Was it wrong or right?!?

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setapartgirl

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I posted before about One dog goes another, one goes another way thread.

But here it goes, i meet this guy online, 4 months ago, we became friends, we somehow, became friends with mutual understanding, we have plans of meeting up, plans about life, though i can't say we were together but he said, he wants me and wants to have a future with me, then last night, i don't know what happened to me, but made a fake account, i message him, sent a likes, he replied and a wave, and i messaged him, he seems eager, then i ask him, what he is doing to that christian sites, he said he wants to find a woman of Christ who he can be with, and i was so hurt i said it was me, he was talking, he got angry, really angry, i told him i am sorry, he said i should delete everything about him in his life, and i say sorry a lot of times but he just said, "DO YOU EXPECT ME, TO HOLD MY LIFE FOR YOU" And i said, but we have plans, etc etc. He said, "i never propose to anyone, i never promise to anyone, you should have asked me, if i am still on this site, i am always honest to you, why did you do it." He said and i said to know where i stand with your life, ...he said its better if we forget each other he forced me to erase all his pictures, our conversation and number and told me not to contact him again, I DON'T KNOW If he was angry because i fooled him or he got caught. HE WAS A NICE guy, and i am not sure if what i did was right, i mean yeah it was bad to make a fake account but somehow was it good that i caught him??? Or i was really wrong?!? I know this some kind of crazy but i want to move on, i told him he should not lead me on, he said he didn't!?! I hope i will not regret what i did. Yeah? It hurts.
 
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Personally, I don't like fake accounts BUT it helped you find out that he was lieing. If he wanted you he wouldn't be doing that. I don't think what you did was wrong.
But now you know the truth. I'm sorry this happened to you. Thankfully, now you can more on. Let go of this guy who obviously doesn't care. If he did, he would have just told you. He is most likely mad because you caught him.
I'm sorry hun.
 
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setapartgirl said:
I posted before about One dog goes another, one goes another way thread.

But here it goes, i meet this guy online, 4 months ago, we became friends, we somehow, became friends with mutual understanding, we have plans of meeting up, plans about life, though i can't say we were together but he said, he wants me and wants to have a future with me, then last night, i don't know what happened to me, but made a fake account, i message him, sent a likes, he replied and a wave, and i messaged him, he seems eager, then i ask him, what he is doing to that christian sites, he said he wants to find a woman of Christ who he can be with, and i was so hurt i said it was me, he was talking, he got angry, really angry, i told him i am sorry, he said i should delete everything about him in his life, and i say sorry a lot of times but he just said, "DO YOU EXPECT ME, TO HOLD MY LIFE FOR YOU" And i said, but we have plans, etc etc. He said, "i never propose to anyone, i never promise to anyone, you should have asked me, if i am still on this site, i am always honest to you, why did you do it." He said and i said to know where i stand with your life, ...he said its better if we forget each other he forced me to erase all his pictures, our conversation and number and told me not to contact him again, I DON'T KNOW If he was angry because i fooled him or he got caught. HE WAS A NICE guy, and i am not sure if what i did was right, i mean yeah it was bad to make a fake account but somehow was it good that i caught him??? Or i was really wrong?!? I know this some kind of crazy but i want to move on, i told him he should not lead me on, he said he didn't!?! I hope i will not regret what i did. Yeah? It hurts.
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You did nothing wrong, unless you want to beat yourself up about breaking the website's rules. Don't worry about the website's rules in this case. What's more important is that you found out the truth.
 
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Pres19 said:
Personally, I don't like fake accounts BUT it helped you find out that he was lieing. If he wanted you he wouldn't be doing that. I don't think what you did was wrong.
But now you know the truth. I'm sorry this happened to you. Thankfully, now you can more on. Let go of this guy who obviously doesn't care. If he did, he would have just told you. He is most likely mad because you caught him.
I'm sorry hun.
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Thank you sis, i am so hurt by his word, did i really expect too much from him that's why? He should not lead me on right?!he should not tell me plans and all..then continue looking for someone, i feel like i am his second option, i deserve better than this i know, but it hurts, maybe i did right, atleast i found it out early right?

