sources.. Happiness would say, "well ok, as long as...." ... "Otherwise it's not happening!" "This Mr. Happy will cease to function." [Not to be confused with dysfunctions].
Joy is steadfast. So give me a Joyful woman thats ugly?... No!, beautiful in the eyes of both God and in our hearts versus our loins. The pleasure of Joy comes from a place of commitment, and resolve, not circumstances and required criteria, happiness can be like living on melting ice..pretentious at best.
I"ll take happy over unhappy any day. I'll take happy over beautiful, for reasons of common sense and reasonable deduction, I will take a beautiful happy woman over a women who has no physical chemistry with me [who's to say, then, what criteria beauty has as it's rule?], that is happy.
But,I will take a joyful woman over a happy one that is my everything that is gorgeous to me that is full of joy regardless of anything we go thru, or she goes thru... Amen!
The easy question here is "What is our beauty?" Substance or peripheral -eye candy ? Or perhaps even, how strong can eye-candy be? Surprising to some Women men do see the beauty in the substance, OK, truth be told, we men are simply logical; if a girl isn't happy and or joyful she is hard to be physically attracted to because of her unhappiness or unjoyeousness [which by the way ain't a word, right along with 'ain't' except in slang, but i digress].... So us guys DO LOVE beautiful women unless you ruin it with unhappiness, then it spoils the pot, just like women prefer well maintained men over men who aren't. The difference is we men want credit for the obvious conclusion as if we did something honorable for extra credit. we say we love a joyful person more than a beautiful women but it is only by way of deduction let's get real.. Ask a man if he likes a beautiful woman that is happy over a not- so -beautiful woman that is happy and I prove my point in his answer. But there is the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder concept as well which is another thread topic..
But we tend to merge the topics of joy and happiness together rather randomly. They indeed are close but not the same. I prefer a joyful woman over a happy one. Look at Scripture when God asks us to pick-up our cross and follow him, and says to have joy in it. Or when our enemies attack us to have peace and joy still remaining yet, even love for them, does He say happiness?
Happiness is mentioned 20 times in Scripture, Joy is mentioned 242 times. Happiness is an outward showing of pleasure, sometimes not available in our real trench -work with our Lord. Or in a relationship with a man and woman. But Joy is always a internally uprooted feeling of great pleasure. Is there pleasure in things happiness can't accept as allowable? Yes, for there can be pleasure in pain.
When a woman or man sacrifice for the other they serve 'pain without notice' in love and are so affixed on the need of the other they find joy regardless of themselves but because of the others needs met, their resolved goal. Joy comes from a commitment to pleasure unmoved by outside sources.. Happiness would say, "well ok, as long as...." ... "Otherwise it's not happening!" "This Mr. Happy will cease to function." [Not to be confused with dysfunctions].
Joy is steadfast. So give me a Joyful woman thats ugly?... No!, beautiful in the eyes of both God and in our hearts versus our loins. The pleasure of Joy comes from a place of commitment, and resolve, not circumstances and required criteria, happiness can be like living on melting ice..pretentious at best.
I"ll take happy over unhappy any day. I'll take happy over beautiful, for reasons of common sense and reasonable deduction, I will take a beautiful happy woman over a women who has no physical chemistry with me [who's to say, then, what criteria beauty has as it's rule?], that is happy.
But,I will take a joyful woman over a happy one that is my everything that is gorgeous to me that is full of joy regardless of anything we go thru, or she goes thru... Amen!
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