Relationships (or lack therof) ;)

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Melanie99

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Hey guys! I'm new here to Christian chat. I just wanted anyone's advice on this: I'm really good friends with this guy, and we both find each other really attractive and we'd be very compatible, but we want to wait for God to tell us to start dating. Neither of us are really ready for a serious relationship right now, so we're taking this time to grow and mature. Do you guys think were approaching this correctly? We both really want to date but haven't gotten the "ok" yet :/ :)
 
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ServantStrike

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You talked it out with this person and you both agreed that you were mutually attracted to each other, and you're both Christians?

Unless one or both of you has some major issues to work on, the mutual attraction and the discussion could very well have been your sign from God. He doesn't always resort to the burning bush treatment.
 
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Melanie99

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Yes it was a mutual agreement. The only problem is, neither of us are ready for a serious relationship quite yet. But thank you so much for your input, I never even thought of that! :)
 
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Siberian_Khatru

Guest
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What do you think the "ok" will look like?

I don't think there's a right or wrong in this scenario, but I do find it admirable that you two are focused on bettering yourselves before you get involved to a degree that will probably distract you from that.
 

egeiro

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Hey Melanie99. By your screen name, I can't help but wonder, are you sixteen years old? It is common for people to put their birth year in their screen name, so I thought this might be the case.

Well, if in any case you indeed are sixteen, then I would encourage you in your wait and in your time of prayer. Now being 25 years old and almost 26, I can safely say my character and identity has down leaps and bounds in growth since I was sixteen and I am so much more aware of what it means to love someone and to be loved back. And even in all this time, I'm not completely sure that I am ready for a serious relationship.

But I guess that's me, and you're you, and we're two completely different stories. Well, even if you're not sixteen, what you are doing is completely wise and awesome.

We start relationships with the intent on marriage, because at the end of the day, that's what dating or relationships are aiming towards. The most important decision you'll ever make, is who or what you worship, the second most important decision you ever make is who you marry.

Our God is a wonderful Heavenly Father, and he's been doing the daddy business for a very long time so He knows how to look after us, guide us and give good things to us. He knows the desires and needs of our hearts and He takes great joy in fulfilling these needs. He has the best advice! More than anything else He wants you to take His hand and let Him lead you to right person in the right season, so in saying this, He wants you to depend on His voice and where He calls you to be.

That is just my elaborate way to say I think you're doing the right thing.
 

tourist

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If neither of you are not ready, then yes, you are approaching this correctly. I'm not sure what you are saying when you say that you are waiting for God to tell you to start dating. I don't believe that God is going to actually tell you to start dating. That is your choice. Welcome to CC.
 
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Melanie99

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Thank you guys so much!
 
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Melanie99

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Yes I am 16 :) but thank you so much!
 
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MollyConnor

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I think it's great the way you are approaching the relationship. :) Kudos to both of you for wanting God's guidance.