One dog goes one way, the other dog goes the other way,

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setapartgirl

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Can i ask some point of views here please??
we're getting there before but i messed it up and then he said this.
What is the meaning when a guy told you this.
"I WANT YOU AGAIN, it's crazy weird how things happen, one minute it's left, next it's right.

And i am confused of this phrase "One dog goes one way, the other dog goes the other way." What does he mean by this?

Thank you!! :)
 
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MissCris

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Um...to be honest, your post is very confusing... Are you saying you were dating someone and then broke up, and now he wants you back?

If I'm understanding this right...I think I'd be careful about letting someone back into my life who uses a phrase like "one minute it's left, the next it's right" just because it seems like his feelings aren't consistent. So one day he feels like he wants to be with you, but what if he feels differently the next day?


Maybe I should just wait for you to give a little more detail...
 
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setapartgirl

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MissCris said:
Um...to be honest, your post is very confusing... Are you saying you were dating someone and then broke up, and now he wants you back?

If I'm understanding this right...I think I'd be careful about letting someone back into my life who uses a phrase like "one minute it's left, the next it's right" just because it seems like his feelings aren't consistent. So one day he feels like he wants to be with you, but what if he feels differently the next day?


Maybe I should just wait for you to give a little more detail...
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Thank yo sis, we are both Christians he told me likes me but always says, Let's wait for the Lord, if He will let us to be together and then, he lacks in actions you know, so i grew tired of Him and date another person, and he knows it, so just became friends, but then i found my self coming back to Him, and then He said those phrases,One dog goes one way, the other dog goes the other way. I have an idea but i am not really sure about it, seems he are still hesistant, right?

And as a Christian i am ashamed of what i did, i did not listen to God, i made my own move.

What do you think sis? THANK YOU
 
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Mitspa

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setapartgirl said:
Can i ask some point of views here please??
we're getting there before but i messed it up and then he said this.
What is the meaning when a guy told you this.
"I WANT YOU AGAIN, it's crazy weird how things happen, one minute it's left, next it's right.

And i am confused of this phrase "One dog goes one way, the other dog goes the other way." What does he mean by this?

Thank you!! :)
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not sure about that saying. But I remember one about not giving what is holy to dogs. Lol. Or not casting pearls before swine.
 
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MissCris

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setapartgirl said:
Thank yo sis, we are both Christians he told me likes me but always says, Let's wait for the Lord, if He will let us to be together and then, he lacks in actions you know, so i grew tired of Him and date another person, and he knows it, so just became friends, but then i found my self coming back to Him, and then He said those phrases,One dog goes one way, the other dog goes the other way. I have an idea but i am not really sure about it, seems he are still hesistant, right?

And as a Christian i am ashamed of what i did, i did not listen to God, i made my own move.

What do you think sis? THANK YOU
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Ohhh...I think I understand now.

It does sound like he's still hesitant, yes. And I don't see why it's a bad thing if you dated someone else when the first guy wasn't ready for dating you...I don't know if it's maybe a cultural difference, but I guess to me, it just doesn't make a lot of sense for anyone to wait around for someone to make a move or express interest. It just seems like that could easily turn into a very long waiting game that may not even ever turn into a relationship...which is kind of unfair for the person being asked to wait.

I don't know that I really have any advice about this...you'll have to decide if he seems serious about being with you or not, and you'll have to decide if being with him is worth the waiting or the confusing metaphors. I'm sorry I'm not more help :/
 
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So, "SAG", are you saying it was actually you, not him, doing the "flip-flop"?
 
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I agree its not fair to show his interest and then ask for you to wait for unidentified time.. and use the word "Lets wait for the Lord" it really... ugh... makes emotion up and down.. Grrrrr grrrr...

How long you know this guy btw??

Oh and about the phrase... idk since i'm not good in english.. I have an idea on my mind but i'm not sure.. so i better keep it myself.. :D hehehehehe
 
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MissCris

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Willie-T said:
So, "SAG", are you saying it was actually you, not him, doing the "flip-flop"?
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Shoot...is that what happened? I'm lost.

