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Hi Karen, I'm sorry this happened. Hopefully time and distraction will help. And also perhaps, realizing that if he can't forgive you for your past - before he even knew you - then he isn't likely to be very forgiving when you mess up in the future. And we all mess up. Just keep moving forward, walking toward the light, and the more time that goes by the more confident you and everyone else will be that the past is where it belongs. 
S
Hi Karen, I'm sorry this happened. Hopefully time and distraction will help. And also perhaps, realizing that if he can't forgive you for your past - before he even knew you - then he isn't likely to be very forgiving when you mess up in the future. And we all mess up. Just keep moving forward, walking toward the light, and the more time that goes by the more confident you and everyone else will be that the past is where it belongs.
Man... all these engagements... the regulars aren't here that much.
I'll also point out though that some people call things that others have done to them "their past" if Karen did nothing wrong but had someone harm her, then there is literally nothing to forgive.
G
How old are you and your ex?
How dark was your past? I mean not to be rude. Okay.
Some people just don't understand how a person can do certain things. Is there anyone you would not want a relationship with? Suppose you met a guy who was all you were looking for. Well, he tells you of things he's done in the past. You're appalled. Depending on the past act, you may not want a relationship with the person.
How long ago was your dark past?
If your dark past was a year ago, your ex may have felt un comfortable, not able to go further into a relationship with you. If your dark past was say 20 years ago, then that's a different story. Really is.
The beauty of all this is: Your past is past. Stay away from those dark things you did. In time, you will be able to say, "That was 20 years ago."
Not only that, the Lord can and does forgive any and all darkness in our lives.
How dark was your past? I mean not to be rude. Okay.
Some people just don't understand how a person can do certain things. Is there anyone you would not want a relationship with? Suppose you met a guy who was all you were looking for. Well, he tells you of things he's done in the past. You're appalled. Depending on the past act, you may not want a relationship with the person.
How long ago was your dark past?
If your dark past was a year ago, your ex may have felt un comfortable, not able to go further into a relationship with you. If your dark past was say 20 years ago, then that's a different story. Really is.
The beauty of all this is: Your past is past. Stay away from those dark things you did. In time, you will be able to say, "That was 20 years ago."
Not only that, the Lord can and does forgive any and all darkness in our lives.
Hi Karen! I wish you all the best in moving forward and know you're going to meet some great people in the process.
I just wanted to ask a few things...
* How much does your past affect your present? I am certainly NOT saying any of this applies to you, but I've known many, many people with dark pasts and it very much affects their present decisions. (For example, trying to drown memories of abuse with drugs or alcohol.)
* What kinds of lasting effects has your past left on how you handle things? For example, some people are very sensitive to certain issues--you don't ever want to bring them up around that person--or are prone to extreme bursts of anger, etc., due to things that happened to them in your past.
I know it's a terrible feeling to have someone not be able to accept certain parts of our lives, but, just as a suggestion, it could also be a time to work on healing and/or changing present behaviors/tendencies/reactions that might be hurting you or others.
I know that for myself, being single has really made me focus on getting over things from the past and allowing God to help me start processing things in a new way. Maybe this is something you'll find for yourself as well?
Here's to the bright future God has for you!
I just wanted to ask a few things...
* How much does your past affect your present? I am certainly NOT saying any of this applies to you, but I've known many, many people with dark pasts and it very much affects their present decisions. (For example, trying to drown memories of abuse with drugs or alcohol.)
* What kinds of lasting effects has your past left on how you handle things? For example, some people are very sensitive to certain issues--you don't ever want to bring them up around that person--or are prone to extreme bursts of anger, etc., due to things that happened to them in your past.
I know it's a terrible feeling to have someone not be able to accept certain parts of our lives, but, just as a suggestion, it could also be a time to work on healing and/or changing present behaviors/tendencies/reactions that might be hurting you or others.
I know that for myself, being single has really made me focus on getting over things from the past and allowing God to help me start processing things in a new way. Maybe this is something you'll find for yourself as well?
Here's to the bright future God has for you!
N
It's a secular site, not necessarily Christian, but the little I read seems to be just what you might be looking to read. I hope so. Sorry for your loss.
Coping with Grief and Loss: Understanding the Grieving Process
I am not a doctor or counselor, so it's up to you to decide what is best for you. I just felt bad and wanted to try helping.
Coping with Grief and Loss: Understanding the Grieving Process
I am not a doctor or counselor, so it's up to you to decide what is best for you. I just felt bad and wanted to try helping.
K
Hello, thank you, i hope i can moved on right aways, anyways regarding with your question
1. I never do drugs or something just to forget the past, i accept it because from the beginning its my fault.
2. I dnt know, im a little bit sensitive maybe when i hear topics about what happen before
I also have fault about this, i told him my past, and im expecting that he will accept it, i didnt prepaired my self that he might react the other way around
Thank you so much for your advise, I entrust this pain to the Lord..
1. I never do drugs or something just to forget the past, i accept it because from the beginning its my fault.
2. I dnt know, im a little bit sensitive maybe when i hear topics about what happen before
I also have fault about this, i told him my past, and im expecting that he will accept it, i didnt prepaired my self that he might react the other way around
Thank you so much for your advise, I entrust this pain to the Lord..
K
Hi Karen, I'm sorry this happened. Hopefully time and distraction will help. And also perhaps, realizing that if he can't forgive you for your past - before he even knew you - then he isn't likely to be very forgiving when you mess up in the future. And we all mess up. Just keep moving forward, walking toward the light, and the more time that goes by the more confident you and everyone else will be that the past is where it belongs.
I am so sorry that you are hurting!!
You were honest and he couldnt handle it!
Look at it this way: God opens doors and he closes them. Pray for discernment so that you will be able to recognize these things in the future.
God has someone very special lined up for you.
Just keep seeking Christ and line your heart up with his will and he will fulfill the desires of your heart.
You were honest and he couldnt handle it!
Look at it this way: God opens doors and he closes them. Pray for discernment so that you will be able to recognize these things in the future.
God has someone very special lined up for you.
Just keep seeking Christ and line your heart up with his will and he will fulfill the desires of your heart.