Break up

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relientkchick_4

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Because when you're in love with someone you become attached and comfortable. You get blinded by love, you get so caught up with that person you wouldn't want to Image life without them, you open up your heart, soul and life to this person. They become your life, your world, your everything and in a split second the thing you thought that was impossible happens. The relationship breaks down, you lose that thing that you made your life revolve around, your so attached and to let go hurts so much, you feel your heart drop and the pain feels like it physically broke. Your stomach turns and drops and you can feel it. like all the butterflies just died.
 
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Siberian_Khatru

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I take it you just went through a break up(?). Let it all out, relient. It sucks, but it gets better.
 
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relientkchick_4

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yes.. it hurts so much :(
 
melita916

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I'm sorry it happened. Sending you hugs.
 
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Abing

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relientkchick_4 said:
Because when you're in love with someone you become attached and comfortable. You get blinded by love, you get so caught up with that person you wouldn't want to Image life without them, you open up your heart, soul and life to this person. They become your life, your world, your everything and in a split second the thing you thought that was impossible happens. The relationship breaks down, you lose that thing that you made your life revolve around, your so attached and to let go hurts so much, you feel your heart drop and the pain feels like it physically broke. Your stomach turns and drops and you can feel it. like all the butterflies just died.
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I hope you find comfort in this promise (helped me a lot, held it like a lifeline when I went through the same):

He heals the brokenhearted
And binds up their wounds.
Psalm 147:3
 
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Tintin

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I'm sorry to hear it. I've experienced a breakup too and they're awful. Just give yourself time to be honest with yourself, with God, with others. Don't try to hide your pain, but don't let it consume you either. Talk openly with trusted people in your life, but don't slander the other person. You need to honour them, no matter how much it hurts. Keep looking to God. Even though the world looks dark, there is light. Praying for you.
 
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ServantStrike

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I'm not really sure what it feels like to get dumped, but I've done the dumping before.

Usually though, after a few weeks, people figure out that it was a good decision to split. If one party doesn't feel a connection, a relationship is a lot of work without a lot of reward.
 
PoetMary

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relientkchick_4 said:
Because when you're in love with someone you become attached and comfortable. You get blinded by love, you get so caught up with that person you wouldn't want to Image life without them, you open up your heart, soul and life to this person. They become your life, your world, your everything and in a split second the thing you thought that was impossible happens. The relationship breaks down, you lose that thing that you made your life revolve around, your so attached and to let go hurts so much, you feel your heart drop and the pain feels like it physically broke. Your stomach turns and drops and you can feel it. like all the butterflies just died.
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The thing about feelings is that they have a beginning point and an end point....IF we let ourselves experience our feelings.

When my first significant adult relationship ended at age 27, I was devastated. It took me THREE YEARS to recover. THREE YEARS! Ridiculous, right?! Part of the reason it took so long was because I wasn't dealing with my feelings.

When the second one ended at age 33, I decided I was going to be different. Instead of wallowing or denying, I paid attention to my feelings, acknowledged them, and then moved on. I also repainted my dining room and hallway (hahaha). Whenever I thought about him, I would deliberately say a brief prayer and then turn my mind to something else. Compared to my first break-up, it felt remarkably easy. I mean, it wasn't easy in the sense that it was comfortable, but I was allowing myself to feel and those emotions didn't overwhelm me. They just ended. And after a period of time I thought of him less and less...then almost never.
 
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setapartgirl

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Whenever I thought about him, I would deliberately say a brief prayer and then turn my mind to something else. Compared to my first break-up, it felt remarkably easy. I mean, it wasn't easy in the sense that it was comfortable, but I was allowing myself to feel and those emotions didn't overwhelm me. They just ended. And after a period of time I thought of him less and less...then almost never. [/QUOTE]


This...

Allow your self to wallow the pain, but know when to stop, you will experience a roller coaster emotion, sometimes you want to ask why you?you just want to be loved, you give it all, but still not enough, RELIENTCHICK to be honest, at this moment i am hurting too, but always remember EVERYTHING HAPPENS for a reason, you might not understand or get it now (because infact i am like that too now) but all we can do is trust God, he knows best, as long as you give it all, did your best, but nothing happened? Then its time to give it all to GOD, because the truth is, the only Choice we have right now is to Trust GOD! I dont know what comforting words i will tell u because i can't even comfort my self, but message me anytime if you want to vent out. WHAT WILL NOT KILL YOU WILL JUST MAKE YOY STRONGER.
 
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