Re-reading...
 
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Galahad

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He's saying that if you and he don't get back together, it's not a big deal. It's not something to be very sad about.

In English there are figures of speech.

Here's a figure of speech: "It's raining cats and dogs." What does that mean?

It means that it is raining a lot outside. Lots and lots of water coming down. It is a heavy rain. Lots of it. It is so bad, "It's raining cats and dogs." That's a figure of speech. In English it's called an Idiom.

Your male friend is using an Idiom when he says "One dog goes one way, the other dog goes another way." Your friend is saying, that you and him were together. Then you separated. He is saying: That breaking up, separating is common and is NOT a big deal to him, it is not something he is going to cry about.

By using an idiom, especially the one about dogs, your friend belittled or defined your friendship and the separation as unimportant, insignificant.

He's saying "Our relationship was...no big deal. Our breakup...no big deal. It's as common and simple as two dogs. They are together. Then they leave each other."

You should educate him about being kind and caring about how you feel.

("One dog goes one way, the other dog goes another way." The words "the other dog" mean the two dogs were together. The second dog is not just a dog somewhere else. Had the idiom been written as "another dog" then there would be no indication of a relationship between to the two dogs. Again, the idiom is rude, insulting.)
 
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setapartgirl

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MissCris said:
Ohhh...I think I understand now.

It does sound like he's still hesitant, yes. And I don't see why it's a bad thing if you dated someone else when the first guy wasn't ready for dating you...I don't know if it's maybe a cultural difference, but I guess to me, it just doesn't make a lot of sense for anyone to wait around for someone to make a move or express interest. It just seems like that could easily turn into a very long waiting game that may not even ever turn into a relationship...which is kind of unfair for the person being asked to wait.

I don't know that I really have any advice about this...you'll have to decide if he seems serious about being with you or not, and you'll have to decide if being with him is worth the waiting or the confusing metaphors. I'm sorry I'm not more help :/
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Oh thank you about this sis, ofcourse it's a Big help. THANK YOU
 
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setapartgirl

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Well, because i am confused, i really like him, but then sometimes he is really showy, sometimes cold. So i got tired of waiting and dated other guys and i don't know if he did too.
 
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setapartgirl

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mochi said:
I agree its not fair to show his interest and then ask for you to wait for unidentified time.. and use the word "Lets wait for the Lord" it really... ugh... makes emotion up and down.. Grrrrr grrrr...

How long you know this guy btw??

Oh and about the phrase... idk since i'm not good in english.. I have an idea on my mind but i'm not sure.. so i better keep it myself.. :D hehehehehe
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4 months, i was thinking maybe because He is living in the other city, i mean long distance, his phrase sounds like to as if, his mind and heart were on different direction, was that right?
 
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setapartgirl

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Willie-T said:
So, "SAG", are you saying it was actually you, not him, doing the "flip-flop"?
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Well, because i am confused, i really like him, but then sometimes he is really showy, sometimes cold. So i got tired of waiting and dated other guys and i don't know if he did too.
 
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setapartgirl

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Galahad said:
He's saying that if you and he don't get back together, it's not a big deal. It's not something to be very sad about.

In English there are figures of speech.

Here's a figure of speech: "It's raining cats and dogs." What does that mean?

It means that it is raining a lot outside. Lots and lots of water coming down. It is a heavy rain. Lots of it. It is so bad, "It's raining cats and dogs." That's a figure of speech. In English it's called an Idiom.

Your male friend is using an Idiom when he says "One dog goes one way, the other dog goes another way." Your friend is saying, that you and him were together. Then you separated. He is saying: That breaking up, separating is common and is NOT a big deal to him, it is not something he is going to cry about.

By using an idiom, especially the one about dogs, your friend belittled or defined your friendship and the separation as unimportant, insignificant.

He's saying "Our relationship was...no big deal. Our breakup...no big deal. It's as common and simple as two dogs. They are together. Then they leave each other."