As a girl sis, would you expect him not to look for another since you have plans for the future even if you are just in mutual understanding stage? Don't i have the right to do that?see my standing on his life?
 
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zeroturbulence said:
You did nothing wrong, unless you want to beat yourself up about breaking the website's rules. Don't worry about the website's rules in this case. What's more important is that you found out the truth.
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Because the way he reacted feels like i was so wrong, he said LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND AND TRUST, feels like i fooled him, he makes me feel like that, i told him trust?!?how could i trust him if he can't give his all to me or i mean no other girls just me, and he said, we were long distance, and what all am i talking about. I don't know who is the bad guy anymore here, me making fake account because i want to know the truth or him because he still looking for someone else when we have already plans toegether.
 
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setapartgirl said:
Thank you sis, i am so hurt by his word, did i really expect too much from him that's why? He should not lead me on right?!he should not tell me plans and all..then continue looking for someone, i feel like i am his second option, i deserve better than this i know, but it hurts, maybe i did right, atleast i found it out early right?

As a girl sis, would you expect him not to look for another since you have plans for the future even if you are just in mutual understanding stage? Don't i have the right to do that?see my standing on his life?
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I understand exactly how you feel. I've been there. (Not on CC) but I had met what I thought was a perfect guy (in my eyes). He was looking for other women at the time we were talking.

It's not right. We put our trust in them because we feel we can. I don't believe you were expecting too much from him. You just wanted honesty and that's not alot to ask for.
Yes, you have the right to know if and when he changes his mind about you.

Online relationships are hard because of this reason.
Next time don't invest too much of yourself to the person. Not until you've met face to face. There are very good men out there that could very well be worth a online relationship. But still I would suggest meeting at least once before getting too attached.
 
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I think you are better off now! At least you can move on with your life. He was obviously not that interested in you if he was looking for other girls. Consider yourself blessed now that you know the truth. :)
 
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MollyConnor said:
I think you are better off now! At least you can move on with your life. He was obviously not that interested in you if he was looking for other girls. Consider yourself blessed now that you know the truth. :)
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Yes sis, you commented also with my one blog, it helps me feel not bad, now that i know, i did not do anything wrong, though making fake account is, but atleast i am in the right path now, and i will know what to do, my problem now is how to move on, you will not believe what he said to me sis, he made me feel like, i was really a bad person, all i want is to know the truth. ??????
 
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setapartgirl said:
I don't know who is the bad guy anymore here, me making fake account because i want to know the truth or him because he still looking for someone else when we have already plans toegether.
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I'm going to be a little blunt.. It may sound rude but i promise i don't mean to be.

So you made a fake account? So what! It doesn't make you the bad one! You had a feeling and you went with it.
Perhaps it was Gods way of saying "Hey! Something is up! Check him out before this goes any further!" You checked it out and he wasn't being truthful. He was hurting you.
He was the one in the wrong. Don't hate him tho. Pray for him and for any other girl he may be doing this to.

Keep your head up! Stay strong! You did nothing wrong other than breaking CC rules.. Just delete the fake account and don't do it again. You'll be okay :)
 
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Pres19 said:
I understand exactly how you feel. I've been there. (Not on CC) but I had met what I thought was a perfect guy (in my eyes). He was looking for other women at the time we were talking.

It's not right. We put our trust in them because we feel we can. I don't believe you were expecting too much from him. You just wanted honesty and that's not alot to ask for.
Yes, you have the right to know if and when he changes his mind about you.

Online relationships are hard because of this reason.
Next time don't invest too much of yourself to the person. Not until you've met face to face. There are very good men out there that could very well be worth a online relationship. But still I would suggest meeting at least once before getting too attached.
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You are right sis, he seems a nice guy, but boys will be boys, i can feel most of what he said was true, except that he keeps looking for another woman, and his phrase DO YOU EXPECT ME TO PUT ON HOLD MY LIFE FOR YOU. Was the worst thing he said, just alone with that phrase is enough reason for me to forget him right?!? And he was like, using God, like Go to God, pray, talk to HIM, because lying is a satan doing!! He made me feel the bad guy! He said i should have ask him, if he stills on that site, because he will tell me the truth! I mean common??! Do i have to ask, was it clearly should be he shouldnt be there and flirt to everyone?! And he consider himself a christian?!?
 
