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It's definitely true. I am more drawn to someone who's joyful then someone who is angry at the world. Even though angry people might think they can hide it, it's impossible.
I'm also drawn to confidence. Sure, we all struggle with insecurity but there should still be a confidence. When the insecurity seems to overtake that confidence and it's evident, it can be really hard to be drawn to that simply because you're looking to me to boost your self-esteem. I am not God and I have no power to make you "whole." You're looking to me to fix your brokenness and that's just unfair to me and to you.
I definitely have insecurities, but my hope is also in God, and therefore, that insecurity isn't evident to people. Like I said, we all struggle with insecurities, but we also all handle it differently.
I'm also drawn to confidence. Sure, we all struggle with insecurity but there should still be a confidence. When the insecurity seems to overtake that confidence and it's evident, it can be really hard to be drawn to that simply because you're looking to me to boost your self-esteem. I am not God and I have no power to make you "whole." You're looking to me to fix your brokenness and that's just unfair to me and to you.
I definitely have insecurities, but my hope is also in God, and therefore, that insecurity isn't evident to people. Like I said, we all struggle with insecurities, but we also all handle it differently.
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God doesn't care what we look on the outside. It's the inside. Anger, rage, jealousy... Ain't nobody got time for that. I'm with Katie in that we all have those moments of self doubt, especially if you have a history of people telling you not so nice things. But, that's why turn to God and ask Him to help transform us. You gotta put yourself out there, too, because once you do that, people recognize you. A lot of people think they just say a prayer and boom. At the door is some lady "or a man, for your ladies." It's not how it works. Be nice and kind to others, and you will start to see those same people (most of the time) be the same to you.
I'm probably in the minority, but I don't really have a preference lol. As long as it's not to the point of constantly walking around depressed, I don't mind unhappy. Plenty of unhappy people are still fun to be around, can take a joke, and have great personalities.
And the same goes for happy people with me. I love that. But, if you're like overly ''bubbly'' and happy to the point it's annoying, it's a turn off lol.
And the same goes for happy people with me. I love that. But, if you're like overly ''bubbly'' and happy to the point it's annoying, it's a turn off lol.
I also agree. I think the only thing where I'm "turned off" is when people look to me for their fullness. It has happened in the past several times. They have looked to me to complete them, and that's a pressure I don't want in my life. Because I'm incapable of making someone "whole."
I have met unhappy people who have a great sense of humor and wonderful personalities, and it still draws me to them.
I have met unhappy people who have a great sense of humor and wonderful personalities, and it still draws me to them.
I'm going to look at it from a different angle since Bruce brought up depression... But, for those that do walk around constantly gloomy, you don't know why. They might actually have severe depression. Or, something tragic could be going on each time the person goes home. We don't know, and won't know unless we reach out. That's why I HATE IT when people say "first impressions are everything." That is an absolute lie. Too much crap happens in this life for us to automatically make a valid opinion on someone based on a few minutes. We don't know what the person is like unlike we show Christ like behavior to them, which is why all people- happy and depressed- deserve to be show love and grace and kindness. Do to others as you have done to you, and love your neighbor. Two of the greatest commands of Jesus.
Basically what Melita said. Not everyone unhappy mopes around or re-directs their unhappiness onto others. I know someone who isn't particularly happy at all, yet they joke, laugh, and smile all the time. Running with the depression angle, many have the idea that depressed people never have fun or that they're not fun to be around. Completely untrue. People can still be great to be around even if their truly sad on the inside or in their personal life.
I've always found it heartbreaking that a lot of the most talented comedians in history have a long personal battle with depression and/or bipolar disorder. (W.C. Fields, Jim Carrey, Robin Williams, and countless others.)
They're always the life of the party, everyone calls them when they want to be entertained, and they always know how to deliver the joke.
But that's the thing--people most often want them for their own reasons: "Make ME laugh...", "Make ME feel better...", "Entertain ME." No one ever asks them how they really doing, and most wouldn't listen if that person really told them. Even when that person tries to tell others how they feel, and are being quite serious... Generally... most people will want them to go back to making everyone laugh because they can't handle or don't want to hear anything else except something "fun".
Sometimes, life just isn't funny.
Yup. Ask me how I know...
Happy people are great. But I like knowing what's going on underneath the surface.
I'd rather work through a not-so-happy truth than a polished facade. And once I get to know the real person, and if they're willing to know the real me... Only after that can some decisions be made about whether or not we're good for each other.
They're always the life of the party, everyone calls them when they want to be entertained, and they always know how to deliver the joke.
But that's the thing--people most often want them for their own reasons: "Make ME laugh...", "Make ME feel better...", "Entertain ME." No one ever asks them how they really doing, and most wouldn't listen if that person really told them. Even when that person tries to tell others how they feel, and are being quite serious... Generally... most people will want them to go back to making everyone laugh because they can't handle or don't want to hear anything else except something "fun".
Sometimes, life just isn't funny.
Yup. Ask me how I know...
Happy people are great. But I like knowing what's going on underneath the surface.
I'd rather work through a not-so-happy truth than a polished facade. And once I get to know the real person, and if they're willing to know the real me... Only after that can some decisions be made about whether or not we're good for each other.
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