You should educate him about being kind and caring about how you feel.

("One dog goes one way, the other dog goes another way." The words "the other dog" mean the two dogs were together. The second dog is not just a dog somewhere else. Had the idiom been written as "another dog" then there would be no indication of a relationship between to the two dogs. Again, the idiom is rude, insulting.)
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Thank you for that point of view, i tried to look it on the web and its a painting with two dogs facing on different directions, i was thinking it's about his heart and mind, that goes in different directions.
 
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mickig

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People come into our lives as lessons or blessings. If this guy keeps you on a roller coaster then learn the lesson and get off. Waiting for someone only steals time from your life. This guy seems like a thief. Your standards have to become high enough that he has to put in work in order to reunite with you. You can't give in to the emotional roller coaster. The idiom he gave you was the truth. Most manipulators will speak truth through their lies. He is telling you that no matter what goes on he can always come back when he gets ready.. Learn and ask God to guard your heart. Once you do that, you will see things clearly and recognize the deceit before it happens. When you respond in a different way, you will confuse him. Men don't like to be confused. You need time to heal the wounds from the past not just keep putting band-aids on them. Discover who you are and let God take the wheel. Learn how to love from a distance. Time is so precious yet often taken for granted so don't waste it on waiting for someone who isn't ready for you yet. I hope this helps because I went through the same thing. When I stopped waiting, I embraced who I really was and found an inner peace that only God gave me.
 
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setapartgirl

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mickig said:
People come into our lives as lessons or blessings. If this guy keeps you on a roller coaster then learn the lesson and get off. Waiting for someone only steals time from your life. This guy seems like a thief. Your standards have to become high enough that he has to put in work in order to reunite with you. You can't give in to the emotional roller coaster. The idiom he gave you was the truth. Most manipulators will speak truth through their lies. He is telling you that no matter what goes on he can always come back when he gets ready.. Learn and ask God to guard your heart. Once you do that, you will see things clearly and recognize the deceit before it happens. When you respond in a different way, you will confuse him. Men don't like to be confused. You need time to heal the wounds from the past not just keep putting band-aids on them. Discover who you are and let God take the wheel. Learn how to love from a distance. Time is so precious yet often taken for granted so don't waste it on waiting for someone who isn't ready for you yet. I hope this helps because I went through the same thing. When I stopped waiting, I embraced who I really was and found an inner peace that only God gave me.
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Wow..thank you, that's s wonderful advice and helpful, i could not agree more, at this moment he is trying his best to show emotions now, unlike before, we lived in different cities and now, he is asking and doing things to get near to me, and i am tha kful for his effort, so at this moment i will see first his seriousness about this, because he seems so serious about getting close and looking for work to be close to me, i will remember all of your advices incase, i will feel this again, this roller coaster feelings he gave me, thank you very much!! :)
 
zeroturbulence

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The two dogs thing means he can't make up his mind. (One day he wants you, one day he thinks he should just wait)

In my opinion, you should find someone else because he keeps changing his mind.
 
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MollyConnor

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I think it means that he would prefer it if you both went separate ways. Maybe he just needs time alone? Why don't you ask him just to be sure?
We could all give you advice or what we think, but we don't know for a fact and I would hate for you to believe one of us and then for it to be wrong. So go and ask him. :) I hope it goes well.
God bless you, sister!
 
maxwel

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In my opinion, anytime a guy is using an analogy about dogs to describe his girlfriend...

the girl needs to move on.

:)
 
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setapartgirl

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zeroturbulence said:
The two dogs thing means he can't make up his mind. (One day he wants you, one day he thinks he should just wait)

In my opinion, you should find someone else because he keeps changing his mind.
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Yeah you are right, i did something stupid today, i dont know if i did the right thing, i make a fake account, in the website i know him, well he replied to my fake account, ask him what he is doing there, he said looking for a woman in Christ, guess i am just a second option to him. Right??
 
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