Could you date a person TAMER than yourself?

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Lynx

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The recent thread about height discrepancies got me thinking (which is always dangerous for me.) Would it be possible for you to date someone tamer than you?

Someone more adventurous, that would be no problem... as long as it doesn't drag one too far out of the cherished comfort zone.


But what if you're the one who is more adventurous? Would it be a drag being with someone who doesn't want to (whatever, sky diving, bungee jumping, horseback riding, fill in the blank here.) And to what degree would the reluctance have to be before you gave up on the person? Would you call it quits if the person was not excited about stuff but went along anyway, or would you only give up on the relationship if the other person were adamantly refusing to do anything dangerous?
 
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I would prefer someone more tame than myself. I am all ready fairly tame, so I don't think I'd do well with someone that is more wild.
 
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CarolSampaio

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A little bit tamer, no problem... but way tamer... that would be hard... I love going out, trying new things, hiking, spelunking, bungee jumping, horseback riding, scuba diving... I love doing outdoor things... and I hardly back down from something I see as chalenging...

If I really loved the guy it wouldn't keep me from being with him, but it would diminish the fun we could have together...
 

melita916

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i'm usually the tame one, so for him to be tamer, i don't know about that. lol we wouldn't do anything! lol

i'd like for him to be more adventurous because it would then challenge me to try new things :) it would take some encouraging, but knowing he's cheering for me would help me a lot :D
 

maxwel

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Actually, I need a girl who's wild, like me.

Last week I drank this really big cup of coffee... and I didn't even heat it up!


I guess I'm one of those "bad boys".
 
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I'm very laid back and proper. I could not see me dating anyone who wasn't also tha................. Oh, who am I kidding? I never dated a girl who wasn't just as erratically nutty as me.
 

jsr1221

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I have no problem staying in on the weekends and watching the games.. I'm not really a "wild one". I wouldn't have any issue in meeting a girl that was " tamer" or "Wilder." Cause relationships are give and take, and about compromise.
 
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biblicalsandy

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I think it all has to do with yoking...as even when a believer is married to a non believer. If neither person is happy in the relationship, than it is better to part..but if the non believer desires the company, of the believer..than stay together.
 
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Shouryu

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*thinks hard...can't decide which one of us is tamer*
 

tourist

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Actually, I need a girl who's wild, like me.

Last week I drank this really big cup of coffee... and I didn't even heat it up!


I guess I'm one of those "bad boys".
I don't bother to heat my coffee either as it is not worth the bother. I do wash my cup occasionally, usually on the insistence of my wife. She drinks flavored decaf with sweetened Coffee-Mate. Always uses a clean cup.
 
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MollyConnor

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I wouldn't mind someone tamer than I. In fact, I'm such a homebody I don't think I could find someone more tame than I. It would be like a competition haha!
 

kodiak

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The recent thread about height discrepancies got me thinking (which is always dangerous for me.) Would it be possible for you to date someone tamer than you?

Someone more adventurous, that would be no problem... as long as it doesn't drag one too far out of the cherished comfort zone.


But what if you're the one who is more adventurous? Would it be a drag being with someone who doesn't want to (whatever, sky diving, bungee jumping, horseback riding, fill in the blank here.) And to what degree would the reluctance have to be before you gave up on the person? Would you call it quits if the person was not excited about stuff but went along anyway, or would you only give up on the relationship if the other person were adamantly refusing to do anything dangerous?
I am pretty tame...I don't know if you could find anyone tamer....:p
My version of excitement is an exciting game of scrabble or chess or just reading/studying........I would be fine either way.
 

maxwel

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I don't bother to heat my coffee either as it is not worth the bother. I do wash my cup occasionally, usually on the insistence of my wife. She drinks flavored decaf with sweetened Coffee-Mate. Always uses a clean cup.
That's how it all starts.

It's the the little things.

Then pretty soon you're sitting on a bench holding her purse, dreaming of ESPN, while she's shopping for bath soap.
 
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CarolSampaio

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Then pretty soon you're sitting on a bench holding her purse, dreaming of ESPN, while she's shopping for bath soap.
I will never understand the "guy holding the girl's purse" thing...

The shopping bags I understand and appreciate... a big suitcase, ok... but her purse??? It's just weird....
 
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MissCris

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When I was dating...no. I would have equated tame with boring. Luckily, my husband and I have usually been at about the same balance between kinda crazy, on the go type people, and tame, stay home and watch a movie type people for most of our marriage.

Now we're just growing older and more boring together, and I'm ok with that :D
 
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missfairy

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I believe and agree that two people should be equally yoked in the spirituality and many other aspects, but their personality differences should compliment each other as well. Being completely the same will probably never happen realistically :D

I would love to learn new things from my future boyfriend/husband and I would love to have differences that we could both explore about each other and appreciate. I think these differences would be very helpful when studying scripture together and having dynamic conversations about everything. I think I am fairly tame in my day-to-day life, but I also have an adventurous side (wanting to explore the world with my future family) and seek someone adventurous when it comes to planning trips or thinking about plans in the future. I think a mix of adventure and home-life that is tame would be great for me, God willing... and the lifestyle I would desire to have.
 

maxwel

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I will never understand the "guy holding the girl's purse" thing...

The shopping bags I understand and appreciate... a big suitcase, ok... but her purse??? It's just weird....
It's just a sign to keep other women away from us.

"Look at him ladies... sitting there holding my purse while I shop for underwear... look how broken he is...neutered... you don't want this one... just keep walking."
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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Did it once. Nice girl and all. Probably won't be doing that again, though.
 
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CarolSampaio

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It's just a sign to keep other women away from us.

"Look at him ladies... sitting there holding my purse while I shop for underwear... look how broken he is...neutered... you don't want this one... just keep walking."







It's a sign to their friends that we've been fully domesticated.
That's...... just so wrong in so many levels... o_O

I don't have it in me to answer... it would take at least a couple of minutes of me talking in Portuguese to express my feelings towards this... and I talk fast in Portuguese... o_O
 

BruceWayne

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Then pretty soon you're sitting on a bench holding her purse, dreaming of ESPN, while she's shopping for bath soap.
*shudders*

lol it wouldn't bother me as long as we found a middle ground. I mean, I wouldn't want to be with someone who couldn't try anything new or adventurous at all, but as long as they had an open mind and were at least willing to step out of their comfort zone from time to time, that's good enough for me.