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setapartgirl

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Pres19 said:
I'm going to be a little blunt.. It may sound rude but i promise i don't mean to be.

So you made a fake account? So what! It doesn't make you the bad one! You had a feeling and you went with it.
Perhaps it was Gods way of saying "Hey! Something is up! Check him out before this goes any further!" You checked it out and he wasn't being truthful. He was hurting you.
He was the one in the wrong. Don't hate him tho. Pray for him and for any other girl he may be doing this to.

Keep your head up! Stay strong! You did nothing wrong other than breaking CC rules.. Just delete the fake account and don't do it again. You'll be okay :)
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Thank you sis, i really needed it right now, i close that account already, i just used it for him, its wrong to make a fake account but somehow it serves its purpose right, yeah God must telling me last night, not just my compulsion right?because God wants me to move on before i get deeper. ????????????
 
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setapartgirl said:
Thank you sis, i really needed it right now, i close that account already, i just used it for him, its wrong to make a fake account but somehow it serves its purpose right, yeah God must telling me last night, not just my compulsion right?because God wants me to move on before i get deeper. ������������
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I understand it hurts. But don't let him use God against you. You really didn't do anything wrong hun.
I would take it as God wanted you to know. God wants what's best for you. In time you'll move on and forget about him. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. It's hard but you'll make it. :)
 
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Oh boy.

Honestly, neither one of you have any business getting into a relationship (to the OP).
 
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I can truly understand what you are going through, setapartgirl. I, personally, have gone through a series of painful moments similar to yours over the years with the men I've met online. They promised me a lot of things and some even tell me that they wanted a future with me. Only later to find out that they are merely using me for their personal gain and not even interested about me as a person at all. I got much more hurt and painful at the end of the day.
 
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Pres19 said:
I understand it hurts. But don't let him use God against you. You really didn't do anything wrong hun.
I would take it as God wanted you to know. God wants what's best for you. In time you'll move on and forget about him. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. It's hard but you'll make it. :)
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Yes sis, God is good, i will be fine, someday...and i will tell you soonest...if im already fine...God will not abandoned me. I HAVE GOD, thank u so much, it helps me a lot, make me feel better. I will focus on God now.
 
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JustViv said:
I can truly understand what you are going through, setapartgirl. I, personally, have gone through a series of painful moments similar to yours over the years with the men I've met online. They promised me a lot of things and some even tell me that they wanted a future with me. Only later to find out that they are merely using me for their personal gain and not even interested about me as a person at all. I got much more hurt and painful at the end of the day.
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Yeah but you survived it right?!? So i can right?!?thank you
 
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setapartgirl

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MissCris said:
Oh boy.

Honestly, neither one of you have any business getting into a relationship (to the OP).
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I know mam...i am so wrong investing with that kind of relationship, and will never be again..never will.
 
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JustViv

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setapartgirl said:
Yeah but you survived it right?!? So i can right?!?thank you
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Well, I had to go through the struggle of abandonment and rejection from them after I've found out the truth because they weren't truthful with whatever they've said. I have even once cheated by someone I met online, later to find out that he's a scammer (the 419 scammer type). Almost lost all of my savings to him! Thank God, the bank managed to help me revert the transaction back...
 
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setapartgirl

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JustViv said:
Well, I had to go through the struggle of abandonment and rejection from them after I've found out the truth because they weren't truthful with whatever they've said. I have even once cheated by someone I met online, later to find out that he's a scammer (the 419 scammer type). Almost lost all of my savings to him! Thank God, the bank managed to help me revert the transaction back...
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Sorry about that sis, let's just stop this thing, and get in real world!!! We will be fine!! As for my heart i will let it heal first.
 
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Uh....why am I hearing violins playing in the background when I read this post? Who needs a pity party? It's called "You get what you pay for!" Sorry...to give an honest reply to this post requires a silly answer...and there is just too much silliness in this post that it does not need anymore added.
 
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