Can you love someone too much?

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setapartgirl

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Ofcourse we can, God designed us to Love, as long as that love doesn't cause destruction to others especially to your own self.

If you really feel like HE IS THE ONE, i think there's nothing wrong in letting him know, that you are somehow interested in him, i know it's difficult to do, but common, better to do it than to feel miserable, if the feeling is mutual then it is great! If it is unrequited love atleast you know now!so you can move on! Sometimes we are in dillusion of the thought, we ask signs to God then if the signs will agree according to our likeness, we think it's God will, don't worry i used to be like this or maybe i am still now, lol but the most important question now here is HOW HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS?!?

IF THIS FEELING MAKES YOU EMOTIONALLY DRAINED then you need to think twice.
 
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setapartgirl

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Yeah, it stinks to be in that place where you just flat out want reality to be different. But some advice to help you be smart even as you are in the middle of what amounts to a biochemical war on your reason (aka being in love). Character counts; you will most likely have years of regret if you marry a man whose character you cannot admire and respect. "Signs from God" are subjective; Biblical commands are not: don't ever let a "sign" lead you to ignore a biblical command. That is neither wise nor godly. My story briefly would be I knew a guy who was a complete mess with a good heart, there were several things I could have considered signs that I should be with him, we did become very close friends (and it was emotionally stressful for me at times), but now I know that I'm better off if he is never part of my life again.

The other advice I would give you is get a second (and third and fourth and fifth) opinion. If you're feeling in love, don't trust yourself to see or evaluate this guy clearly. Have him meet friends and mentors you trust and ask them for their opinions of him and how the two of you interact. Spend time with his friends and family and watch how they treat each other, that's likely how he will treat his wife. Oh and pay attention to how he treats waitresses, sales clerks, and strangers in general. If he's mean to them, he's not a nice person.

And one last thing, if he's not going anywhere and you're not going anywhere, then you don't need to resolve this right now. That's a hard one for me to swallow since I like to have things resolved and know where they are going, but if God is at work, trust him to do you good and not let you miss out on the good he's planned for you when you're earnestly trying to follow him.

Oh and unless you are officially dating, try to limit your time, especially one on one time, with this guy. It's very natural to feel attached to someone you're spending a lot of time with, but that doesn't mean there are any good reasons to love that person, just that you've gotten very used to having them as part of your life and sharing things with them. That can be a pretty difficult place for a girl to be in.
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I can feel you sis, that's why i put emphasis on those words!
And you gave a nice advice...you nailed it.
 
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ManiaStar

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Mitspa said:
The devil can sound like God especially on the matters of the heart ...attraction to the opposite sex...if this guy is not a real sincere believer...I would almost be sure God is not trying to attach you to him.... Its contrary to His Word.
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Has God ever spoken to you about what may happen to you in the future? I mean, when he told you something, you may not have 100% known that what he said was supposed to be for now or later on in your life but you get what I'm saying though?

So many signs, so many different things that have happened over the past couple of years are pointing towards this for me. Like i said in an earlier post, God has Never steered me wrong before when he's spoken to me, so, why would he start now with something as important as this?

I also had someone, not too long ago, share w/ me that God spoke to them and told them this guy was going to be my husband one day. And when I was told this, I received more peace.

I can't give myself this deep peace. I wish I could because I could use it right now but, sometimes when someone says something whether its about this guy or something totally different, I receive peace if everything is going to work out. Of course I don't always receive the peace. Then I know I just need to try something else out.

I prayed for peace for something last week, I didn't get it, but then another opportunity arose so I went for that instead.

Also, last week, I prayed about something else that was bugging me to death, I couldn't deal w/ it anymore and almost instantly, I received deep peace which relaxed me and guess what? things worked out that day and it was helpful.

I understand Satan can give you peace and what not too but, his peace isn't the same peace that comes from God. It's different. It feels different.

The peace I had 2 1/2 yrs ago came from God because right after it happened, I prayed about it right away. Now, if it wasn't from God, you would think he would've told me, or taken the peace away or done something else to show me that hey, this isn't from me. But, that didn't happen. The deep peace feeling stayed for about 4 1/2 hours that night. I honestly didn't even need it to stay w/ me that long but, hey i love the feeling so I won't complain.
 
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ManiaStar said:
But what if you had clear indication/direction from God stating that this is the person you are going to be with one day? That this person is going to be with you forever?

I had clear indication more then once but, we're not dating right now.

Inwardly, I feel the timing isn't right but also, it just hurts. Actually, I know the timing isn't right but....
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God doesn't want you to be with someone that's not a believer.
 
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setapartgirl said:
Ofcourse we can, God designed us to Love, as long as that love doesn't cause destruction to others especially to your own self.

If you really feel like HE IS THE ONE, i think there's nothing wrong in letting him know, that you are somehow interested in him, i know it's difficult to do, but common, better to do it than to feel miserable, if the feeling is mutual then it is great! If it is unrequited love atleast you know now!so you can move on! Sometimes we are in dillusion of the thought, we ask signs to God then if the signs will agree according to our likeness, we think it's God will, don't worry i used to be like this or maybe i am still now, lol but the most important question now here is HOW HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS?!?

IF THIS FEELING MAKES YOU EMOTIONALLY DRAINED then you need to think twice.
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I don't know if anyone can Truly be sure if the person they like is the one until you see things fall into place.

But, he and I have spoken, we like each other, but, again, I can't go into it, well, I don't want to go into it but, its a complicated situation and I need to just back off for now which is what is emotionally draining me because I feel if I love hi so much, or we love each other so much, then why is the rest of this so difficult? Why is the choice so hard. That I don't understand but, in life, there are mysteries. There are things that come up that we cannot help or change. Somehow, we need to accept it and move on but, there are times in my life like now, I feel like I can't follow that for myself. I feel like giving up instead of pressing forward.
 
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jsr1221 said:
If it's emotionally draining, chances are it's not meant to be.
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i'm emotionally drained bc i'm afraid of losing him, afraid of the choices i made in the past when i could've been w/ him but initially chose not to for because i was scared, i'm drained and afraid of losing him to someone else. Its my fault. I've grown closer to him, and love him more then i ever have before.
 
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Mark 12:30-31 love GOD n loves others not love specific person too much coz it will lead you to false understanding n lost you to the rightious way amen
 
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