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Been there... 
And I guess it is a lot of things...
What worked for me was getting involved in a gazillion activities, I tried to always be surrounded with people (family, friends...) as much as I could... and also making the effort not to seek out your ex... so no social media, no instagram, no facebook, no nothing... forget the guy is on Earth... and give yourself time to heal!!
Eventually it will happen and you will be fine... it took me a couple of years, all I said, and a good deal of therapy, but I made it through!! hehehehehe
And I guess it is a lot of things...What worked for me was getting involved in a gazillion activities, I tried to always be surrounded with people (family, friends...) as much as I could... and also making the effort not to seek out your ex... so no social media, no instagram, no facebook, no nothing... forget the guy is on Earth... and give yourself time to heal!!
Eventually it will happen and you will be fine... it took me a couple of years, all I said, and a good deal of therapy, but I made it through!!
hehehehehe
I've been there. My first serious break-up was so devastating to me that it took me three years to get over it.
Busyness doesn't work for me. If I throw myself into activities just for their own sake, it makes me anxious and stressed out. However, what does work is consciously turning my mind from that person. So, whenever they come to mind, I make a point of praying for them and then turning my thoughts to something else.
I'm also, btw, the queen of "slash and burn." I keep zero emails, numbers, gifts, cards, etc. from the person. And I maintain zero contact with them afterward.
Busyness doesn't work for me. If I throw myself into activities just for their own sake, it makes me anxious and stressed out. However, what does work is consciously turning my mind from that person. So, whenever they come to mind, I make a point of praying for them and then turning my thoughts to something else.
I'm also, btw, the queen of "slash and burn." I keep zero emails, numbers, gifts, cards, etc. from the person. And I maintain zero contact with them afterward.
I'll add to what Carol said, and getting rid of absolutely anything and everything that reminded you of the person helps too. I know my very first relationship, it took a year to get over, part of which was because not only did she live on the floor above me on campus, we shared a class together... And fitting enough, my last semester there, we shared another class. But that second time. It was a lot less awkward, cause I let God heal those wounds. But making sure everything of the person is out of sight and out of mind definitely helps. Doesn't mean the pain goes away just like that, but it does help.
Make yourself busy n not being focus to think about him/her
Dont keep the pain or bitterness i heart
Spending time with family n friends it help you to realize if you hv ppl around you that really love n care about you
Trying to move on well if he/she isnt with you it means thats the best for you n him/her than you both hurt each other if you still together
Be realistic if sometime love not enough n love doesnt mean tobe together with several reasons (i think so)
I pass it all and i move on (not easy but live must go on)
Dont keep the pain or bitterness i heart
Spending time with family n friends it help you to realize if you hv ppl around you that really love n care about you
Trying to move on well if he/she isnt with you it means thats the best for you n him/her than you both hurt each other if you still together
Be realistic if sometime love not enough n love doesnt mean tobe together with several reasons (i think so)
I pass it all and i move on (not easy but live must go on)
Anyone here been through a break-up that you felt months later?
How did you cope
How did you cope
I kept my mind busy. I also spent time with other people. I remember there were times they would text me to hang out, and I didn't want to at all! Lol I just wanted to stay home and mope. Sometimes I declined. But every time I said yes, it was worth it!
Like others said, get rid of everything that reminds of said person. About 3 days after the break up, I boxed up gifts, stuffed animals, pictures, etc. There were some things I still keep like music, books, and movies but they don't cause me to reopen wounds. Hehe
Like others said, get rid of everything that reminds of said person. About 3 days after the break up, I boxed up gifts, stuffed animals, pictures, etc. There were some things I still keep like music, books, and movies but they don't cause me to reopen wounds. Hehe
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Molly, I understand your reservations. But you can help. You can. In fact, your response is helpful to anyone who's going through or hurting from a break up.
Okay. So a person is hurting. The person is not able to focus on other parts of his or her life. Hurting. So in this forum you remind folks to do what ought to be done before anything else is done and what will only make other positive remedies more effective.
And Molly, when you remind others to read and pray and meditate, you are showing you care.
You've never been in a relationship! Uhm, you are in a relationship with the Lord. The Lord will never leave you. You know many things about a relationship than what a lot of folks do.
Somebody raised you. That's a relationship. Maybe not the best, perhaps not the worst. I don't know. But you do know about relationships. And you know what the bible teaches about them.
Use your caring heart and attitude. As you have in this response. They are godly and will always lead others through life in one way or another.
Okay. So a person is hurting. The person is not able to focus on other parts of his or her life. Hurting. So in this forum you remind folks to do what ought to be done before anything else is done and what will only make other positive remedies more effective.
And Molly, when you remind others to read and pray and meditate, you are showing you care.
You've never been in a relationship! Uhm, you are in a relationship with the Lord. The Lord will never leave you. You know many things about a relationship than what a lot of folks do.
Somebody raised you. That's a relationship. Maybe not the best, perhaps not the worst. I don't know. But you do know about relationships. And you know what the bible teaches about them.
Use your caring heart and attitude. As you have in this response. They are godly and will always lead others through life in one way or another.
Yeah, I agree with Galahad. Molly, you did offer good advice. The Word can help us. With anything and everything. It's funny how this is supposed to be our guide for life, yet a lot of people don't seem to use it as often as they should (I admit. I'm one of them). I think that is good advice on your part, sister, cause I have needed God and His Word to help me through bumps in life. And will need to do so in the present and the future.
Anyone here been through a break-up that you felt months later?
How did you cope
How did you cope
How Do You Deal With a Breakup?
1) Be with God, dig into the Word, and be honest in your feelings with Him.
2) Be busy but also have those times to grieve. Even though it's hard to go through that pain of grieving, the outcome is going to be spectacular. If you don't grieve now, 10 years from now you could still have these hurts. Grieving allows a release in you. If you don't grieve now, that release might not happen for quite some time and become harder.
3) Be with people who actually love you. Maybe that's family, friends, spiritual mentors, people from church, school. But surround yourself with people that lift you up.
I stayed busy, but at night time, it was extremely hard for me.
I think during that time, though, God really showed me that it's okay just to cry. But, I didn't want to cry and I didn't want to remember him. I wanted to forget. I remained busy because it was a self-protection thing for me, that I wouldn't remember all our times together.
Through this time, as much as I wanted to just "forget" about this guy by keeping busy, God led me to many quiet times just to cry about the pain I felt because I was trying avoid the pain and the hurt by keeping my life active. It just wasn't healthy. It's good to be busy during these times, but there are moments when you just have to sit down and be sad for a moment and allow God to be comforting in that dark time. It's a grieving process. You need to grieve. It's healthy. You'll eventually moved and I eventually did. But that just happened last week. I found that when I thought about him, I didn't feel sad anymore or hurt. Obviously if you're being sad all the time, not doing your responsibilities and everything else, then it just gets unhealthy very quickly. It's good to have a healthy balance.
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